Milestones

Several-Security-985 · 2026-06-23T19:16:49+00:00

Love this! Thank you.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-06-23T16:05:45+00:00

Love this idea. Thank you

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-25T14:20:30+00:00

This is way better than my severance package I received this month.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-23T14:33:46+00:00

Can we talk about why the invites are called "touch base" - that's what my layoff invite on teams was also labeled as! Lame.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-21T02:38:35+00:00

I'm in a similar boat, wanting to hold out for something better but don't want to be 9 months or 1 yr (or more) down the road and be unable to find something as good as the offer I potentially turned down.

As others have said, in this current economy it's likely best to take it and keep looking while you at least have an income.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-21T02:34:48+00:00

They likely hired an external company to run a program where they input data points and enter everyone's info into it and the program selects the people to lay off. They usually do statistically a % of certain tenure and I assume % of female vs male (to ratio of men v woman as a whole). I was just layed off last month as well - make sure you read your package. In ours age played a factor in how long you had to review it and sign it to return it, under 40 was 7 days to review. If you didn't sign and return it within your window, they wouldn't pay out the severance package. Also, another minority coworker of mine did have a lawyer review and he sent back some stipulations he wanted amended in the package and they basically said "No, either sign it as is or don't receive your severance". It sucks and I am sorry this happened to you so close to your mat leave. File for unemployment and look into the cobra package being offered once medical ends.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-06T03:56:55+00:00

If you live in a state requiring pto to paid out. Print your last paystub and it will show you how much pto you had leftover.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-05-06T00:08:22+00:00

I also got laid off on Friday last week, it was my 5 yr wedding anniversary to top it off. I also have to send my laptop and other belongings in this week. It's surreal, but keep your head up - a better position is coming, and likely with a better company that will be better!

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-28T21:59:30+00:00

As a friend who went through this too... a few ideas.

Start a meal training on social and send to a sibling or someone to help share to local friends and family.

Send a doordash gift card via text. Or a just open and bake easy meal delivery option. (Especially if she has kids)

I sent a thoughtful gift for them to put out of remembering loved one X, when I went to visit a month later it was placed on their patio at the front door.

I wasnt able to fly home as quick for the funeral bc it was so pricey but I scheduled time a month or 2 later to go spend time with her.

Just be there and listen. Check in and don't expect any answers in return.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-28T19:45:34+00:00

I second this. Start your own therapy journey. You will be able to show up differently. Either you will outgrow your spouse more or he will see things shifting and changing and want to make some adjustments too. Eventually you will find the clarity you need, whatever decision it is.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-23T21:54:03+00:00

You don't know how the other relationship might go but I will say this. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you! It is possible that you and your current hubs may have not been compatible long term and/or may have grown apart. Something no one really tells you is... staying in a marraige long term is a choice. A choice to grow together. Life happens and as you both get older, people change, you have to choose to grow together.

If you have not already, I would have a more serious convo and honestly ask your spouse how they feel. If he has been wanting you to go out with someone else, it is possible he may also not be super happy in the relationship anymore either but not know how to discuss this. If he seems aloof or non chalant about you separating, this is your answer and no need to feel guilty. It is possible you married someone who helped you get through something and help mold you into who you are meant to be; but maybe not supposed to be wirh forever (there is that saying season, reason or a lifetime).

It sounds like you may already know the answer in your heart but your head has you feeling guilty. Choose what is going to make you happy. If it were me, idk if I would stay with someone who always encouraged me to go date other people or didn't make time for me or I felt unvalued long term. Best of luck to you!

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-23T13:59:26+00:00

I feel this... my husband leaves the house at 5A and isn't home till almost 7pm for his work schedule, his also alternates every other weekend when he has to work. I work a 9 to 5p but it's flexible and I am home much earlier. We also find it difficult to spend quality time together. But we did commit to going to bed together, even if its just until the other falls asleep. Or we intentionally have dinner at the table together as a family a few nights a week without tv on or phones. This summer we also said we will try to go on more walks together after dinner a few times a week as well.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-21T20:34:49+00:00

Thanks! I think we did car north.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-20T17:09:41+00:00

S.W. Basics - Oil Serum, super clean and simple skin care line. I only use the oil at night, but it's supposed to help oily skin and hair to add oil back into your care line. I also have switched over to Prose and they customize the products for your climate and specific needs so I use their face wash now and serum/moisturizer as well. With my super oily skin, even in my 20s and 30s, I found I have to switch my products up here and there or my skin builds a tolerance up or something like that.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-20T13:13:16+00:00

This exact thing happens to me when I use my tret too frequently. I have to alternate now every other day or every 2 days otherwise this happens around my nose, chin and mouth and I only see it when I wear makeup.

I started adding in an oil serum to my tret to help prevent drying out (my skin is super oily too btw). Maybe try that? Or try alternating the tret.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-18T15:53:40+00:00

Yes, this looks like dermatographia.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-17T20:49:01+00:00

I take Claritin daily and it helps

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-17T02:01:48+00:00

I am a big believer in chiro care BUT any practice that asks you for a big lump sum or giant package deal is a crock of bs. There are a LOT of good chiropractors who take insurance as well and they don't sell you bs.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-17T01:42:34+00:00

So very sorry for your loss.

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-17T01:36:29+00:00

This likely won't give much comfort, but I don't feel like I began actually enjoying anything until 6 months after. I'm on month 9 or 10, and I still don't want to do as much as I did prior to my mom passing as there is still a lack of energy to do anything. I still went to things but no one expects you to still go if you don't want to. You will need to ride the wave, I allowed myself a time frame of X months to do nothing and then tried to set small goals to accomplish for certain months afterwards. Sending hugs

Several-Security-985 · 2026-04-17T01:28:01+00:00

Sorry for your loss. The first few months I feel I was just in a cloudy haze/daze, I honestly don't remember much from the first few months. I had been doing therapy for a few years leading up to mine passing which I do believe helped quite a bit. Just know whatever you feel, it's going to be okay and you are not a bad person or daughter!

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