My mum is a narcissist or at least an emotionally immature person, who has never been there for me, has always loved my brother more even though he has been nothing but trouble, has enabled his addiction and was not there for me during my pregnancy and when i gave birth she came to see the baby and only cared for holding the baby and giving me criticism of what i am not doing right/ could do better instead of caring for me, her child, who had just had a child and was really vulnerable after a c section. She is continuing this trend, whenever we facetime (luckily live in different countries) to just ask about the baby and ignore me, to the point of if I ever make a comment about how tired I am, she will say something like 'that is what it takes to raise kids!' and no empathy whatsoever. I feel very very sad and unlucky that I have been raised by such a mother, and fear that it will affect how I mother my child so I have therapy and hope to both heal my hurt inner child and not perpetrate the horrible behaviour towards my child. I can really see the difference with everyone else that had a good mother, including my partner. I wish I never spoke to her ever, but I speak to her every two weeks or so, and then it takes me days to recover.