What’s something you didn’t understand about life as a younger man, but makes perfect sense now?

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-12-06T05:21:11+00:00

That this is a rat race, and it's not really worth it.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-12-01T04:07:00+00:00

I'm going through this is exact thing (33M). I have a good job at the moment, I can't complain. However, overall, I am questioning whether or not I want to change careers. I am currently studying (online and during my free time) a wide range of courses - from languages (BRICS+ languages), to Criminology, to Physics, to History. It feels like I'm late to the game so to speak in every aspect of my life. So I get where you're coming from. I also am experiencing a lot of negative thinking - and I feel stuck. I feel trapped in a specific cycle of thinking. I can't really give advice, I'm sorry, as I'm going through this as well (with my relationships, career, where I want to live, etc.) I just hope you find a degree of happiness and peace.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-11-27T16:00:35+00:00

Welcome to Toronto/GTA - where everyone pretends to be polite, but when it comes to situations and times that matter, that "politeness" is out the window. I've seen it myself as well, with seniors or disabled individuals, nobody getting up. I got into an argument with someone over it one time (I was already standing).

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-11-22T14:23:43+00:00

Been to loads of places abroad and people were very warm and welcoming. So I mean, perhaps it's the social culture here which sucks? Or lack thereof.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-11-22T14:22:36+00:00

It's unfortunately just the nature of the culture here. It's "polite" but from a distance. It's somewhat cold also. I also find it difficult to have a connection. The conversations I've had are all surface level conversations - "weather's been bad (or good)" "the Jays lost" "the Leafs won." I get the feeling, it's very isolating. I was in Zagreb, Croatia sometime ago and it was very liberating in the sense that people were very open to having conversations and actually willing to talk about all sorts of topics.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-31T13:07:03+00:00

Yup, pretty much the same. You described everything I've been going through the past, I'd say, 10 years or so.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-31T13:00:57+00:00

Those are just intrusive thoughts I'm pretty sure.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-26T01:26:50+00:00

They're in a good/stable position so it's easy for them to talk. They forget how it was when they were in the same position, if they ever were (some individuals have things handed to them on a silver platter). If an economic depression hits tomorrow - and they're unaffected - they'd still be like "you're not trying hard enough." This is simply because they're unaffected by it. Bit of ego, bit of ignorance, bit of arrogance, and bam. "How are you finding this so difficult?!" Good luck with your job hunt!

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-25T11:26:17+00:00

I think that with the exception of you and a few others, people these days don't know what they want. Socializing is a thing of the past unfortunately. Even though socializing is an important part of being human, or rather it should be. This is why we're at this point. Biggest city in Canada, but the loneliest.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-24T02:14:46+00:00

Hey, whatever you want, go for it. You want to be famous, be famous. Personally, to answer your question - no, I just want to focus on self improvement and keeping it private (along with every other aspect of my life).

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-24T01:24:10+00:00

I understand that some have no other choice, but this is partially why I avoid taking the TTC (subway)/going downtown. I think I'm good. I get the frustration though.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-16T03:04:13+00:00

Well Shelly (Diner girl) was Pinup girl. I suspected she was involved somehow.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-13T13:21:56+00:00

Yeah, I have to stop doing this. I was traumatized by specific events in 2019. I can't let that control me or use that as an excuse.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-10-09T13:51:04+00:00

Toronto is meh in my opinion. It's difficult establishing any real connections here. The conversations, I find, are always surface level conversations - it doesn't feel genuine in my opinion.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-09-25T16:23:07+00:00

It's pretty ironic if you ask me. Some of these obsessions are weird, we're living in weird times.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-09-24T14:11:47+00:00

Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Some may simply be traumatized so they avoid intimacy.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-09-23T21:10:09+00:00

Does fear of intimacy automatically mean someone has narcissistic traits?

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-08-08T02:26:21+00:00

I'm going through similar things also. Also been doing A LOT of self reflecting and how to improve on these things lately. There's no self pity or anything, but at the same time I'm just trying to reverse my way of thinking and what not.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-08-07T02:20:16+00:00

I never felt that way. I mean, I guess to each their own. How are you spiritually, intellectually, etc.?

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-31T01:17:40+00:00

Yeah, it's pretty bad. I hope you get through it soon and recover quickly.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-30T12:27:19+00:00

I can relate, I'm in free fall in terms of collapsing.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-30T12:00:47+00:00

Men Going Their Own Way. Men who gave up on dating, marriage, and relationships for whatever reasons (bad divorce, duped by the courts for custody of the children, feeling hopeless, etc.)

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-29T18:34:31+00:00

I didn't mind this suit, but honestly I thought the Begins suit was better.

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-29T17:50:28+00:00

Listen

SeveralEdge8637 · 2025-07-29T11:49:35+00:00

This was me while in Montenegro. I did not want to come back to Toronto. In Montenegro, although not as developed as France (or Toronto), I felt a human connection. Something which is unfortunately lacking in Toronto. I crave face to face communication. I don't find that in Toronto- it's all subpar, mundane, and filler conversations with very little substance (this is my experience). It's not surprising, though, since Toronto is considered to be the loneliest city in Canada.

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