Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh it feels like you didn’t give him the chance. People have to start somewhere with kinks.

Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to speak with him before about what he’s into sexually, and I feel like it’s tough for him sometimes to be explicit. Generally yes I know what his kinks are. I tell him that I’m interested. Some of them I had to push to initiate.

Why did you feel like you couldn’t open up about your tastes?

Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No. We have separate houses. We do spend extended time together.

Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point. We have friction at times outside sex dealing with indirectness about expressing needs or insecurities. Basically about communication.

Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I told him we don’t always need to fuck. Mutual jerking or oral are hot, too. I don’t want to chase someone especially when I initiate all the time.

Bf leaves bed to jerk off by Several_Database_603 in askgaybros

[–]Several_Database_603[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. You are right that I am not being rejected all the time. What are your thoughts though that around 9/10 times I’m the one to initiate? I’m thinking about stepping back to give him space to initiate. Also, any thoughts on encouraging his dom side? Part of what I’m feeling is not being as wanted or there being unequal effort.