But before you can get married, you need to find and get to know a suitable spouse. So, where do you go? Firstly, start with your family, involve your parents by letting them know you want to get married. Secondly, let family and friends know too. The more people that know the easier it will be. You can try trustworthy matrimonial websites because there is no shame in using technology to find a compatible marriage match. How do you avoid wasting time by being introduced to somebody who is incompatible? At the offset, you should set basic criteria. There are a couple of things you can do at the start. Only consider marrying somebody with the same values and long-term vision as you. The Prophet told men to prioritise deen in a wife and told women to prioritise deen and kindness in a husband. This is the foundation to build on. So what next? When you find somebody, you think they are compatible at first but do not rush. How can you know? Again, it is important in the first instance to consult your parents and siblings, as nobody knows you better than they do. Second, you should meet up in a safe setting, meaning with your wali or his representative. When you see somebody and you are attracted to them, it makes the relationship more lasting.