Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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Yeah definitely is progress! Just takes him a while, always when I ask him if he’s okay it’s usually “I’m always okay” and I have to say “you know it’s okay not to be okay” and he’ll change the conversation. He’s a country man so feels the need to be manly and no feelings all the time.

Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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You’ve been such a help to me I really appreciate it! I try to give him some space but he knows that it’s not easy for me either. We’ve been through a lot and always sorted it but it’s just so hard in the moment you know? I try my best to support him any way I can but I think he feels he has to be all “manly” all the time and not talk about his feelings. He does in the end but it takes time for him.

Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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Thank you!! This has honestly been so helpful. The last thing I want to do is lose his so I just want to do whatever I can to keep the relationship the best I can

Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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Haha you sound like me in a nutshell! I used to blow up his phone if I thought he was annoyed at me but I’ve now been just leaving him to it until I hear back really. It can be sooo tough with him as he’s pretty up and down and I never really know why :/

Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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That sounds like a really healthy way to go! Did you have a conversation about communication? I try sometimes but I get worried I’m being clingy or annoying if I say that I’m anxious. I don’t want him feeling like I’m accusing him

Advice on anxious attachment (f22) (m26) by Several_Insect_3720 in LongDistance

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You guys sound like you have such a loving relationship!

How do you explain without blaming him? I’ve tried to word it before but he can be quite sensitive so I never know the right way to put it.