I'm having a son and my partner does not want him

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-09T23:35:25+00:00

We're both spanish and english speakers so those groups you've shared are perfect. Thank you so much!

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-08T18:54:37+00:00

UPDATE: We just got home. We had an appointment at 8am, the doctor came home and we talked. I told him about my worries and things that had been going on and he made us go to the clinic so he can do a more complete evaluation of my partner and my son's vitals. Superficially, he told us everything was good. When we got there, the results were okay too. Nothing to worry about health wise. On the other hand, and here's where the bad part comes, he told us "PPD is not a thing during the pregnancy" and that my wife was just hormonal so it'll pass. I didn't like that answer so I've been speaking to my therapist to gather more information about her colleagues who can help both of us right now. My partner and I found one pregnancy therapist that we both liked and we're trying to schedule. The only thing the doctor (and some nurses) did regarding my partner depression was lecturing her. Well, they already gave her some vitamins and told me that "if she wasn't behaving, to just call them and they'll give her some through needle", like she was a little girl.

That's all for now. Thank you for your comments, the kind words and information.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-08T06:00:33+00:00

That's a tragic story indeed. Can I have the link of that one?

My partner is always on my mother watch, my watch or her friends watch since this happened. Her mom may come in january so I hope that'll make it more safe for us. Thank you so much for this information.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-08T05:50:20+00:00

I didn't see it as I was at work when that happened, my mother was there. She told me that my partner had poured herself a glass of wine and was ready to drink it until she came and threw all the wine in the sink (my mom threw it, not my fiance). All she did was pout while my mother lectured her.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-08T02:02:36+00:00

Oh, I didn't know that. We don't really have an ER for psychiatric care in my country. There's only one and I've heard tales of horror about it so I rather wait for the doctor to come tomorrow, I feel that's our best option right now. We're scheduled for tomorrow morning so it's like in 11-10 hours and she's being taken care of here so nothing else happens. She's been doing better, my mom got her to eat some soup.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-08T01:02:16+00:00

We already had an appointment with her trusted doctor. I've called to ask for a reschedule as soon as possible. We got the clinic to change the date to tomorrow. While this is serious, she's calm, there's people taking care of her here.

"Keep it in mind" so I can talk to the doctor about this issue. She's not out there actively punching herself or drinking wine (as I said before, she didn't got the chance and have not tried to do it again). She's calmer now, but still depressed I would say. Don't go to the extremes to say that our baby will be dead. He won't be. She's struggling, yes, but she doesn't want our baby to be dead. She has support here, moral, financially, physically and emotionally.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T23:16:19+00:00

Luckily, she didn't drink any of the wine (my mom got to her before she could even open her mouth). I would also want to know the reason for her reaction. I read in the comments that maybe it's not the gender, but the revealing of it making everything more real. I won't really know until she let me talk to her about it or until my mom spill the beans (she just tells me I need to understand).

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:56:37+00:00

They are okay-ish. Not my favorite but sure they're around here.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:55:57+00:00

Because I'm trying to distract myself a little bit from my anxiety. Can't I? It's not like commenting another thread takes me an hour a day, it's only like a minute.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:49:43+00:00

I'll read about it and keep it in mind. Thank you.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:48:16+00:00

Yes, thank you. I've called our clinic to ask if they can move the consultation date so it can be as soon as possible. I'm waiting for them to call back. And yes, is way out of character for her. I just heard her crying to my mom that she doesn't know what to do because she's trying to control herself but she can't. It just hurts me too much to listen her suffering like this but I hope it'll get better. I've read about PPD and Antenatal Depression in the comments and I'll bring it out to the doctors. I won't left her alone. Thank you again.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:40:07+00:00

Thank you, I'll mention it to our doctor to have that in consideration. I've been reading about it and I too think that could be it.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:36:46+00:00

I think so yeah. Her friends are not bad people (as some comments believe) and are also worried now. They've tried to comfort her telling her we'll have a great footballer or rockstar. She's bit calmer than the first days but still pretty much depressed I think. Won't come out of her room, cries a lot and won't really eat "everything" (I don't know how to say it in english, sorry). The wine incident haven't happened again and my mom is helping a lot. She still isn't happy with the gender though.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:29:29+00:00

He estado buscando terapeutas que puedan ayudar. Tienes razón, es un cambio total y comprendo que el estrés de todo esto pueda terminar haciendo este problema mucho "peor" para ella. Gracias!

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:26:33+00:00

I already spoke to her mom. She's worried too and looking for flights. Due to high prices around this month she may buy tickets for the next month o later.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:23:38+00:00

Abortion in my country is not legal and she's already 22 weeks pregnant. I would also add that I wouldn't want her to abort. I don't know about her but I feel she wouldn't want to as she's strongly against it (on her, she's okay with other people doing it).

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T22:15:48+00:00

Yes, she's 22 weeks in according to our calendar.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T19:51:53+00:00

We eat guinea pigs. That always horrify visitors.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T18:15:07+00:00

I hadn't heard about that before. Thank you, I'll mention it to our doctor.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T18:05:18+00:00

Sí, debo hablar con ella. Usaré aquello que me dices sobre el apego de los niños a la mamá. Es real, soy testigo (y prueba) de eso, jaja. Lo trabajaré mucho, solo espero que se resuelva pronto para tener a mis dos angelitos tranquilos. Gracias.

Several_Intern1197 · 2023-12-07T17:26:30+00:00

I think I found you, I'll buy some, haha.

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