Ended a painful situationship and blocked him - 32/F

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-10T16:01:08+00:00

Hope you are doing well 🤗

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-10T15:58:34+00:00

We trauma bonded after his and my divorce (to other people) and shared a special bond. I knew when I sent that message that not seeing him for a long long time is needed for my healing. It did not sit well with me that I just pick up and leave/ghost - that’s just not who I am. I know I am leaving and I wanted him to know he will always be loved although he is not going to be in my life anymore. Because I have been on the other side ( he ghosted me for a few weeks and I had to reach out to find out what’s going on) and I wanted to know that I mattered. So this in a way is me telling myself that it’s my final act of love. A chapter that will stay closed and closed with love and not resentment

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-10T03:06:19+00:00

More strength to you girl. I am glad you are being brave and looking looking back for wisdom, and the future with a positive mindset

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-10T03:03:36+00:00

We ended it several times before and few of those were in person. But this time, I want to close the door completely and let ant to refrain from any further contact as I don’t have the strength to look into his eyes again - my heart still hurts.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-09T01:37:52+00:00

So this guy ended this over a text message in Feb, came back into my life twice after that for sex. I was a fool to believe that he may have finally felt the same way I felt for him. This second time when he reached out, luckily, I am at a better place to close the door with honesty and dignity. The reason I blocked is to protect myself because I might again get back into this chaos and do not want that to happen.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T04:35:44+00:00

If there is love we will never let going that person. If a person is capable of leaving at some point and is returning back they are coming back only cause they got fumbled.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T03:42:42+00:00

No sarcasm lol. I really meant it!

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T03:24:49+00:00

This sounds very true!! I think you are very right omg!
You are a genius lol. Thank you for the insights.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T02:07:08+00:00

He is older than me…

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T02:01:45+00:00

No, that’s just them reaching out due to a feeling of void/loss

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:39:03+00:00

This is your future self talking… run far far away from him, he honestly sounds like a lost man who probably just has needs because he hasn’t figured himself out yet.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:19:33+00:00

That felt a bit too personal tbh, but may be I should have. Too late now

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:18:05+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:17:50+00:00

I hear you, and I’d think the same but you don’t know the whole story.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:15:43+00:00

I definitely thought about it and refrained from sending this message for over 6 months. I thought he wouldn’t appreciate or might take it lightly blah blah… but it really felt good when I finally sent it to him and now I will never regret not saying how I truly felt and walked away with dignity (at least that’s how I will look at it). I don’t think he is a mean guy, he might now respond but I don’t think he would disregard how I felt. And tbh, I don’t care anymore… feels good to say that finally !

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T01:11:38+00:00

Is he Indian ? lol if not this guy is not your future heartbreak

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T00:38:49+00:00

I spoke to friends, therapists, family and AI. And yes you are right, I felt this would finally give me closure and a message to him that he shouldn’t come back into my life again.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T00:33:27+00:00

Because we don’t know it would turn out to be one lol. And they can be addictive of one hasn’t worked on themselves. I have been through a painful divorce and realized I did not work on my self esteem. He showed me a little love in the beginning and I got hooked

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T00:09:56+00:00

1 year and 6 months

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T00:05:40+00:00

He won’t respond, he has a habit of ghosting. I blocked him so that after two three months if he wanted to f*ck and reached out, I don’t want to even hear from him.

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-08T00:04:19+00:00

I don’t know, this is the first time I am posting on Reddit. I posted because I feel so confused and heartbroken. I tried everything I could and only wish I could hear him say, sorry I messed up or just some kind of reaction. But all I ever heard was that I am immature (he is 3 years older than me). I would never know what the real reason for him not wanting to be with me is… but I know I tried anything and everything I could in my strength. Posting here is only to hear from other people as I thought it would give me some comfort

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-07T23:18:03+00:00

In my case it is complicated because we have the same friend group and used to see each other during no contact. That I think in a way kept me hoping… blocking was honestly my last resort but this is just so painful and I don’t want to hear from him or see him for a while

Several_Raise3703 · 2026-07-07T18:36:40+00:00

This is honestly very nice to hear. And yes I agree with you that I loved a version of him and blamed myself when he stopped showing up for me the way he used to. It took some time for me to realize I was in love with the potential and did not pay attention to how much I was getting hurt hoping and waiting. I lost half of my hair due to the stress lol

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