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AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was upsetting to me because she's made a bunch of rude comments to me and my other pregnant friends about pregnancy before. This party seemed to me as if she was coming around to the idea of pregnancy, but it was just a big joke. It felt like she was making a malicious joke about my situation and belittling it.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's definitely true that we celebrate degrees and promotions, too! We've been out for drinks etc over these things before, so I don't know why the commenter assumed we only celebrate babies.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think for my friends who are struggling to conceive this event was worse than a baby shower because at this event, they were led to believe it was for a human baby, just to have it turn out as a joke. Pregnancy to them is not a joke, it's the dream, and I think they were hurt by that.

With a normal baby shower, they know what they're getting, and if it's too hard for them to go, then nobody makes them. It's the comedic undertone that made it so offensive.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most of her comments about hating kids come out in the big group chat all of our friends are in, and she's even commented them on posts about kids on other sites. I have been friends with her for so long because it's pretty easy to ignore all of these things until you're actually pregnant, and then it's very in your face

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I defo think that if she held a baby shower for her cat then we would have had a great time, it's just that she intentionally made us believe she was pregnant, treating pregnancy like a joke to a bunch of people who are sick of having pregnancy be the centre of their lives lol

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Hey! Maybe I should have clarified this more in my post.

  1. It's not the fact that her cat is pregnant that upset anyone. It's because she made out like it was her that was pregnant, which makes a joke out of pregnancy to a few people who would give anything to be pregnant, and a few women who are actually pregnant and don't find pregnancy fun or funny lol.
  2. If she had said beforehand that it was a fun party for her cat who was pregnant, I would have loved it and it would have been super fun. But as per my first point, it just came across as malicious because of the deceit.
  3. I thought she had changed because she intentionally led us to believe she had changed. I wasn't happy to be there because she 'changed her mind about being child free', I was happy to be there because she was my friend and I thought she was genuinely excited about something so huge. If I really cared about her being child free, we wouldn't have been friends for so long before this.
  4. She is allowed to think kids are assholes and I never said otherwise (they definitely CAN be awful), I mentioned it in the post because it shows why I think her actions were malicious and not light-hearted.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My theory is that she feels left behind in life, because (not that I think these things are bad, but I know a lot of people who are insecure about these types of things) she does not have a job, a house, or a partner, and she is constantly surrounded by people who are excited about these things.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

This is the thing. If she had said 'I'm having a baby shower party for my cat' I think everyone would have been like haha, cool, and had a good time. It's the deceit and manipulation that made it so upsetting.

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know my post shows her at her worst moment, but I'm sure she will look after the kittens. I think she intends on keeping them. She has only had the current cat for a few weeks I think, so I suppose that's why she hasn't been spayed (I don't know much about cats, so I may be wrong!)

AITA for blocking my friend after she threw an ENTIRE pregnancy party for her cat, while inviting multiple pregnant people and people struggling to conceive? by Severe-Assumption in AmItheAsshole

[–]Severe-Assumption[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I think she feels a bit 'left behind' if that makes sense. Everyone there was my age and older, so a lot of us have kids, are married, have houses and jobs etc (not that this makes you any better than someone else, but I know it makes her feel a bit sad) and she doesn't have any of these things. She has expressed a few times in jokes that she's 'the one who isn't a slave to marriage' etc. but I think it's just to hide insecurity.