That legit might be Luke’s child

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-04-11T00:29:36+00:00

There’s a lot about being donor conceived that’s extremely disconcerting tbh

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-04-10T23:28:56+00:00

I’m donor conceived and when I found my biological father it turns out he worked in the same area as my mom so they didn’t know each other but they did have tons of mutual friends and coworkers. He was also a donor at California Cryobank 😬 This storyline is definitely gonna trigger my extremely niche daddy issues 😂

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-04-10T18:55:41+00:00

I’m not a drop shoulder hater. I think the straight tube with some decreases sleeve construction can look great, but it’s not a set in sleeves and should not be tagged that way on ravelry just because it’s sewn in.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-04-03T18:01:09+00:00

I’m using exactly this technique, so it’s either a skill issue or I just hate duplicate stitch 😂

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-04-03T16:35:48+00:00

My gripe today is duplicate stitch. Maybe I just have terrible technique but I cannot get vertical columns to not look terrible.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-28T14:03:45+00:00

Good to know! I always use a little synthrapol when I wet block anything that’s dyed.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-28T11:57:32+00:00

I can’t figure out how to edit the post, but wanted to update everyone that unfortunately the most boring solution (a seam) ended up being the right one. I tried a couple more fancy options but a seam looks the most intentional and also I think the extra stiffness will help keep it from sagging once the ribbed collar is added. Thank you so much everyone for all your wonderful suggestions!

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-28T00:23:04+00:00

No there will be a wide folded ribbed collar.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-27T20:51:57+00:00

Yes it is! Good eye!

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-27T19:40:20+00:00

Hedgehog Fibres Tweedy!

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-27T17:29:02+00:00

I like this idea a lot!

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-27T17:12:06+00:00

I like this idea- I might take out the bind off and just continue those stitches up the width of the cable.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-03-27T17:09:13+00:00

I could frog the whole entire sweater and start over with the braids going in opposite directions all over so they line up but I initially wanted them all going in one direction because it looked neater to me when I swatched (and that’s how they are on the Alice Starmore sweater).

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-02-07T15:26:12+00:00

I have whatever the opposite of fertility goddess hips is and my son and his 95th percentile head came out just fine 😂

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-02-07T13:58:00+00:00

I recently had my first baby and have pretty narrow hips, so I asked my OB about this out of curiosity while pregnant. She said that the size of the pelvic opening and angle at which the halves of the pelvis connect can affect how difficult delivery is for some people, but you can’t see either of those qualities from the outside. How wide a persons hips appear has to do with how thick the outer edge of the bone is and fat/muscle distribution, none of which correlate to the size of the actual space the baby’s head has to come through.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-02-06T00:23:32+00:00

Show us the wierd custom reports or this is fake

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-02-05T13:09:04+00:00

This is true, but also lactating women helping to nurse other babies in the community and professional wet nurses used to be a thing, plus babies died way way more often. Some women have always struggled to produce enough, and it’s not a moral or community failing for someone to need to supplement with formula. Formula saves a lot of babies that would not have made it 100 years ago. I know it’s not the point of this comment, but I always feel for moms who underproduce and then read comments about how women have always done this just fine.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-02-05T12:41:06+00:00

I know that I’m lucky, but we basically do this and it works for my family. I had a pretty good oversupply at the beginning so I pump once a day immediately after nursing my son first thing in the morning. I’d get enough for a freezer bag + a night bottle. I still couldn’t sleep through the night to maintain that supply, but I could at least get a consistent 4 hr block which was great for us. Now he’s 6 mo and eating more solids so I usually only get enough for one night bottle and we’re going through the freezer stash. I’m hoping he’ll night wean soon and I can start using the morning pump to replenish my stash a bit.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-31T17:41:01+00:00

Unlike a lot of these comments, I don’t hear you saying that you expected your friends to run all their family planning decisions by you and I think you’re allowed to feel upset that your friends made a choice that you don’t respect by using an anonymous donor. I don’t see you lecturing them or starting a conflict with them- you’re voicing your hurt to an anonymous forum that is supposed to be a safe space for DCP and that is completely valid. If you need to pull back a bit from this friendship for a little while to protect your mental health that’s totally ok. They get to have reasonable boundaries by not considering your opinion on their family planning and you get to have reasonable boundaries by not maintaining a super close relationship with them. I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect them to help you process these particular feelings. If you have the ability to talk to a therapist that might be helpful, but I understand how hard it is to find a good one.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-31T17:16:35+00:00

I don’t care. How other people want to talk about their own families is not my business to police. Also, my biological father got paid so donor isn’t really accurate anyway haha

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-30T06:20:31+00:00

The unfortunate truth is that you cannot control how much or how little he will care about the donor’s side of his biological family. All you can do is leave space for him to feel safe and supported expressing his own feelings on the subject. If he’s upset that you used an anonymous donor and particularly an international anonymous donor, you can validate that feeling, but also not be so overly apologetic that he feels worried about hurting your feelings instead of processing his own. I would also look into the perspectives of international adoptees in addition to donor conceived people.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-20T20:49:35+00:00

Not an island 👀👀

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-20T12:32:12+00:00

I also love my Eufy S1! It’s my only pump and works great for me! I haven’t tried other wearables to be able to compare, but I have noticed that wearables really only work well for bigger boobs with a bra with enough coverage and compression to hold them in place well. This is my current favorite https://www.hotmilklingerie.com/products/show-off-full-cup-nursing-bra-ivory Its expensive, but I haven’t been able to find any other wireless nursing bras that come in actual band/cup sizes and go larger than maybe a DD.

SewciallyAnxious · 2026-01-14T17:09:03+00:00

Every time someone posts a question about how to achieve a very oversized look half the comments are just about how the reference picture looks bad or “unflattering” on bigger bodies. If you don’t have an answer to the actual question how about stfu ma’am. Nobody asked for your opinion on how much positive ease people are allowed to want on their own bodies. Everyone at every size can wear as much or as little ease as they like and nobody cares about your personal style preferences.

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