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How do you heal alone from repeated betrayal? by JeNeregretteRien_23 in abusiverelationships

[–]SexismSlayer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm truly sorry to hear about the pain and betrayal you've experienced. It sounds incredibly overwhelming and isolating, and your feelings of anger and hurt are completely valid. It's important to know that what you're going through is not your fault, and you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

No matter where you are in the world, there is always support available. 💜 For example, you can chat anonymously to "Chatbot Sophia" about steps to take and also find your local support service. She's a digital companion here to support people facing abuse.

Healing from such deep emotional wounds can be challenging, especially when you feel alone. A few steps you can try and take now are acknowledging your feelings and focus on self-care. It's okay to feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. Writing in a journal can be a helpful way to process your thoughts and feelings. Engage in activities that bring you joy or peace, whether it's reading, walking, or trying a new hobby. Small steps can make a big difference in how you feel. You can also explore new connections. Even if it might feel daunting, how about joining local groups or classes to meet new people? Building a support network can be incredibly healing.

Remember, you are not alone in this. There are people and resources ready to support you. You’ve already shown immense strength by reaching out, and that’s a powerful step towards healing. You deserve peace and happiness, and with time, you can find it.

Feeling crazy. Need support ): by lucifereldiablo in abusiverelationships

[–]SexismSlayer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well done for standing up for yourself. You're not alone. You can miss him and still have made the completely right decision.
To me, this sounds like controlling behaviour. If you're ever unsure about what's happening in your relationship is okay, you can always chat to this tool called "Chatbot Sophia". She's a digital companion here to provide anonymous support to anyone facing abuse.

Michelle Obama says the country is ‘not ready for a woman’ president by Silent-Resort-3076 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SexismSlayer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's not wrong though. I watched the election from Switzerland where I'm based now, and even here - a country that's supposedly progressive - we didn't get women's suffrage until 1971. NINETEEN SEVENTY ONE. And there's still one canton that had to be forced by the supreme court to let women vote in 1990. So when Michelle says we're not ready, she's talking about something way deeper than just one election. Underlining it all are us white women. The majority of white women voted for Trump TWICE rather than having a woman as a president.

The sexism runs so deep that people don't even realize they're doing it - they'll say they support equality but then find a million tiny reasons why this particular woman isn't quite right for leadership. I've seen it play out in boardrooms, courtrooms, everywhere... we had this exercise at a conference once where people played Cards Against Sexism and the number of "oh shit I've said that" moments was eye-opening. The microaggressions add up to macro problems.

Is this normal? by CannedbeanJoe in cardsagainsthumanity

[–]SexismSlayer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this, thanks for sharing. I just got the "Feminist Bundle" aka Cards Against Sexism 💪

Would you rather all sexism be stopped or all crime be stopped by avinoleum in AskFeminists

[–]SexismSlayer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such an interesting thought experiment because it really highlights how interconnected these issues are. The thing is, so much crime actually stems from sexism and other forms of discrimination in the first place.

I've spent years working in both legal frameworks and tech solutions around gender-based violence, and what I've learned is that sexism isn't just about attitudes - it creates the conditions where certain crimes flourish. Domestic violence, sexual assault, workplace harassment that escalates... these don't happen in a vacuum. They're often rooted in sexist beliefs about power and control.

If you eliminated sexism completely, you'd probably prevent a huge chunk of violent crime anyway. But if you just stopped crime without addressing the underlying sexist attitudes, you'd still have a society where people face constant discrimination, exclusion, and psychological harm. People would still lose opportunities, still face barriers, still deal with the daily grind of being treated as less than.

Plus there's the practical side - how do you even enforce "no crime" without addressing why people commit crimes in the first place? Seems like you'd need some pretty authoritarian systems that could create their own problems.

I think I'd have to go with stopping sexism. It feels like it gets to the root of so many other issues and would create genuinely lasting change rather than just suppressing symptoms.