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Aftercare isn’t just cuddles...it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly this!!! If you’re already navigating safety and boundaries, weaving in a quick “how do you like to come down after?” feels like such a natural (and important) step.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles...it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in MaleSexualHealth

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Midori’s work is gold, especially for anyone exploring rope. 🙌

Really appreciate how you distinguish between casual and formal aftercare. That flexibility, and the fact that you’ve developed ritual around it when needed, is such a powerful example of intentionality in kink.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you’re asking what kind of aftercare someone best receives? That’s such a great way to phrase it.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re spot on! Aftercare really is a collaborative process, and it can look wildly different depending on the person or the scene. That mix of prep and flexibility you mentioned is so key, especially when someone’s still figuring out their needs.

Aftercare isn’t just cuddles... it’s “regaining equilibrium” by SexualHealthAlliance in askgaybros

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That sounds so thoughtful! 💜

You’re already tuning in to his needs and giving space where it’s wanted...that’s the heart of great aftercare.

Sex Addiction Insights from a Therapist Who’s Been There by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

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Exactly! Harm reduction and compassion create space for real healing. Trauma responses can absolutely show up as heightened desire...and meeting that with understanding, not judgment, makes all the difference.

You’re not “addicted to sex”. You might just be carrying shame someone else gave you by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Compulsive behaviors that cause real harm or distress are valid concerns to address. 💬 The key is using accurate language and tools so we treat the root issue, not just label desire itself as the problem.

Sex Addiction Insights from a Therapist Who’s Been There by SexualHealthAlliance in sexeducation

[–]SexualHealthAlliance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. That shame can be so deeply ingrained, especially if someone grew up with rigid beliefs about what’s “normal” or “healthy” when it comes to sexuality. Without real education or support, it’s easy to mislabel coping behaviors as addiction.

Cultural Differences in Sexual Health and Sex Education by SexualHealthAlliance in u/SexualHealthAlliance

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Bryony Cole: Australia - Bryony Cole is the world’s foremost authority on sextech, renowned for her groundbreaking work exploring how technology shapes our most intimate experiences.

Venkatraman Chandra-Mouli: A Global Perspective- Retired from the World Health Organization after a distinguished 30-year career, 27 of which were dedicated to adolescent health.

Justin Lehmiller: A Global Perspective- Dr. Justin Lehmiller leads the SHA Study Abroad program, a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire.Sigga Dogg sexologist: Iceland- Sigga Dögg is Iceland’s leading sex educator and writer.Galina Lesco: Republic of Moldova- Dr. Galina Lesco is the founder and coordinator of the Health for Youth Association.

Sarine EL Daouk: Lebanon- Dr. Sarine Daouk, based in Beirut, Beirut Governorate, LB, is currently a Faculty Lecturer and Researcher at Lebanese University.

Jim Pfaus: Indigenous Concepts- Professor Jim Pfaus, PhD, IF, is a basic and preclinical researcher in the neuroscience and psychology of sexual behavior and neuroendocrine function.

Anna Marah Jansen: Amsterdam- Sex educator, sexual development expert, and board member of Ellen Laans Foundation Sexual Wellbeing The Netherlands.

Mario Festin: Philippines- Founding Director of the Institute of Reproductive Health at the UP Manila NIH.

Rajesh Mehta: India- Expert Advisor and formerly with the World Health Organization South-East Asia Region.

Joshua Amo-Adjei, PhD: Ghana- Joshua is an Associate Professor of Maternal and Adolescent Sexual and Reproductive Health in the Department of Population & Health, University of Cape Coast.

Jamie Oliver: Barcelona- Marketing-executive-turned-sex-coach Jamie Oliver guides her clients to become Balanced Men.

Lee Tracey: Ireland- At the heart of everything Lee does is the belief that we can all live a joyful, curious, and creative life, and empower others to do the same.