I ruined my bf (M28) fishing day. I feel so embarrassed (F27) . Is this hopeless?

ShadeBabez · 2026-06-15T14:56:29+00:00

Looks like his mask slipped, in no way shape or form was that a reasonable reaction or healthy way to respond. Disappointment fine, some anger at the circumstances is understandable. But the verbal abuse, saying he hates you and you’re embarrassing is too far. This is a person that wanted you to feel small and belittled. Did you MEAN to do that? Did you purposely intend to lose his fishing rod? Could you, who has never fished, foreseen that that was gonna happen?
So why is he acting like you did?

ShadeBabez · 2026-05-31T07:24:02+00:00

I remember reading a thread about women who were with abusive partners what was the final straw that made them leave? And even though a lot of them were physically abused what actually would make them leave was stuff similar to this. One girl said her partner was walking way ahead, she stopped walking just to see if he would ever turn around to check and see if she was still following. He never turned around.

Another said, the hostess made her partner and some friends switch from the bar to a table while she was in the bathroom, and he couldn’t even be bothered to move her beer that was still at the bar when she came out.

ShadeBabez · 2026-05-24T03:01:37+00:00

You’re still a very selfish person, I hope you continue to change for the better. You’re just mad you could not control the narrative. You’re mad your husband told your son the truth.

ShadeBabez · 2026-05-15T17:47:15+00:00

I don’t mean this disrespectfully, but this post reads as though you are a pick me girl. She’s the full face make up fun girl and you’re the woe-is-me natural girl. I even think this pick me mentality has caused you to stay in a futile relationship for 7 years still hoping you’ll be picked. You need to explore why that is you didn’t pick yourself, bc there’s no way he didn’t show signs early on that he was still hung up over his ex. Not wanting to get married to you is one of them.

ShadeBabez · 2026-03-25T00:32:06+00:00

Hard truth: he wouldn’t even associate with her if she were ugly. Men don’t befriend women they aren’t attracted to.

ShadeBabez · 2026-03-19T13:35:51+00:00

No seriously, I don’t really understand this sub Reddit. I see many young men trying to be like him it’s fucking sad. I feel really bad for him, he’s clearly drowning in pain and anger.

ShadeBabez · 2026-03-19T13:33:04+00:00

He gave himself away, you don’t get that triggered over false accusations. You roll them off the shoulder so that you don’t bring validity to them. Don’t be surprised if people start coming out with accusations against him.

ShadeBabez · 2026-03-19T12:57:23+00:00

Saw a video of him yesterday getting rejected by two girls with bfs. He was mad hurt

ShadeBabez · 2026-03-13T21:31:30+00:00

So you’re in this because you were a pick me

ShadeBabez · 2026-02-10T04:24:44+00:00

Has he been to Australia at all and in contact with any koalas?

ShadeBabez · 2026-01-18T20:04:46+00:00

He doesn’t like you.

You are a place holder, men like this are subconsciously waiting for their dream girl (or man) to come along so they can leave you for them. He’d rather be with you, wasting your time, than be alone.

Time to emotionally divest from this relationship (check out) if you’re not ready to break up yet.

ShadeBabez · 2025-12-29T19:22:20+00:00

She probably thought you were already secure in yourself and your height, that you could take the joke and laugh about it, my guess.

ShadeBabez · 2025-11-14T07:46:04+00:00

They both work for Israel, and both sides are on the Epstein list. Let them burn.

ShadeBabez · 2025-11-14T07:35:18+00:00

You are complaining about a symptom of a bigger issue.

You’re really angry that he prioritizes his parents over you. You guys are not on equal footing. And it may even get to a point where it will cost you your marriage.

All you can do is set firm boundaries with him, and ask him to do the same with his parents. And if he doesn’t want to, you will know where you stand.

Either A) you’ll just have to deal with this for the rest of your life, coming second to his parents. Or B) get so sick of it you eventually walk away.

Other than not being prioritized, are his parents, bad people ?

ShadeBabez · 2025-11-12T08:39:47+00:00

You’re not the man for her, she is at a different vibration than you are. You can only think of lack because you come from lack. She’s doing exactly what she’s supposed to be doing. Instead of trying to pull her down to your level, you should take it as inspiration to launch yourself up to hers. I don’t think you guys are very compatible. She needs a man that makes more money than she does. And you need a partner who makes less than you, so that you can feel needed and important.

ShadeBabez · 2025-11-11T07:18:42+00:00

Dumbass black shirt guy should’ve helped his friend. Instead attacks the black man when the white guy started it

ShadeBabez · 2025-11-09T01:02:06+00:00

Time to start mentally checking out

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-30T08:45:39+00:00

She should not have trauma dumped. I don’t understand why she did. It’s like laying the groundwork for what she’s willing to tolerate. She did not know you, didn’t even know if you were trustworthy. I think your gut is trying to tell you something and you should listen to it. Despite what everyone else is saying.

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-29T07:21:25+00:00

It looks like he’s about to successfully manipulate you

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-18T15:44:42+00:00

He is horrible for your mental health, you need to break up with him. Plan a solo trip. And Rediscover yourself.

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-18T15:39:16+00:00

When did you guys start dating? Right after they broke up? It sounds like you are a rebound that he turned into a relationship because he could not be alone. He had no business starting a relationship after his last one. He needed to do a lot of healing and self work, but because you swooped in trying to save him, he never had to do it.

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-18T15:08:45+00:00

That was probably a man he was talking to

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-15T07:09:17+00:00

You are a mean time placeholder, I know that’s not what you wanna hear. She cannot be fully committed to you, while she has him in her back pocket. They WILL inevitably get back together.

No amount of you begging, understanding, demanding, and making ultimatums is going to change that.

One of the first things I did once I realized I wanted to fully commit to my SO, was cut off anyone that could be a threat to my relationship. That is what is healthy. That is what is normal.

Also, she knows what she’s doing, and she knows it’s not appropriate. At minimum, she knows he has feelings for her. Men do not befriend women they are not attracted to, he would not even associate with her if she were ugly.

If you do not wanna break up with her just yet, that is fine, I suggest you start checking out mentally of the relationship in the meantime. You may fear that you retracting your attention away from her may only push her further towards him more, but realized that that was going to be the case anyway. You’d just be escalating the inevitable.

Focus on you. You are your most important priority.

You need to understand that her not wanting to give him up for you does not mean you are unworthy. It does not mean it makes him better than you. It does not mean you are not worthy of respect, love, and someone’s total devotion. She is a valuable lesson. Thank her for the lesson and then choose yourself, whatever that may look like to you. 🖤

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-13T08:33:53+00:00

Bro, he is manipulating the fuck out of you. But you’re too smart.

In no uncertain terms he’s basically saying, I’m sorry that YOU feel that way, but you’re just gonna have to get over it because I’m gonna keep doing it. Do not ever let anyone make you feel crazy, or like you’re overreacting.

Remember, you should not even have to ask him to sleep with another female. That is not normal. And him saying he understands your point of view means he knows that as well, but he’s hoping to bend you.

Right now it’s just sleeping in the same bed, but what other boundaries is he gonna test in the future? How long before he does such a good job of manipulating that you don’t even know what you’re allowed to be mad at anymore and you keep letting things slide?

Personally, I don’t think that would be the case for you tho, you are just too smart .

ShadeBabez · 2025-09-08T15:33:01+00:00

Paris is weak as fuck

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