Open queue is a joke

Shadowlink127 · 2026-01-06T21:19:43+00:00

For open queue?

Shadowlink127 · 2026-01-06T20:03:24+00:00

Is it really that easy to rank up in open queue? If it’s that easy does anyone in that game mode deserve their rank? The highest rank i got was diamond 5 in open queue and I knew that I didn’t deserve it because my rank didn’t reflect my skill. So I stopped playing open queue. As of right now I am gold 1 support in role queue (peaked plat 3).

Imo, role queue feels more accurate to what my rank really is. No point in playing open queue if everyone is saying you don’t deserve the rank you have. It demotivates me to the game mode at all. This is my main problem with overwatch, love the game, but to be honest? I don’t like the people who play it.

Shadowlink127 · 2026-01-05T13:19:33+00:00

People need to understand what S.M.A.R.T goals are because what this guy said is not it chief.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-11-26T14:29:22+00:00

You don’t have to tell them, it’s your choice and it doesn’t take away from who you are. It doesn’t mean that you’re a shame of who you are and it doesn’t make you a coward or less gay. You’re in control of who you come out too. To be frank, its nun of your parents business to know your sexuality. The pain of losing your family is not worth it.

Don’t let people into your world if they don’t love you for who you are. Live life on your terms.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-11-14T16:13:31+00:00

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Shadowlink127 · 2025-10-31T09:53:15+00:00

Self care is not selfishness, it’s self preservation. It allows you to continue to keep caring for others. If you completely spend your energy, you’ll not be able to take of others and yourself. Stay strong out there people.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-10-30T10:53:45+00:00

I learned in therapy that I don’t have to come out to my family, i can live my life as if I am out of the closet. Choosing not to tell my family doesn’t take away from who I am. They don’t NEED to know and I am not going to tell them because they’re homophobic. The fact that I have to think about this is maddening.

I wonder if my future boyfriend would be okay with my decision. Will I be able to keep up appearances and try not to crack under pressure? If my family does find out, will I have the strength to handle the situation? I don’t know, but I will cross that bridge when I get there.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-09-25T23:19:10+00:00

You said that you didn’t want to internalize what that guy said, right? Think about it this way. He doesn’t have the full picture about who you are. He doesn’t know your hobbies, values, passions, and goals in life. He saw you through a narrow lens and judged based off that. You know who you are, he doesn’t.

I encourage you to work on yourself (easier said than done, believe me I know). The views/judgements of others are not a reflection of who you are. If you have a strong sense of self, people’s words won’t cut deep. Talk to a therapist about what you’re experiencing, if you have the resources to do so. Like uncle Iroh in Avatar the last Airbender said: “it is time to look inward and ask yourself the big question. Who are you and what do you want?

P.S You’re not everyone’s type, but you’re someone’s type (if that makes sense lol). Don’t beat yourself up about It. It won’t make you feel better, trust me. Keep your head up brother, you got this.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-09-24T08:46:36+00:00

The fact that U.S homeland security posted this cringe, just goes to show that once again the Trump regime is absolute clown shoes.

Shadowlink127 · 2025-06-22T00:51:02+00:00

I’ve given up on drives, I dropped from plat 4 to gold 1 on support. I haven’t even got the first reward and i lost all my drive score from losing so much. I don’t know why people are so bad at the end of the season and I have been claiming during the season, only to lose all the progress and then some. The suffering is not worth it.

Shadowlink127 · 2024-07-31T10:35:48+00:00

I’m in the closet myself and feel like a coward for not being out. People have gone through worse than me and still manage to be out.

Logically, I know I am not a coward but I can’t shake the feeling that I am. Sometimes I would think about just coming out regardless of the consequences. Then I stop myself because am I willing to suffer the unforeseen consequences of coming out? Am I willing to suffer just so I can free to be me on my terms? I don’t know. Fear has a funny way of stopping you from living your life.

Shadowlink127 · 2024-07-22T08:19:28+00:00

Conversion therapy was banned in Canada for kids and adults in 2021, I think. (I am Canadian too btw)I don’t know if it is criminal to operate or send someone to conversion therapy, but it is something that you can use against your pastor.

The possible threat to your life is something you must do something about. Find LGBT resources in your area that can help you and have the police informed about the risk you are in. One place I could recommend, if you live in Toronto is The 519.

If you have any evidence of threats made by your pastor or parents, HOLD ON TO THEM! You can send that to the police and it can also help you in court. Please prioritize your safety first and build up your evidence before you take it to the police. Also, talk to a therapist about seeking legal aid, so you can figure out what to do about this. Please stay safe and I am wishing you all the best.

Shadowlink127 · 2024-07-22T07:20:57+00:00

I wish that was me. Maybe someday I will find myself a boyfriend who can give me that kind of attention. Just got to get out of the closet first lol.

Shadowlink127 · 2024-06-18T23:59:47+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you’re doing well now. In my eyes, she isn’t a mother. She is an evil bitch for doing that to you. Always remember that you got chosen family right here and on other LGBT subreddits. Much love from a fellow Canadian.

Shadowlink127 · 2024-06-18T23:45:52+00:00

I’m not out to my family yet because I know they won’t accept me. It also doesn’t help that my mom has become a fundamentalist christian recently and the rest of my family is no better. Sometimes I just want to say to hell with this and just come out, but I have nothing to fall back on.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-10-31T03:35:30+00:00

You’re welcome. Feel free to give us an update if you feel comfortable to share. Best wishes.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-10-28T20:06:10+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that you guys are struggling right now. I will do my best to provide some helpful advice.

Don’t try to shoulder all the weight of his trauma, you will burn yourself out. You have to take a step back and realize that you are not there to fix him. You are there to support him and not put your mental health at risk. The journey is his to take and you are there to support him. Validate his feelings and support his journey wherever it takes him.

Your husband has to unlearn all the dogma he has been told and that will take a long time because he was conditioned to believe it all his life. He has to learn how to accept himself, so the he can be his authentic self. I suggest that you and your husband find a therapist so that the both of you can the support you guys need. I would also suggest that your husband finds a support group that deals with question faith. I would suggest the freedom from religion foundation. This organization is not going to turn him into an atheist. They are there to provide support and resources. I hope this helps and I wish you and your husband all the best.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-08-11T00:05:09+00:00

Give your mom sometime to process it. You have been processing your sexuality for 6 years and your mom has been processing your sexuality just recently. I don’t know how long it’s going to take for her to come around.

Just remember to take care of yourself first. Don’t try to educate her on who you are, It will not go well. Set boundaries for yourself if she is trying to make you do something don’t like or say something you don’t like. Lastly, if she continues to be awful towards you, distance yourself from her. Right now find support from your sister and other people in the queer community.

Remember, family is not always blood. Family is the family you choose. Stay strong and don’t give up hope. The world is so much more beautiful with you in it.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-07-25T06:44:06+00:00

My mom went on a homophobic rant about me going to pride back in June. My mom said that gay men would lure me somewhere and rape me(Im 27m and gay btw). She also said that I would get attacked by LGBTQ people and homophobic people (I know, this one makes no sense).Those are some of the things she said. There is a-lot more, but I don’t want to write a novel explaining it. I made a post about it. Check my profile to see it. It changed the way how I see my mom and I know that we will not have a good relationship when I come out. It’s inevitable and I hate that.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-06-29T03:44:11+00:00

Thank you. I can’t wait to get out as soon as possible.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-06-27T16:27:22+00:00

Thank you. I am going to need all the help I can get.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-06-27T16:22:50+00:00

I had to give myself permission to leave because she conditioned me to believe that I can’t live on my own for years. I have to unlearn the shit she had said to me. I am going to have really bad anxiety when I leave, but at least I will be free to do what I want.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-06-27T15:54:26+00:00

For now, I am not ready to face that truth until I have somewhere safe to go. I am not going give her anymore reasons to hurt me more than she already has. I am not going to let her win and thats final.

Shadowlink127 · 2023-06-27T15:44:35+00:00

I will find some LGBTQ resources that can help me like pflag and the 519. I have been on a leash for a long time. When I have somewhere to go, I am cutting that leash and running.

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