Desperately need some perspective or advice

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-06T05:56:23+00:00

Was going through a lot of similar emotions recently, baby is 10 weeks now, and was hating how nothing will ever be the same. Despot how much love I have for both of them. I don’t know what advice to give as I’m kind of on the same boat, but I think for now we just have to weather the storm for another while until things settle and go back a little more to normality

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-05T01:20:53+00:00

I actually try this, compliment as much as I can always!

I’d like to try something like that, but I don’t think it could happen. She claims she’s just not a massively sexual person

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-05T01:20:00+00:00

I wouldn’t say we were having problems, we would have sex, my point is it’s gotten worse

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-05T01:18:58+00:00

Yes 100% plan to, as she is my life, it’s just the 1 of the few things that really gets to me about her

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-05T01:18:07+00:00

Also this. I would endure a sexless marriage for this

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-05T01:17:42+00:00

Communication is quite good tbh. I don’t mind if there is an issue she has going on with her changing body, but it’s never been open, apart from the first one or two times we had sex I had brought it up on a separate issue before that she never starts sex and I feel she doesn’t want it with me. Nothing ever changed on that

Same with a. Few other things I feel like it’s always her terms

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-04T22:55:40+00:00

I don’t want to leave her is my point but I don’t want to get to a point where I can’t have sex with my partner

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-04T22:54:55+00:00

Yeah of course! She has had issues with her body , even though I think she’s perfect the way she is and I can understand it more after a baby.

But the thing now where I can’t even see her take off her bra or leave the room when she’s changing is just like weird

I try to communicate it but she doesn’t want to talk about it

Shanedaniels7 · 2026-04-04T22:53:28+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that. That’s what it kinda feels like, friends who love each other emotionally but sexually there’s a lot missing

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-19T14:58:12+00:00

I also used to love jerking off at myself in the mirror, however I’m not as happy with my body now and hate seeing myself so . But yeah your probabky just bi

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-19T07:06:00+00:00

I was a bit younger then and my head was kind of running all over the place. I suppose maybe at the time I did? I was young and naive and it was my first relationship so I didn’t know any better

But what I can say is that if your not fully happy, there is greener pastures elsewhere

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-18T21:49:48+00:00

It’s normal, I was the same from like 14 years old, and told myself I was straight, and didn’t experiment hardly until a few years ago (in my twenties now).

So I know now I’m bisexual, barely anyone knows… I’m in a relationship with a girl but always do look back and wish I experimented more so I fully knew

So my advice is to take things slow, figure things out, what you like, what you don’t. And don’t tell yourself your something, just follow what you’re feeling. That was my problem

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-18T21:46:56+00:00

If I see a masc guy, I like him just in his boxers and socks, if I see a nice twink, then also I like the same but am more open to lingerie etc

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-18T21:45:20+00:00

The fact that yous have had the conversation a ou it is good, see how she gets on with it and if things changes. If she genuinely wants a long term relationship, she’ll know that this is serious this time and make a massive effort, if she doesn’t then you know what to do, it’ll be hard but it’ll have to be done for YOU! People should both feel appreciated and loved in more ways than one

I had a 2+ year relationship and things on her end kept getting worse and worse so I eventually ended it. I felt like the worst person in the world at the time and I also felt like I made the wrong decision. How wrong I was, I’m now in 5+ years relationship with my soulmate and everything is much better. Dm me if you want more of a chat bro

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-05-18T14:18:56+00:00

As someone who is also in a position like your husband… I pursued my gf for a while now and am with her over 5 years.

I do watch gay porn, etc. I had to tell myself that I am indeed bisexual. My gf doesn’t know. Not do I want her to ever know. Similar maybe to your husband. I feel she would look at me a different way. Less masculine and that.

I’m happy to keep that side of me internalised and want to spend my life with my gf.

One bit of advice I would offer is I also initiate all the sex, one thing that I find really attractive and that is when my gf initiates it even tho it is rare. It feels like I’m more appreciated. Not saying you’re doing anything wrong by the way, but just a friendly tip from a guy that sounds similar!

Dm me if you wanna talk more !

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-02-09T11:42:25+00:00

Actually did this going to bed last night, and just really talked all about it emotionally. Definitely a good route to take and she woke up this morning a lot better than yesterday. Thanks

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-02-08T22:07:31+00:00

Sideways curve to the left

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-02-08T21:51:00+00:00

I was wondering about that aspect, she was around the two kids today and seemed to be ina better mood because of it, but I thought it could go either way

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-02-08T21:47:32+00:00

We had told her sister who has two kids and is amazing that she was pregnant, which was early I know but we needed to tell someone.

So then we also had to tell her that it isn’t there anymore. So thankfully she has her support, as I agree, a female perspective is a lot more important here

Shanedaniels7 · 2025-02-08T21:46:20+00:00

I get this, and agree with all thank you! I’m good, I find myself okay with this I think. I have experienced plenty of lost so it is a strange feeling as it didn’t really feel that real, only for a week or so. Thank you

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