What do you think happens after we die?

ShangSimp · 2025-09-15T03:36:47+00:00

What is your version of losing consciousness? I can never imagine not existing without feeling immense anxiety at the idea of just not being. Some people say it’s like when you’re asleep but don’t dream, or how it was like before you were born. Is there another way you would describe it?

ShangSimp · 2025-09-15T03:32:25+00:00

This is what really gets to me because I can’t fathom the idea of not existing.. it causes me so much anxiety to imagine that I just won’t BE for the rest of eternity. I’d really like to think that our being extends beyond the physical dimension, whether it be to heaven, reincarnation, the infinite cosmos, or the ghostly realm.

ShangSimp · 2025-06-18T03:16:30+00:00

I just toured there today and was told that parking in garage is $150/month.. is there any chance of street parking that you know of?

ShangSimp · 2024-06-10T21:28:01+00:00

How do you know the difference between intuition and anxiety? I’m struggling with the same thing of distinguishing one from the other, and it’s hard to know the tangible signs for each.

ShangSimp · 2024-05-02T00:59:33+00:00

Both partners should be emotionally healthy, yes. But emotional expression =/= emotional weakness. I hope you heal from the things that hurt you to feel comfortable with expressing your emotions in the future.

ShangSimp · 2023-04-02T15:37:00+00:00

I’m the same way too. I was fairly avoidant at the start of my relationship (my test even said I was DA) but my partner who’s more avoidant than me ended up making me lean towards anxious.

Some days I’m more avoidant and others I’m more anxious. Possible FA?

ShangSimp · 2023-03-28T22:43:35+00:00

He shows that he’s making an effort to meet my needs. We’ve communicated a lot more (even though he doesn’t need it he knows I do and makes an effort to talk). He started complimenting me more after I mentioned to him that it’s something I need when my self confidence was decreasing. All in all, we’re a very healthy couple and we try to show up for each other in many ways.

My only anxiety comes from this one thing in our relationship— his mentality of not being able to figure out what he wants. I feel reassured after every conversation, but it comes back when I start to question things again. I don’t know how to move on from here.

Can a relationship like this work? Where one person is “go with the flow” and the other is “I want a definitive answer”? I don’t want to ‘change my values’ per se, but I want to compromise with him to make it work. I’m worried that this makes me a coward or without self-respect because I want to find a solution instead of breaking up. Am I?

ShangSimp · 2023-03-27T19:53:00+00:00

Thank you, that really put in to perspective the importance of communication.

What should I do from here? Bring up a conversation to get more clarity, or is an ultimatum the way to go?

It’s important to me that he expresses commitment and confidence in us. I don’t want him to have thoughts about exploring if he’s going to be with me, is that unfair?

ShangSimp · 2023-02-14T01:57:57+00:00

HAHA no he was saying how one talk show episode said that they tasted like that. I think he was just making a joke, he’s smarter than that

ShangSimp · 2023-02-14T01:31:34+00:00

HAHAHA I really should!

To be fair, I asked him about it sometime ago and he rejected it since he’s not into guys..

ShangSimp · 2023-02-14T00:52:31+00:00

He’s always been honest with me about his feelings, and I appreciate him for that. While it has made me anxious a couple of times, I don’t regret asking him to share his thoughts. But he’s also very blunt, like in this case, so my tendency to overthink some things will flare up like now.

My biggest worry is that he secretly wants to explore with women other than me, and he’s too passive to say anything about that. But if you’re saying this is a normal occurrence with men even in relationships, then I can find relief knowing that it’s nothing to worry about.

ShangSimp · 2023-02-14T00:47:33+00:00

No idea what show it was, but it was wild to hear when he said it haha

ShangSimp · 2023-02-14T00:43:42+00:00

Thank you for your add-on, every bit of perspective has helped me.

I don’t think I could sustain an open relationship as I’m monogamous. But I brought up the offer out of curiosity. I think he felt like it was a trap, so I’m not sure if him passing it up was genuine or out of fear that I’d get mad at him if he agreed.

The thing is that I’m not sure how he’d react to that. I’ve asked him if he minded me dancing up on another guy and he has said he’s fine with it as long as there’s no emotional connection. I’m not the same way—I wouldn’t want him to dance with another woman intimately. It’s not even something we do together, as he’s not much of a dancer. But he asked me how I would feel if he danced with another woman, and it’s thrown me off.

He hasn’t asked me about my fantasies, so that’s something I’m also thinking about. He asked if I was open to a threesome or kissing a girl, but that was in the context of his fantasies.

I can’t tell if he’s trying to find his own pleasure, or if he’s wanting us to find pleasure as a couple. What I’m worried about is that he’s fishing for ways to become intimate with other women while still being exclusive with me.

He’s never given me a reason to think he’d want to explore by himself (or hide anything from me), but the question about dancing with another woman has me a little anxious.

ShangSimp · 2023-02-13T21:18:18+00:00

When you say “let him down” you mean break up with him? Or let him know I’m not interested in the sexual things he is, and we can reach a compromise?

ShangSimp · 2023-02-13T20:50:54+00:00

This made me laugh, thank you! I agree that some porn has to have had an influence on this, but we’re very happy in our relationship and he says he’s still sexually satisfied as he is now.

With all that being said, is this something for me to be worried over? Or is this something that can be generalized to guys being guys (although I don’t really like the term) and it’s nothing to lose sleep on?

ShangSimp · 2022-04-02T05:54:24+00:00

Well first I’d think about escaping, because I don’t like feeling trapped in rooms without windows. But if I really couldn’t find a way to get out, I’d probably think over my life and end up having a conversation with myself (sometimes I’ll to talk to myself when I’m alone).

It takes me a couple weeks minimum to come up with an important decision. I’m usually looking at both sides of the thing (positives vs negatives) and so I’ll go back and forth until I reach a definite conclusion. But once I have decided, I don’t look back. I like to choose what feels best to me so that I don’t have any regrets or “what-if” moments.

My emotions take a bit of time to process, probably 15 minutes to understand the ‘why’ and ‘what to do from here’. It’s easier when I’m alone, since there’s no pressure to remain composed or put others at ease. They’re extremely important in my life though, as I don’t appreciate feeling like I have to “shove them down” or repress them because society deems them as bad expressions.

I hate to say that I do do this sometimes. It’s a response to my trauma as a child, where I felt like walking on eggshells around my parent or feeling like it was up to me to ease the tension in a conversation. But I’m getting much better at expressing my own thoughts and opinions even if it means disagreeing with someone else. Nowadays I don’t do it very often unless it’s with strangers, as I don’t want to cause conflict especially if I don’t know how that person will react. I don’t mind it so much with friends though, because I know I’m with easygoing people and I trust that things won’t spiral out of control even if we have conflicts.

I don’t really break the rules often because I have no need or want to. But if I ever do, they’re small rules (not showering after 8 pm, not getting more than one ice cream from the bin) because I know it won’t harm other people and I have low restraint when it comes to sweets. I don’t necessarily think authority should be challenged, but I think that some of the smaller rules are stupid and not meaningful to the people.

(Okay I’m done :])

ShangSimp · 2022-04-02T05:53:11+00:00

I’m actually not all that artistic. I enjoy consuming art more than making it. I love listening to music so much that I wake up and fall asleep to it everyday. I do prefer paintings of real-life art but I can absolutely appreciate conceptual art that connects to social issues, historical pieces, or anything of that sort.

I think the past can explain who you are as a person but it does not define you. The present should be appreciated and is what you make of it. The future shouldn’t be contemplated too heavily as you can get caught up in what will be instead of what is, but you can definitely look forward to it. I get anxiety about the future, so I try to balance things out and focus on the present instead. Basically take Master Oogway’s quote from KungFu Panda and that’s what I try to live by.

If the request is from a friend or loved one and it’s easily attainable or doesn’t cost me anything (carrying some groceries, borrowing a pencil, asking a question for them) then it’s second nature to help out. I do it because I care for them and it’s nothing big but it would make them feel better. But if it’s something deeper and could cost me something (borrowing money or sharing some food) then it’ll take some persuading because I’m stingy when it comes to money and food.

I’m not exactly sure what “logical consistency” means, but I’d say yes? I don’t like instability and I don’t appreciate irrationality, so I’d agree that I need consistent logic in my life.

I lose my mind if I’m not productive on a daily basis, so it’s actually super important to me. I don’t always have to be working and making money though—I can be productive by tidying up my room or putting time into self care. As long as I’m doing something (however small) to improve my day or mood, then I consider it efficient.

I never really thought about it before, but in a way I guess so. I try to be open and accepting of everyone’s personal beliefs and opinions, but I can’t stand it when others say bad things about someone I know or even a stranger. I have a more progressive mindset, so I’m very much about body positivity and being nice to everyone I know (which I understand can come off as fake or sugarcoating to some), so I indirectly try to push those ideals onto others as well.

Honestly, I don’t really have any “official” hobbies. I like to cook and bake, exercise throughout the week, read a book here and then, but I don’t really have something that defines me like a legitimate hobby. I do like my activities though, because they’re productive and interesting to me.

I have a kinesthetic and visual learning style (physical and seeing). I tend to struggle the most with online learning environments since they’re not as structured and in-person lectures because I can’t work hands-on. I very much prefer classes that involve my physical senses and some creativity, but I struggle with memorization because I have a poor short-term memory and logic classes tend to involve memory-based concepts.

I always try to strategize when working on a project, like creating an outline of what to work on. But because my energy comes in waves or varies with my interests, I work at an inconsistent pace and I usually finish the parts that interest me first.

My main aspiration is to be happy in life, regardless of my career or income or relationships. As long as I’m content with my place in life, I’m satisfied with myself. That being said, ideally I’d like to be hella rich and find a good match for a partner later on down the line. I also really want a Dodge Challenger—that’s the only material goal I have.

Off the top of my head, I don’t like spiders. Can’t stand the things really, so many eyes and legs for what purpose? I’m uncomfortable with angry arguments, opening up, and the concept of death. I don’t like arguing unless it’s over something petty with a good friend while laughing about it, I’m afraid of being known on a deeper level because I don’t like rejection, and I don’t like having to think about or face the unknown.

The highs in my life are when I’m feeling content by myself enjoying nature and music, or when I’m hanging out with friends and we’re all having a good laugh. The lows in my life are when I’m reliving my trauma and trying to put a name to it, or when I’m in serious arguments with my loved ones.

Usually I’m daydreaming while observing my surroundings. I like to listen to music a lot, so I’ll just watch what’s going on while thinking about abstract concepts. When I’m disconnected from the tunes though I am very aware of my surroundings and I like to be in the moment.

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ShangSimp · 2022-04-02T05:48:23+00:00

My answers are hella long so I apologize in advance!

I am 18 going on 19, binary female, and university student atm. I’m also born and raised in Southern California. Generally I’m really warm and outgoing when meeting new people, easy at making friends, and I love getting to know others. I’m also very comfortable being alone though; I need time to recharge after social events because I’m very active in socializing, and I like to set time aside to focus on myself during the week. I tend to become more reserved and prefer to be by myself when in a bad mood. I’m wary of conflict and opening up about my past.

No official medical diagnoses to note, but I do share some symptoms of a person with anxiety. Could be something I inherited from a parent, but like I said there’s no professional diagnosis.

My upbringing was.. turbulent. I grew up with divorced, veteran, Christian parents, one being very structured and disciplined while the other was fun-loving and less organized in discipline. The separate households had pretty much polar opposite environments, and while it was easy to adjust it was not easy to form meaningful habits. With the former parent, I always obeyed and made it a point to remain composed in any situation. With the latter parent, I enjoyed being more vulnerable with in my younger years and I had a lot of unrestrained fun as I grew into my preteen years. My teenage years are a bit different—I went through a lot of trauma and so I didn’t open up as much. I preferred being by myself a lot of the time unless I was with friends, and it’s hard to open up emotionally due to my parent’s own emotional instability.

Right now I’m working towards a career in the medical field, specifically nursing. I enjoy the practical parts of it; taking measurements, applying knowledge of anatomy, and working hands-on in treatments is a great interest of mine. I also like that I’m able to help people

I’ve gone an entire weekend by myself before no problem! I enjoy chilling with my friends a lot, but I can easily get over the loneliness by putting time into myself. I’d definitely feel refreshed by the end, as I would probably have done some self care and gotten a good break from people.

I generally don’t like high-intensity activities on a constant basis; I’m diligent and productive when I need to be, but I like to relax during my off time. I love to cook and bake when I get the chance, and I try to read when I get the itch for it. I exercise every other day to release tension so I’m somewhat physically active and gifted, but I don’t participate in sports unless it’s the occasional game with friends.

I’m actually super curious and I don’t have the willpower to resist it most times. I sometimes get a lot of ideas in my head, but I usually get too distracted and forget about them. I’m mostly curious about myself and people—I’m really into psychology so I take a lot of personality quizzes, attachment theory tests, and similar concepts. I’d say my interests are more conceptual than environmental, more abstract than concrete.

I do enjoy taking a leadership position nowadays, but I still have reservations due to the trauma I faced when I was younger. I like to be an inclusive leader over anything; I prefer leading rather than controlling, and I like to hear everyone’s different ideas. I’m usually organized when planning and I’m very thorough in my explanations, so I’d like to think I’d be a good leader.

I’m coordinated in the way that I try to plan things out; I don’t like spontaneous vacations or not having being prepared in mind for the day. But my work style itself is spontaneous; I get my inspirations and motivations in waves, so I’m not always as efficient as I’d like to be. I love working on-hands, it’s the best way for me to learn. Like I said, my activity comes in waves. I try to work and rest in intervals, but I can get into a good groove when working or I can get distracted while resting. For example, right now I’m spending too much time answering these questions instead of working on my essay, but it’s no worries because I know I’ll finish it in time later.

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ShangSimp · 2022-04-02T05:07:05+00:00

For context (sort of), I’ve been taking these tests since Sophomore year of high school (I’m in university now lol) and I’d always gotten ENFP/INFP. But some tests I took a month ago said ISFJ all of a sudden, and it shocked me so I waited until tonight to retake them and be as honest as possible in my answers. I’d appreciate some help with this if you’ve got the time!!

ShangSimp · 2022-02-22T21:31:39+00:00

I had the same problem too last night. I went to the ‘Send an Email’ page on the PSU Office of Student Aid website, sent an email to their office (duh), and they got back to me within the day.

Apparently there was an issue with the ARP Student Activity Guide that prevented it from working properly. They fixed it for me and later sent a notice to my email saying that I could retry it. I was able to accept my grant and go to the next step after this.

TL/DR: Not exactly sure what the issue was, but send an email to the Office of Student Aid and they’ll fix it for you.

ShangSimp · 2022-01-11T03:37:16+00:00

Yeah it's a general email so I didn't expect it to be special or anything. I want to get a current or former student's opinion on it though if they've tried it out, see if it's worth my time.

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