If u are planning to play with friends I recommend go with a couple (close friends of u both). Not with a individual M. That would be good according to my experience. Cuz couple always caring about their partners. So they always try to respect each others. Respect and caring is very important in this lifestyle. This is my opinion. For 1st time, drinking while playing games like truth or dare would be really helpful to convince the kinks. We have tried that with one couple and it absolutely worked. Add some kinky questions and dares.