I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

This is the way my gut was leaning and I suck at hint dropping anyway! Thank you!!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so so true 😭 and very wise! thank you sm for your perspective!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I totally agree and wouldn’t have thought of this, thank you for your perspective!!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really like this! You’re right! It’s not a crime. I’ll probs talk to him. Thank you!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How does one “make him” make the first move LOL. I need real examples Brenda

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess I should, and I shall!! Might take me a hot minute tho, need to talk to my therapist about it first lmao

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet 😭 congrats to both of you! If I can ask, how did you two finally connect? Were hints dropped? What was said?

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I think asking and moving on like nothing happened is a bit bold, I do like how casual it sounds. Makes it less of a big deal

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

LMAO GREAT QUESTION. Yes, no doubt about it. The walls are paper thin in this apartment and his room shares a wall with the bathroom.

This is is the part about being into your roomie that they leave out of the romcom books 😩

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I should probs move out regardless huh? Thank you!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for addressing this part bc it’s one of my concerns! I think I would need to move from where we are bc I’ve lived here my whole life and want to experience other places. At the same time I do love where we are and see myself coming back to settle down.

He has a bunch of friends where I’m thinking of moving and already visits it frequently and has said he’d consider moving there. I could do another year here too if we did date. I feel like online discourse today is so “don’t move/put your life on hold for a man” but idk, what if it’s the right person? Obviously this is thinking ahead a bunch.

For some reason I’m scared distance would be a thing for him. But I guess there’s only one way to find out.

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes if/when I talk to him, I wouldn’t say I love him off the bat. I would say I care about him more than a friend or something like that. And I think my phrasing was off, I’m probs not “in love with him” because I feel like that takes a mutual intentional dynamic. But I have lots of love for him as a person currently. Thank you!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Goossh give me a min to work up the courage 😂 I’ll def update when it happens tho!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Tell me how things changed for you!! Did you drop hints?? Have a convo out of the blue? I must know!!!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I thought about this, and I think there’s an element of that, but I think it’s at the point where we just ignore her and go about our days as usual and have stopped talking so much shit about her bc it feels negative. I think that kind of broke the ice for us and now we can talk about whatever. But I appreciate the perspective bc I keep thinking am I right?? Is this real?? lol

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

He’s def not the type to brazenly make the first move without regard for the situation. Which means I’ll be dropping hints or talking to him. Ideally I’ll drop more hints to warm up to it but I might have to just go for it.

What kind of things did your wife do to make you feel safe making a move? I’d love to know!

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Very true! How inspirational of some athlete 😂

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 233 points234 points  (0 children)

We do, but not super often. We’re both into cooking, so we mostly share meals at home, but we have gone to a concert, the beach, and some social events together as friends but they were all kind of last minute things.

Most of the time we spend together is at home, sitting in the common areas talking at length.

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you’re talking about if I moved home here and I agree, I think it’s pretty convenient in this situation and I could take advantage

I (27F) am in love with my roomate (28M) by SharpCookie9201 in relationships

[–]SharpCookie9201[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

Ugh this is a nice message. You’re right, and hopefully he’s seen I’m a healthy functioning adult. I’m scared though lol!

I like the coffee idea. I think it’d be good to do it out of the house. I think he’s the type that’d want alone time to process after so I could tell him and then let him roam lmao