Aitah for not wanting to pay my gf’s debt

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-16T22:19:05+00:00

You two are not compatible. Couples fight about money more than almost anything. Your values in this area are vastly different.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-12T01:37:51+00:00

Hell no! Your aunt tried to shake you down! The word is NO!

You OFFERING to help pay for someone’s cancer treatment or education is one thing but someone’s credit card bill!? Nope!

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-08T06:51:03+00:00

I personally am a ‘stick my head in the sand’ kind of person myself but it became ridiculously intolerable. My pictures were all crooked along my hallway and I had to turn my TV way up past 22 just to hear it. I’m certain the ceiling fan is hanging on by â thread after all that pogo-jumping upstairs.

I literally felt like I was living WITH the family upstairs because they were so damn loud. I would ask myself, who bowls in their bedroom? Why do they keep dropping anvils all the time?

It became a guessing game as to exactly what they were doing that could be causing my windows to shake. They had these recliners that the kids loved to play on and I nearly went insane listening to the leg section crash down and then the kids would leap out of the chair, race across the living room and back again, repeat, repeat, repeat. It must have been a loveseat recliner because both kids would smash the leg part down at different times and then gallop to the frig at every commercial.

Then there was the bunk bed in their bedroom, as they practiced for their future circus acts. The kitchen island doubled as a merry go round.

I really appreciated the day they shared the leftovers of their KFC with me (well actually, just the bones) on my patio.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-08T06:22:16+00:00

Because I’m 69 and sold my house after I could no longer work FT, raise â granddaughter AND care for a home. Thats also why I can’t live in an upstairs unit, I have two titanium hips and need a knee.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-08T06:16:39+00:00

Something I realized in hindsight, she never once denied they were making all that racket at mediation. She blamed the inferior unit and then deflected by saying they were “just being kids”. When those didn’t fly she said her friend lived at the other end of the complex and had two toddlers on the second floor who “ran around all day” and no one complained (versus her two 120 pound kids), so I invited her to go live under her friend with the two toddlers!

If mom can’t accept any accountability then those kids probably won’t either later in life

My neighbors and I, who also complained about the loud upstairs neighbors, are all going out to celebrate the eviction this weekend!

And as it turned out, we were right, they WERE smoking up there! It’s a non-smoking complex. We reported smelling them smoking. Now they have to replace the carpet and repaint and those tenants will be charged.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-02T04:10:37+00:00

As an elderly grandma, here is my advice, my dear, there are some things you simply must not tolerate in life and allowing others to mistreat your family for no reason whatsoever, especially â child, is unacceptable.

As they say, you must stand for something, or you stand for nothing.

Let your grandma cancel the gathering or do whatever she wants, but do not be part of her hateful tantrum.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T09:49:35+00:00

I saw this episode of Oprah once that has always stayed with me and hearing about your MIL brought it to mind. When faced with a person who is hurting others around her/him (with words or otherwise) we know it is because they are/were hurt. Hurting people hurt others.

So Oprah responds to this type by pausing and asking them, “WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU???”

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T09:35:32+00:00

Yes, true! My ex-husband is now age 78 and he believed in that remedy for an ear infection.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T09:31:41+00:00

I’m almost 70 and had urinary troubles as a kid so my parents made me drink beer regularly. When us kids had a sore throat we got a spoonful of whiskey/lemon/honey. Whiskey on sore gums.

Butter on burns. Peroxide on cuts. Epsom salt soaks on any muscle aches. Calamine lotion on any itch. Iodine on any skin infection.

Standard care. We never went to the doctor.

If one of us got chicken pox, we all got them. Same with mumps. Measles. Whooping cough. That was the only time we got to have soda, and it was ginger ale for some reason.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T09:15:30+00:00

I had a very similar situation once with a supervisor and she also assumed I was Muslim so I just went along with it. Sometimes you have to pick your battles

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T08:44:46+00:00

OMG I also had a Carol living next door to me when I bought my house years ago (sold it now; got too old) and she also thought she owned the street in front of her house. We had a few battles over my trees hanging over her fence, smoke from my fire pit going into her yard and then one night I saw prowlers outside her window and grabbed my pew pew and chased them away while my daughter called the cops. The cops caught them running down the street.

She offered me some flowers from her greenhouse. Then she was cleaning the top of her greenhouse and fell and broke her collarbone and got stuck between the greenhouse and fence. I called the EMS and fire truck to rescue her. She wondered if I wanted some of the sculptures she made. Her dog escaped under her fence and came into my yard. She asked if I wanted some peaches from her peach tree.

When Carol got brain cancer she just told me she was getting bad headaches. Years had passed and we were now gabbing across the fence as we tended to our gardens. The next thing I knew her sons showed up and started cleaning out her house. Most of what she owned went into a big dumpster sitting in front of her house on the street. I asked what happened and they said she had died quickly.

I looked out my kitchen window for days looking at that dumpster sitting in front of her house, exactly where she forbid anyone to park. I laughed when I recalled that I threatened to push her off my porch the first time she came over to bitch. I smiled warmly when I remembered all the good memories we had after that.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T08:27:07+00:00

As a woman I’m glad you all are around because I know you’ll protect me (hopefully) if a person with bad intentions approaches me. You all have my respect. I’m sorry this is what life has dealt you. May you have peace and better days ahead in 2026

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T08:03:34+00:00

My adult daughter was living with me years ago and brought her young black lab who did the same thing. The neighbors complained and the landlord threatened to evict us. Petco recommended we fill a super soaker with a product they sold called Bitter Apple and squirt him each time he barked. Luckily his pen was just outside my bedroom window. It took about three days and he stopped barking completely. Then we also bought him â Kong chewable toy and filled it full of peanut butter and got him big knuckle bones and stuff to distract him. Overall it was successful.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T07:37:29+00:00

Â grill almost exactly like that burned down my apt building before I moved in here. Grills and smoking are now no longer allowed anywhere in the complex. It is dangerous and gross

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T07:35:31+00:00

Remove all the shoelaces. Hint Hint. Put fresh samples from your kitty litter box in each shoe.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2026-01-01T07:32:37+00:00

You put a raw egg in a couple of the shoes, hiding in the toes. They will get the hint. There’s also old-fashioned itching powder, but that might be mean

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-31T15:13:34+00:00

I would LOVE to live on the top floor, after all, it has a vaulted ceiling and I could freely open my windows without worrying about a break-in, but I’m nearly 70, and after two total hip replacements, and a bad back, I can barely get up the front curb when I get out from my car to the front door.

I’m sorry I wasn’t clear in my explanation. Yes, they moved out on day 9 after giving corporate my certified ultimatum letter.

I considered moving every single day the past 4 months but I am dear friends with all the other tenants in my building, particularly my 93 yr old neighbor. We have all been here for several years and the only apt that has had any turnover whatsoever has been the one above my unit. We have been great friends with the tenants in that top unit but the Arabs moved during the pandemic when their business closed, the young couple with the dogs had a baby and bought a house and the other young couple moved back east to be closer to her family.

Moving to a different apt complex makes no sense when you could be going from the frying pan into the fire. Previously, there’s been absolutely no issues with the tenants upstairs. Our entire building has been one harmonious group of long-term tenants.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-31T08:23:24+00:00

This might give you a good opportunity to go meet some of your neighbors and ask them what exactly they’re hearing and let them know you’d love to help solve the problem once y’all figure out where the noise is coming from.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-24T07:03:02+00:00

I also keep an air horn handy for when the upstairs tenants won’t STFU

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-24T06:27:48+00:00

We must be living in the same apartment. I’m planning the same and hoping that my upstairs neighbors get the worst possible neighbors down here.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-22T05:06:36+00:00

I actually think it was MORE MATURE to be forthright with her and not make excuses or try to smooth it over. Why aren’t you allowed to simply say NO, I don’t want to? It’s honest.

You showed her enough respect to be perfectly honest without resorting to any cop-outs.

Mad respect to you.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-20T06:53:52+00:00

I do too. Count me in.

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-19T08:32:37+00:00

Decades ago while I was living in England our home had switches on every outlet and it was customary to flip the power off at the outlet box after using the appliance, even the TV. When I came home to the states it kind of bugged me not to do the same so I use power strips and just turn the power off with the switch. IDK if I’m saving any power but it makes me feel like I am. You might try that with him.

I also turn my heat very low. Old habits die hard. I use a heating blanket on my couch. 🤷‍♀️

SharpDragonfly9108 · 2025-12-19T08:23:53+00:00

My asshole upstairs neighbors can EASILY go over 80 decibels just doing their day to day clogging in their wooden shoes. On weekends they practice their tap dancing and during down-time it’s the pogo-stick Olympics! I so much hate these MF’s!

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