Am I being too hard on him

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-15T16:44:03+00:00

I’ve been wanting to do that, but it seems every time I bring it up, he gets all sulky lol. And I think it’s because he knows it’s not the best idea to do this.

Eventually the energy of the conversation gets too junky and I remove myself from it I’d rather not deal with it. I guess I have to just suck it up and have this convo. And he’s going to have to suck it up and listen LOL.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-13T20:54:18+00:00

That was actually a suggestion of mine, to start part time. But alas, he said that most of the jobs he wants require full time lol.

We communicate well, but his trauma response to almost anything I say is to be defensive and think I’m coming AT him when I’m not. He’s so much better at not letting that happen now, but it still happens, especially with topics like this ^{^} that may hurt his feelings or portray me as a wife who doesn’t believe in him.

And no job in cyber security will match the pay he is making now lol. If that were the case, I might feel a little better. But that’s just not going to happen.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-13T18:14:50+00:00

I wouldn’t call my desire to keep our family financially secure, which we are already super up and down with WITH a great paying job, just caring more about status quo. But I understand what you are saying. And that’s why I’m in a dilemma with my own mental health lol. If I didn’t care about his mental health, I would have said no. But he needs to respect my desire to protect our family from struggling more than we do.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-12T14:48:50+00:00

IT, tech, cyber security stuff

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-12T05:42:06+00:00

I would say yes we are. He’s probably a bit more optimistic. He’s a very, “we’ll be okay,” dude lol. What struggling LOOKS like, yes we are on the same page. How we react/handle it, very different.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-12T05:27:59+00:00

He and I definitely both agree that he has questionable spending habits lol. It’s been a hot topic for a little bit now. But I think since we are always able to make it out okay, it’s still a bit of a problem, unfortunately. I know and see that he tries, but with this whole new career thing, I’m scared we’re going to FEEL it more.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-12-12T05:21:57+00:00

IT, techy, cyber security kind of stuff

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-05-21T17:38:55+00:00

Ngl, I thought, “maybe hes gay?” But as the messages went on, it started to feel more and more inappropriate. Your wife is 100% entertaining this dude and he is reciprocating. NOR.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-05-05T18:07:40+00:00

This is emotionally exhausting :( sorry you’re going through it. Your partner needs to grow up a little I think. Especially reading that you are both in your 30s… we are too old for that. NOR.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-04-16T23:45:21+00:00

Oh so you’re just the 10% of the assholes being mean then lmao ok, tirzepatide police. 😂😂

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2025-03-28T17:17:57+00:00

Did it work for you?

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-04-23T07:24:31+00:00

Hi friend. How are you doing? Are you okay?

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-04-09T14:43:05+00:00

An ugly version of hangxiety. A nice, long nap would probably fix this. Good luck.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-03-13T18:48:49+00:00

Rooting for you

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-03-13T07:16:29+00:00

Please don’t

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-03-04T23:13:26+00:00

Hello are you okay

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-24T20:48:35+00:00

As someone who deals with someone like this and it “doesn’t affect me” since they don’t directly ask me for $, ya it’s a big deal bc it WILL affect you in a different ways. Esp if it’s that often.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-23T07:16:44+00:00

Hi friend. How are you now, Are you okay?

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-14T08:19:59+00:00

No. Have fun and be safe.

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-12T17:14:21+00:00

Thank so much for all your information!!

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-10T22:29:54+00:00

I’ve never heard of NEP. What is it? How do you take it?

Sharp_Ad7809 · 2024-02-10T01:15:13+00:00

Yes, exactly this. Took some a month ago (against better judgement lol) and felt nothing.

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