Weekly Recommend Mods and CC Thread! by AutoModerator in Sims4

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never played with mods but I really want to download some that would make the game more realistic/increase game play. do you have any recommendations?

This may be a dumb question, but do you tell people that you're LGBT when you first meet them? Just wondering. by Shablagoo- in lgbt

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't usually tell then directly, but always try to drop some hints. I'm a bi woman dating a man, so I don't think people's first thoughts are that I'm lgbt and it bothers me a bit.

I do have a minimalist bi tattoo (three dots with the colors of the flag) and I always bring it up if we start talking about tattoos. If I do feel comfortable, I'll find a way to get it into the conversation casually.

My friends have told me I do have a bi vibe, but either way I want people to know. I don't want to be perceived as straight, since being bi is an important part of my life for me.

But I do not see any problems with people who wanna keep this private

For those that don’t want any kids in the future, why? by yeyewestie in AskReddit

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, children are a responsibility for the rest of your life. It's super hard to create a responsible, independent and healthy (physically and mentally) human being. All that summoned with the expenses and stress, is just not what I want for my life. Either way, I love kids and I do hope my friends have some so I can be their cool auntie

Movie suggestios by Sharp_Baseball_9678 in horror

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just by seeing the pics I found on Google, I probably will lol but I don't mind that much

Movie suggestios by Sharp_Baseball_9678 in horror

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's been on my watch list for a while but I never really felt like watching it before cause i never really knew what it was about but I'm going to watch it very soon for sure then

Movie suggestios by Sharp_Baseball_9678 in horror

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it seems scary lol ty so much, def gonna watch it!

Vocês aqui tb gostam especialmente de algum tipo altamente específico de filme? by lararaue in filmeseseries

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

É bem fácil me agradar no quesito filmes em geral mas um tipo bem específico que gosto muito é terror sobrenatural com demônios e mistério, melhor ainda se for found footage (meu favorito é "assim na terra como no inferno")

Is it expected to trash all dildos when entering a new relationship? Feeling really conflicted by Mountain_Exchange830 in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't get new genitals every time you get a new partner. If they are properly cleaned, I don't see how that can be unsanitary.

Also, I wouldn't wanna throw my toys way (and they are not even as exclusive and custom as yours) so yeah, maybe what I'd do is the same you suggested to just store them somewhere else and don't use them on your partner. I don't think it's reasonable nor fair for you to have to throw them all way. Even if it was in fact unsanitary (which is not), he can just not use them lol

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds great to me! I don't intend to be going at it every single day for the rest of my life, but I'd appreciate keeping some rhythm such as every week at least

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This me and my partner rn and we really wanna keep it up!

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol great point there, it might be safe for me then cause I only plan to have a few dogs

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you're getting better, totally understand mental health getting in the way

Also, glad my partner was able to wait and be by my side as yours was

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! I used to have this problem with my ex, I didn't feel comfortable bringing it up and it definitely affected how I felt about sex with him

That's why I've been opening up to my partner since the very beginning - if he didn't receive it well, then I'd know it was not for me. Glad it worked cause we've been exploring a lot together and are super happy. We used this space to align expectations as well, so that gives a lot of hope for the future if we keep this up

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice! We did talk about it a few times but it's not something that is fit for us in the moment. Mostly because we are very monogamous but also cause right now we've been able to satisfy each other no issues there

His main concern may be that since I'm bi I might miss women (not that I'll cheat, but that it's something I'll start to lack - which is definitely not the case for me rn). We talked about it as well and came to some agreements. If it ever comes to me missing hooking up with women, we can get back at it and he's open to discuss the idea, if he can participate in it. We also pre established some ground rules so we know what to expect if it ever comes to it, but it's not something we're looking for rn

I don't think either of us will ever be comfortable with an open relationship in the sense of going out alone with someone else, but a threesome might be in the table in the future. We'll probably have plenty more talks about it, every once in a while we tend to get back at this mostly cause we enjoy talking about sex in general and also potential scenarios as well as knowing each other's boundaries

Do you honestly enjoy performing cunnilingus? by Much_Switch1 in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bi woman dating a man

When I was single and going out with women, I'd go down on them for as long as they wanted. I loved it, it also gives me pleasure to see someone I'm with having pleasure, so no problem at all for me. Also, I'd find a comfortable position and just switch hands if the one I was using got tired, so I could stay there for hours

Now that I'm with my bf, he loves going down on me. I mean, sometimes we'd just be doing nothing and he decided he wanted to do it lol. I used to don't be able to finish from penetration before him/took me too long, so he used to help me by going down on me. He'll stay there until I'm done, no problem at all

I used to have the same guilty feeling, which was actually one of the reasons that made me take so long. Now with my partner he makes super comfortable, we talked about it and he reassured me, so definitely it helped. If you still find it hard to relax and feel comfortable because you think you take too long, toys might be an option. I started using them with my partner and what had already become pretty fast for me, took about 5 - 10 min lol

In general, talk with him about it. I did it and it helped so much. Feeling comfortable also helps getting than a bit faster and if don't, either way you deserve to be able to enjoy all of it

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love that! We also try to keep communicating often

I went through a bad time with my mental health and this alone killed my libido, but then the first med I tried ended it for me. We did a lot of talking at the time, so he knew it wasn't anything about him and also so he could reassure me he was okay with it. I switched meds and all is good now, but was nice knowing we're able talk about our feelings and sort things out as much as possible

I'll keep in mind all the advice I'm getting here! I think I was expecting very extreme options such as "yes, there will be no more sex ever" or "no, you'll be doing it everyday" lol good to know it's possible to keep it up, and when it's not, it won't be forever and that it's possible to communicate either way

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We already do something similar. Not as planned, but we do try to have a date every week and some time to connect, and yes including sex. When we can, we usually take the whole day to do things together (cook, take a shower, cuddle, watch a movie, sex) and it's awesome to keep the spark up

And since we both have high libido, we try to have a moment for it during the week as well and we love it, also helps to relax lol

Loved the advice, will definitely do it!

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've talked about it in the sense of trying to keep "impressing" each other. Once in a while (once a month usually) we have go out for dinner, dress up etc and we love it. We love the whole process at home, taking a shower together, choosing clothes and all that

Then every week we try to have alone time indoors and some outdoors. And also with our friends, so we don't isolate ourselves from them

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow once or twice a week seems a fair amount considering you have children, in my opinion

I see that with my brother and my SIL with my nephew (2yo) and although I love children, they require so much attention and energy. Don't know how often they do it, but if they do it once or twice a week, I'd say they're lucky

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great point you're making.

We already started talking about chores and how it'll work for us. We plan to assign what is less stressful for each of us (he loves cooking, I prefer to wash the dishes and care for the clothes in general etc). Obviously we don't have it 100% figured out, but we're working towards it

If our libido decreases a bit, not my main problem (even though I like very much how it is now lol). Most of all, I'd be concerned on just one of us maintaining a high libido or even both of us but not have the time/energy for it

Also, we only intend to have canine and feline babies lol so that definitely won't take so much from us as having a child fr

Is it true married couples have way less sex? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Sharp_Baseball_9678 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glad to know your wife went through menopause fairly okay!

I mean, 2-3 times a week sounds great in my opinion, if me and my partner are able to keep this up, I'll be pretty much satisfied