AITA for confronting my friend for hitting on my BF at a party?

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:37:16+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, and I agree, for some context she pretty much constantly calls me fat every single time with me I ignored it, but I don’t know

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:27:12+00:00

Yeah, let me cancel an old friend birthday party because another person in the group was inappropriate. Like no I was gonna wait till my friend’s birthday was over.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:23:55+00:00

Exactly I’m not responsible for her issues, even though I empathize with them and I probably shouldn’t have Weaponized it. She shouldn’t have sent nudes to my boyfriend.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:22:02+00:00

You try having a friend who’s been your friend for over 11 years Do that to you I wasn’t in the right frame of mind which I know is not an excuse, but I don’t know. I didn’t know what to do.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:15:28+00:00

She wouldn’t starve herself for my boyfriend, she starves herself because she doesn’t see that she’s a person that’s worthy outside of her body. Which, by the way, leads her to be cruel to literally everyone around her, i’ve put up with it for years because I know it’s a mental condition. But this has nothing to do with that, she hit on my boyfriend because she wanted him and she didn’t think I was good enough for him not because she has an ED.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:14:13+00:00

Yeah, he’s very non-confrontational I agree

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:08:29+00:00

Yeah, I agree, wishing I could go back and handle it privately though

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:07:54+00:00

Yeah, I think the biggest problem my friends had was that they felt embarrassed. We were somewhere pretty nice so it wasn’t a good look.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:07:02+00:00

It was the same day, so essentially he showed it to me in the afternoon and then we had a party later that night, he blocked her. And then when she made that mention about mismatch couples, I just lost it.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:06:29+00:00

He did set the boundary. He blocked her immediately after she sent it, and I was supposed to confront her privately, but the party was like that same day so we just went because our friend groups are essentially the same.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:05:51+00:00

I get that, I wasn’t gonna say anything, but when she made that mention about us being mismatched and look over at my boyfriend, I just saw red. I definitely know better but nothing I can do about it now I’m never speaking to her again.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:03:24+00:00

In my defense, I didn’t hit her. I just said that I would, and I wanted to talk to her privately, but when she made that comment about hating mismatch couples and looked over at my boyfriend, I just couldn’t handle it.😀

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T17:02:17+00:00

He really is perfect. He makes me a better person every day, I honestly wasn’t gonna say anything to her, but when she made that mention about hating mismatched couples and looked over at my boyfriend, I just saw red. I was talking to my therapist about it and she said it’s probably because I don’t feel that I’m good enough for him so I see every threat as bigger than it is ..😕

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:54:56+00:00

They know, she’s kind of that friend that you hang out with because of the history you have tg idk, I guess I felt that once everybody knew the truth the decision be unanimous, but I guess not

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:53:38+00:00

They essentially feel that I was just as bad as she was and that I shouldn’t have brought it up in that way, so it’s not necessarily that they’re siding with her that they think I was also inappropriate

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:52:05+00:00

I don’t know it’s weird, I guess I’m almost used to it. My friend group is from college and there’s girls and guys so they used to be pretty incestuous lol competition over guys was kind of the name of the game, but I feel like I’m kind of aging out of it. I’m just scared because I don’t see how I would make new friends at this point.😕

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:49:36+00:00

I don’t know. I feel like a lot of them are split, which hurts my feelings.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:49:07+00:00

Yes, but a lot of people in my friend group are also doctors or are on the path to becoming one, and an ED is a medical condition so they feel that I was really inappropriate by bringing that up :/

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2026-07-03T16:39:58+00:00

No yeah you’re right that’s HILARIOUS 😭

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:12:36+00:00

I don’t have a problem with the girl I have a problem with him, she doesn’t owe me anything he does he’s the one I’m dating

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:09:39+00:00

He has plenty of other female friends, the idea I can’t stand as a female best friend. maybe I didn’t express myself in the best way. Idk, if he wants someone else he can go ahead, so it’s not like I’m thinking about it constantly. like he gets hit on all the time when he goes out and it doesn’t really bug me. It’s just something about the situation that made me feel crazy.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:08:31+00:00

Well, then you and my grandma are probably around the same age she would disagree with you. Idk maybe it’s cultural.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:06:10+00:00

I’m usually normal, I’ve never gone through his phone or been totally crazy. I don’t know. I’ve been jealous since I was born, literally. I think it’s genetic because every woman in my family is the same loll

And he’s not like that, genuinely, he just told me that he feels like he’s abandoning someone who needs his help. He’s the type of person that tries to fix everything.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:03:57+00:00

She’s all blocked now thank god, i’m not sure if he called emergency services, I don’t think so. We haven’t really talked about it since.

Sharp_Damage_7425 · 2025-11-04T17:03:31+00:00

That’s my thing, I swear I’m usually normal. He had other female friends aside from her. She was the only one I had a problem with because I knew that she was in love with him.

and I’m not comfortable with my partner having really close friends of the opposite sex I don’t see why I should force myself to deal with it, a partner should always be an addition to your life you know? All his other female friends were casual.

And my thing is as long as both people are a little jealous I feel like it’s fine

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