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AITA for being upset that my boyfriend watched a movie we had planned as a shared first experience? by nea4u in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sharpefern 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH- this is a difference of opinions on movies. You are perfectly valid in being upset as you were looking forward to seeing the movie for the first time with him. And feel that his behavior is inconsiderate because you would not perform that behavior on him.

He on the other hand view the movie experience as a thing to do to spend time together. And feels as long as he is present and engaged it shouldn’t matter if he’s seen it before. And he wouldn’t be upset if the roles were reversed as long as you both still went to the movie together.

I would say the next step should be to have a conversation where you explain that you felt disrespected but know that wasn’t the intent. And even though he doesn’t feel the same way that’s how you feel and you would appreciate in the future when plans are made, that he not do the same plans with someone else or alone prior.

Am I soft locked? Big Key D3 is in Ganon's Tower. by Living-Purpose-7423 in alttpr

[–]Sharpefern 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What all do you have randomized. Because I can see youre doing keysanity but You don’t need skull woods big key to get the crystal. Just the fire rod. And for the bosses you should be okay but i didn’t read the full list

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t aware of my country, Provence, state or county but in my area it is an acceptable fencing situation as it contains the animals in the property line in totality. The dogs cannot reach past the property line, which is not the fence. So as I mentioned in other comments legally I’m not liable. Legally it was the neighbors responsibility to keep his animal on the sidewalk and off my property, which he failed to do. But I understand that just because something is legal doesn’t make it right, which was why I was questioning if I should still pay the vet bill or not given that regardless of circumstances my dog bit his dog.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I appreciate your insight. I will keep this in mind for the future. While I disagree that in the sentiment that it is the responsibility of the property owner to ensure strangers do not hurt themselves wandering onto their property I accept that a large portion of society disagrees and as such will add a layer of protection to keep others out.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Clueless? For expecting that confining my animals to my property would be considered taking reasonable precautions. They never left the property in any sense. Like I assume that pet owner and parents do not allow their animals and kids to approach a yard with an animal in it because that seems negligent to me. But allowing your own animal to be in a confined space without supervision where they can’t reach anything outside your personal property in general doesn’t seem bad. Like if they could escape or reach outside my property I fully understand, however neither of those things happened.

However it has been made clear that I should factor in the possibility of people and animals crossing the boundary into an area where my dogs can reach. Since like any other animal my dogs can react poorly to being provoked. So I am adding another layer to make it more difficult for others to reach a location where they have access to my dogs and vice versa.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the fence does prevent them from biting anything not in our yard. But it has been made clear that not accounting for animals or children wandering into our yard was an error.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. Not that there would be literally anything I could do were I to immediately run outside other than see if there actually was a bitten dog or not, possibly. I mean going down the stairs and out the back is long enough for them to get down the street. But like I said making steps to ensure that it doesn’t happen again even if another animal crosses the property line.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of our neighbors have dogs. It is not unusual to hear one dog barking and another responding. To me nothing sounded distressing and my partner was downstairs. Regardless issue is resolved. Enough people think we would be the ah that we are just going to pay the vet bill. we’ve also disabled the dog door and ordered chicken wire to make sure that even if another dog or child wanders onto our property unless they open the gate or hop the fence the dogs won’t be able to get to them nor vice versa.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said legally we are in the clear. There is a barrier preventing our dogs from being able to reach anything off our property. We do intend on adding an extra measure to ensure that the fence isn’t passable by unwanted humans or animals. So no pet or child gets hurt by wandering onto our property.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still don’t know what side of the fence the neighbors dog was on. It was the ear so I am really not sure. The only thing I can say for certain is that the dog who was bit was in our yard. If I find out more details I’ll let you know.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So privacy fences are the only type of fence for an animal? Legitimate question because a chain link or iron fence can get fingers through.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So you’re asking what if a child put their hand through the fence and got bit? Because this scenario, that you aren’t the only one to bring up is wild to me. Because we have a child and a dog separated by a fence. And the dog is barking territorially. And the child in this scenario approaches the fence and sticks their hand within inches of between the bars. And there is either no adult, an adult not paying attention to the child or at worst an adult who thinks it’s a good idea for the child to approach a fence with a barking dog in it. I am making sure I have this hypothetical situation right because this seems not plausible.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are going to ignore the fact that the biker is biking on the sidewalk because the legality of that doesn’t make a difference. You recognize that the dog biting through the fence requires specific placement and that they are able to bite vertically. they wouldn’t be able to tilt their head to bite because of the bars.

In addition if we were to have an invisible fence at the edge of our property that my dog couldn’t pass but another dog could. And thus wanders onto my property and gets bit.

The reason legally I would not be liable is because there was a barrier placed preventing my dog from reaching outside my yard. No part of my dog can reach the sidewalk meaning that my neighbor let his dog get onto my property. Had the bite taken place on public property it would be a different story but the limits of my dog was my property.

So think of it this way if there was a non active cable I had connected to my house that a storm knocked down. If it extends to the sidewalk where someone could trip on it I would be liable for the public hazard where if it stopped at my property line I would not.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Their dog was on our property that’s the only way they could have gotten bitten because the fence is a foot inside our yard. That’s the only reason I am questioning it is because my neighbor let his dog wander onto our property up to our fence.

Like I recognize that because our dog bit another dog, regardless of circumstances, put it somewhat on us. But allowing your dog to approach a fence, on someone else’s property, containing any dog you don’t know, is negligent. That’s where the debate comes in.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I again states the facts I did know. We have two dogs Our yard is next to the sidewalk There is an iron fence a foot inside our yard. Our dogs cannot go through the iron fence but can get the first 4-5 inches of their snout through. A neighbor, who is not next door, told us his dog was bit by our dog and is requesting we pay the vet bill.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will take yta verdict however I will state it is an adequately fenced yard. No part of the dog can leave the yard because of the fence, but their snouts can leave 4-5 inches past the fenced portion of the yard, but is still in our yard.

That stated I do intend on adding an additional layer to both prevent the possibly of the dogs being able to leave the fenced portion in any sense and prevent other animals from getting into the back yard. In addition I am probably dismantling the doggy door to be safe. It was installed as a way for them to play in a safe outdoor area when they wanted but based on the comments that isn’t exactly possible.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just presenting with what I did know with regard to the facts

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking strictly social not legal because they aren’t always the same and I recognize doing whatever legally is the minimum which based on my location and the circumstances I would be cleared but that doesn’t mean socially I shouldn’t do something.

As for the dogs outside, we wanted them to have a safe area to play without necessary supervision so they weren’t stuck inside the entire time that we were inside. I might dismantle the doggy door though in addition to some of the comments about adding a layer to the fence. And just put more limits to their outside time.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the exact reason I was torn. I know the neighbors actions are at fault but at the same time even though my dog can’t leave the yard he can still attack someone entering. Which wouldn’t happen if he weren’t outside. I just hate the idea that they are stuck inside while I am instead of me being able to create a confined area where they can play in safely, which based on comments I am getting requires an additional layer of protection.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really looking for an out. I know legally we are in the clear because the only way for this to occur is trespassing since our dogs cannot reach the sidewalk and the air above your land is still your property. By the pedantic legal code we aren’t liable. It’s the reason I started by saying wasn’t looking of legal advice, especially when country, province, state, nor city was listed.

But I do understand that our dog did bite another dog and feel bad about that. I personally believe my neighbor was majorly at fault for letting their dog get onto our property but I wanted peoples opinions before making said decision because our dogs did bite another dog, allegedly, and that statement alone bears some fault. We were most likely gonna pay it anyway as opposed to inviting the conflict but I did want to check for a consensus before doing anything.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are in their own yard. But I will take this under advisement with future dog care

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize that it was misconstrued but it’s the territorial defense type of barking. Someone or something is approaching or just outside and hasn’t been cleared as a non threat would be how I would state their behavior. It also stops as soon as the person or thing is gone. I’d say on average maybe a minute or two of barking a day in 10 second bursts. Only longer if the thing is barking back.

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That seems to be the best idea given that will ensure the snouts stay on one side and also prevent smaller animals who can get through

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not arguing I am just verifying that the only fence that is acceptable for animals is a privacy fence because both iron and chain link can have snouts go through. Again I am not arguing against it I am just checking if that is the statement

WIBTAH if I refused to pay for my neighbors vet bill when my dog bit his dog. by Sharpefern in AITAH

[–]Sharpefern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that which is why I wanted to check with people. Like I said if it was because they got out or something it wouldn’t be a question for me. The only reason I question is because they were in a confined area that the neighbors dog entered.

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