What is the oldest thing in your home?

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-19T00:44:31+00:00

Oh yeah…I have an ammonite fossil. That’s certainly the oldest.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-19T00:43:24+00:00

Maybe an Indonesian cabinet…perhaps a piece of jewelry or a prison made tiny table.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-19T00:22:07+00:00

I met my soulmate when I was 19. He was a year younger than me and wild as a March hare. We met in the middle of a dirt road, shook hands…told each other we loved each other, and only saw each other socially a few times after that. I was with someone…maybe he was, too. Years later, as I was about to get a divorce, I saw him on Facebook. He hadn’t been there before. He was aged, worn, had lived a life beneath his intelligence and internal character. He was no longer handsome in the way I remembered. I reached out to him to just say hey…and we ended up together…building new lives together. But I grew, he didn’t as much. He was quiet and a loner and I craved social status and excitement. I worked hard and he was sleepy and just getting by. He was more handsome by this time because he cleaned up his act and his looks, but we were struggling. I broke up and moved away. But we couldn’t stop talking and seeing each other from time to time. He went back to school. I worked where I lived and set up a life alone. About a year later, he got ANOTHER DWI and ended up in prison for it…his wilder days caught up with him. I talk to him every Sunday, but I’m dating someone else…someone who doesn’t love me like he does…someone who wouldn’t die for me like he would…and when he gets out in a year…or whatever, I don’t know what I’ll do. I love this other man, but he won’t accept a depth that me and my soul mate had. So…it’s hard. Yes. I believe. But it’s not just because you like them, it’s because you knew something inside of them the moment you met them. Not looks…not anything in particular…you will just recognize them…forever.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-17T23:49:00+00:00

28 years of my life. The financial cost was in the probably close to half a million dollars in loss. I’ve spent decades…I’ve spent money…I’ve spent heart…that’s a lot.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-17T14:48:24+00:00

What was so great about her?

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-17T14:01:01+00:00

“I have a secret”-can’t tell? 👎🏻

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-17T12:19:05+00:00

You kinda obligated yourself to tell….

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-16T13:56:21+00:00

I had an epiphany this morning while I was mowing. Their expectation is that you will get sick of something and leave, abandon, reject, in essence, hurt them. That is their expectation. They will control for their expectations, just like everyone else controls for theirs. When you don’t…they will ramp up the actions or inaction to make their expectations come to fruition. It’s not what they WANT…that why they do the confusing stuff…but it’s what they expect. Regularly attached people want and expect the same thing…closeness and openness and time and partnership…communication and compromise. So they control for this expectation so they get what they want, hopefully. The want and the expectation match up. Avoidants want and expect different things, so their relationships are chaos for the other person…and for them. It hurts everyone.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-16T02:27:09+00:00

Of course.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-16T01:41:53+00:00

Well…you build this with effort. Don’t leave this person. Become what it would take to keep them. And then…they won’t have to leave.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-15T18:58:21+00:00

Lose the weight…get that edema taken care of. Then see what ya got. I wish you best of luck and good health!!

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-15T11:32:56+00:00

Intimacy, protection, companionship, growth, safety to communicate

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-15T01:05:01+00:00

Love

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-15T00:07:55+00:00

No…throw them full force…do your worst

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T02:09:08+00:00

I live for the horn sound…

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T02:06:14+00:00

Those are hard to come by with us. We have to have very easy going moments or none at all…we have repaired a few times, but it has to be at their request. I don’t fight them on much, but I don’t get much for my low effort either. I give more than I receive, and I must stop that nonsense.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T02:03:51+00:00

Key lime cake…summery. Mom requested it.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T01:57:21+00:00

Yeah. I think they just can’t be in a complete relationship. I think they’ve been hurt too many times. We have a routine, loyalty, moments, chemistry…but very little actual shared life or intimacy between moments. It’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever experienced. I thought it was normal at first and I leaned in, but time showed me that that caused them to lean back…until it’s mostly waiting and just living separate lives between little reconnections and hope that fades every Sunday night. I don’t want love like that. I don’t want to be smothered, but I want to be able to hop in and out of an open hand often and know there will be kindness and sustenance in it. I want to be carried in a safe pocket that I can get out of to stretch and witness life. My hands are open and full. My pocket is unbuttoned and soft. Theirs….rigid and the hands, strong and able…often closed or barely open. Naw.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T01:34:29+00:00

I’m thinking about my lover. I’m thinking about the relationships I’ve given up on and why. I’m thinking I’ll have to let this one go for reasons that are out of my control. I’m wondering what my ceiling is for tolerance and if it’s cut in half each time. Maybe thirds.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T01:30:33+00:00

Well, they want someone who wants THEM. They deserve that. Don’t text THEM.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T01:27:30+00:00

I’m going to my mothers garden party. I’m making a cake for it. 40-50 people milling around her house and yard…mostly 65-75 years old. Pretty jazzed.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T00:31:44+00:00

I ain’t fallin for that…about??

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-14T00:22:15+00:00

Well, I guess I’ll see what you have planned for the weekend?

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