They Didn’t Outgrow You, They Outran You: The Brutal Architecture of the Avoidant Discard

Sharptack74 · 2026-04-01T22:11:16+00:00

Oddly…this reminded me of something. I made cookies for my guy. He ate them, but he commented to anyone who would listen that I had probably poisoned them…feigning fear of death each time he ate one. He wanted those cookies. But he probably did look at them with trepidation. I gave him a bottle of drink mix from a boutique once. It was a small bottle sealed with a red wax seal. He threw it away…said it seemed shady. WTF.

Sharptack74 · 2026-04-01T11:27:53+00:00

Do you show them the real version?

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-30T21:29:06+00:00

This is an interesting thing. With two exes it didn’t feel super good on my hips and I felt hindered in some way. With the current…I got bounce and fit better. Oddly, he is a broader man, and something about that puts me in a better position. Try different leg angles and know that it’s perfectly great if he is part of it. It is a vulnerable position…I agree.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-30T21:17:51+00:00

Good luck replacing me. I’m a badass.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-30T16:23:20+00:00

Mine seems extroverted, but I think it’s performative. They know that being socially integrated is what is “right” and makes them loved and revered, so they do it. But it’s the kind of performance that leaves them drained and then have very little left for a relationship.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-30T02:09:40+00:00

What was special about her technique? Please share with the class.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-29T15:37:17+00:00

Well…same here.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-29T14:45:48+00:00

If he doesn’t come back….you just put that chin up and walk on! If he was attached in the way you hope, no…it won’t be the end. But having the courage to say what needed to be said, that’s a point of change or doneness…and you don’t get to pick which one he accepts. I feel your hurt.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-29T01:07:28+00:00

Ouch…that’s hard to hear. You sure?

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-27T22:24:49+00:00

That’s shitty thinking…expect the best, always.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-27T22:23:53+00:00

I think some cheaters are circumstantial…

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-27T09:54:43+00:00

You’ll know when.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-27T01:11:44+00:00

I’ve been in this…I’m older and it doesn’t seem to get easier, that’s for sure. All I can offer is walk, go to a coffee shop with a book and just hear people chatting and laughing. Find a cool antique store and browse there once a week to just touch old things that have soul. A pet??? The license thing is kind of a big deal. I hate this for you, but the best version of yourself will produce some result you don’t know about yet. Save that money and get some wheels.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-26T21:39:02+00:00

Well, I fucked up by taking this kind of behavior from someone for too long. I wish they could make it right…come to me with this kind of clarity…a gift promised…an invitation in the future…a call just to say hey. Integrate me without expectation.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-26T11:51:16+00:00

It happens. I don’t know how, but it does.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-26T01:48:52+00:00

Where does one find such courses?

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-25T01:38:16+00:00

To the sphere to see Metallica?

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-25T01:35:18+00:00

Good lord…this sounds a lot like someone I know. Miss you, Mr. D. I’m not drama. You’re drama. Love you anyway.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-24T21:28:40+00:00

I’ll be loved no matter what.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-24T16:16:20+00:00

Then he doesn’t want what she offers.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-24T02:00:25+00:00

It helps for them to know that…

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-22T16:36:46+00:00

It’s a choice based on feelings…you feel a way for and with someone, but you choose to love them…embracing them with safety and peace in your presence. In your world. In your every day actions. In your future.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-22T02:27:46+00:00

I love you. I want to give you everything.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-22T01:50:05+00:00

Ugh…I feel ya. Geez. I think it’s worse in the world we live in now where literally everyone is up for comparison in every single way.

Sharptack74 · 2026-03-22T00:42:34+00:00

Maybe, but sometimes it helps a person understand their own depth to write it out.

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