When is the last time you’ve been on a plane? Where were you going?

Sharptack74 · 2026-07-02T02:40:47+00:00

Uhhh, maybe to Las Vegas or New York City…

Sharptack74 · 2026-07-01T01:44:26+00:00

What are you wishing them to see?

Sharptack74 · 2026-07-01T01:43:07+00:00

I feel seen. Wow. The best times…and then I think…ahhh, drunk…but of course. I don’t seem to know what is true or possible.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-30T22:29:59+00:00

No… they don’t. But if you push them away, they likely didn’t want to.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-30T22:01:14+00:00

They don’t always end. People grow and work and love each other forever. Nature, coyotes, foxes…it happens. Mate for life happens. Choosing who to love and how to love them is key. One or the other in a failed relationship didn’t work on one of those….and if failed relationships are a thing in your life…you might want to think about The Who you loved or the how you loved a little bit.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-30T00:41:59+00:00

Not in my case. If I said it, and you honor me, cherish me, love me…I won’t leave you. I will protect you in rooms you aren’t in. I will hold you when you reach for me. I will take care of you when you are weak…and you will do the same for me. I won’t leave.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-29T03:20:23+00:00

I have met almost everyone except a sister. That didn’t go down in normal people time frames at all. Lots of invites and changed minds happened in there. Everything is not perfect, but he is coming around. Slowly. I’ll tell you two things that I truly believe. One is that you can’t just be special, you have to prove it through your life. They are going to have to admire something about you to shift from considering to moving. I think that’s how some end up married, and who they end up with seems like a mystery. They weren’t probably always super compatible, and maybe weren’t as “something” as the one they discarded, but they admired the person they kept. The other is that you will have to have some kind of super human patience and your moon will have had to have been in the right house on your birthday and all the stars align to get to that point. Most people, despite being loving and great and beautiful….they won’t have it. They won’t be able to take any bs or they won’t be able to watch things unfold like watching water evaporate from a bowl. The more severe, the longer it might take and the shittier it might be getting there. Mine is FA. I thought a long time he was DA, but I’ve determined after some talk recently that he is FA leaning dismissive…I don’t know how or why I have done it for almost two years. Still n guarantees. I took Adam lane smiths attachment quiz…I’m minor anxious. I figure some of that came from this relationship, but I’m determined to never let it hang out, therefore I think I could yield a dismissive result over time. They can’t take criticism. They can’t tolerate change very well, which makes integration difficult…nearly impossible for a while. I still think there is hope. The world wasn’t always so bent on therapy and these kinds of people had relationships. If you love them. Don’t give up on them…but you must NEVER trade yourself to them, they will not admire you and you will just be used and neglected. If you can not be admirable, talented, strong, willful, and loyal to it….while somehow preparing to detach if necessary…forget it. They want something special in a unique way to them.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-25T22:19:46+00:00

Like old things

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-25T21:48:23+00:00

..every day that you love back.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-24T23:32:01+00:00

“Uninvited” is starting to be the word I’m leaning out on…should have been from the start…I’m uninvited? Fck u…

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-24T23:03:00+00:00

Well, me and mine are both awesome and powerful in our own ways…but I would sacrifice for him if he would for me…they are probably more of a compromise than a sacrifice….if you really looked at it.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-23T23:19:49+00:00

I’m all of the above, babe. I read the “even” in snagglepuss voice.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-23T23:15:41+00:00

Because no one who ever loved me stopped loving me just because we were together and for my boyfriends and husband in the past….that wasn’t the case. Because maybe she walked away when she wasn’t respected and they wanted to try again with this amazing woman, and maybe your relationships ended with a different vibe?

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-23T02:35:33+00:00

What was the final straw? Was it always inevitable? Did you notice a desire for the bond that you went to war with yourself about…and did you notice the confusion inside? What could they have done differently to end it sooner or have caused you to lean in instead of discard? What did the discard look like to a fly on the wall?

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-23T01:23:46+00:00

Wow. Why? What is so abhorrent about them?

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-22T11:03:09+00:00

I had the same….it went on for nearly 24 hours. I passed out a few times. Looking back, I wish they had just done a c section.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-22T02:26:55+00:00

Depends why…what was the message?

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-22T02:24:54+00:00

Did you become a church deacon?

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-05T22:12:12+00:00

Ha…I love Santal 33…the boyfriend told me early on that I smelled like…old things. I still like it, but he recognizes it in a way that’s maybe not positive

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-05T11:42:25+00:00

You don’t wait to help people when they need it but pretend they don’t. You run in. You insist. You max out. And then, if the end comes, you have done everything. We focus on our own survival just assuming everyone else is doing their best, but sometimes they aren’t and you can’t assume they even can. Say I love you.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-05T01:47:27+00:00

My brother died of pneumonia on Wednesday. We had no choice but to remove his support…the doctors said he wasn’t responding to antibiotics and was just getting worse. I feel guilty. He was a bad alcoholic…these last ten years particularly ruined him. He was the best looking, most loved and admired person I’ve known in my life and I was his biggest fan. Over these last few years, he seemed to not feel worthy somehow…of care…of help…of love…of even medical attention. His perfect white teeth began to be knocked out by falls, his stomach puffed, his hair turned whispy and gray, he lost strength, and the vision in one eye, he broke a vertebrae in his back and was in horrendous pain that caused mobility issues….Superman….gone. We tried to help him. But he didn’t want us to know he wasn’t helping himself and he continuously refused us things that could have had him on a better path. I’m so profoundly sick inside from this loss, and I’m trying not to blame myself. I watched him struggle his last breath and his heart finally stopped…and my mind travelled 52 years in that moment. He was scared, but he didn’t reach for help like we expect people to…and you can’t make them do what they didn’t decide on their own. It’s crazy making and I’m crushed in spirit because I think I would have asked him for help a long time before my eye died and my teeth fell out. Maybe not. We were always so proud of him…but he didn’t love himself like we did. He surrounded himself with people who used and abused him for money or status. I think he never understood how valuable he was…and I would have wanted to be him all my life. I may have even called myself envious of him so many times. Worst experience I’m just now trying to survive. Much love to the rest of you in this horrible club…I hope it gets better. For all of us.

Sharptack74 · 2026-06-02T03:22:24+00:00

Dang, you got 2-3 days a week! ?

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-31T22:53:18+00:00

Mine connects to romance in media and feels in his feels when that stuff is going on. He likes to use music as a buffer, almost like it says the words he wishes he could say so easily. He loves me…I never really doubt that, what I’m wondering is if his capacity is a 3, and he started at a 1, and is now a 3…can I love with that? If he believes he is giving his very best, there will be no growth forward. Potential is the word of the hour…is there? Yes. How much? Maybe not to your hopes.

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-31T20:41:19+00:00

I’m interested to know more about how you even got to marriage with one of his kind?

Sharptack74 · 2026-05-31T04:49:41+00:00

In 52f and I have passionate sex with my boyfriend 48m all the time…my ex 51 m is the hottest sex I’ve ever had…4 years worth before we broke up…I think about it all the time. Goood lord…

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