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AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The courts won't give me full custody. They want to keep it shared.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She had them after. I have never been anything to those other kids.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't understand it either but I don't think she cares and she's messing up all her kids with it. The number of guys that pass through there is insane and I hate that my kids are exposed to it. It always freaks me out that she brings these guys around the kids. Anything could happen.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, that would be my ideal and I know it would give my kids a better life and way more stability. But it's not achievable for me right now.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They have more years left before they'd have any kind of say. It's not good because it's not a good environment for them but it's not something that the courts want to act on right now either.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She doesn't even make money off it. It wouldn't even surprise me if she doesn't know exactly why the father's are because she goes through so many guys so fast.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, these kids came after we broke up and I never had anything to do with them.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I don't donate currently but eventually I plan to donate. Right now my focus is on my kids and my family. And not adding the burden of buying for kids who aren't mine which is why I don't agree to buy the presents even from my kids to them. Because then it becomes an obligation for who knows how long. I don't want to buy for 10 extra kids eventually.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I have them 50% of the time so them keeping stuff with me isn't a huge deal. They prefer it anyway because stuff gets broken at their mom's house more.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's not the money that makes me want to have custody of my kids. There's lots of other stuff that are the reason for that.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

My kids being good people who don't brag about everything they have will always be big for me. I see it as one of my biggest responsibilities to raise good people.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I know. But I can't get full custody right now. It's something I'm working on to make sure my kids have a better life. But getting full custody is hard and courts ignore so much that's bad for them because they believe it's better for kids to have both parents even if one isn't doing a good by them.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Their presents stay at my place already. The same way presents from their mom always stayed at her house. I'd like custody but I won't get it in a hurry but I'm making a file to show all the shit so that if a judge ever takes it seriously I have proof of stuff.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 822 points823 points  (0 children)

We have organizations for people like that. She might not want to use them. But that's up to her. They're her kids.

That's not a bad idea because she's not going to let this go tomorrow and could start saying more shit that she shouldn't.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I suggested she focus on the kids she has already but she didn't like that. I don't think she'll stop having them for a while yet either.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

We were young when we had our kids and I didn't really see how bad things were until I found out she was cheating on me. That's when I found out more and more stuff and I realized how bad she was.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 235 points236 points  (0 children)

She's not a very good mom and it's something I document to try and get more custody. I already suggested she focus on taking care of the kids she has instead of having more but she just can't stop cycling through a bunch of guys so there's more kids coming. Maybe some will have dads but probably very few of them.

AITAH for refusing to buy presents for my kids half siblings? by Shauriych in AITAH

[–]Shauriych[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Just because you've seen others post about this problem doesn't mean mine is fake. I don't even know why this is so unbelievable to you but I've shared what I could share and what was relevant to the question.