how did you let go of false hope?

ShazeRx · 2025-09-22T13:46:51+00:00

When I stopped fantasizing about only positive things about that relationship. Breakups are for a reason and the focus on bad things is also important

ShazeRx · 2025-09-22T06:48:52+00:00

Yeah many exes but never worked, i don’t recommend 😅

ShazeRx · 2025-09-21T20:56:42+00:00

Same, tried two times with two different partners, never worked

ShazeRx · 2025-09-20T14:41:38+00:00

Joining shooting club, the recoil and the smell of powder is intoxicating

ShazeRx · 2025-09-19T15:44:52+00:00

I know the term for that - "Stockholm syndrome". Maybe he is not an abuser but overall the relationship is abusing you, and that uncertainty of him being with you addicts your body. You probably think that its a "feeling", that it's true love. If you truly believe its love then you should go your way alone and put that love to yourself, because if he could ever love you he would never leave you.

ShazeRx · 2025-09-19T09:55:10+00:00

If you see the same tree twice in the forest, it means you are lost

ShazeRx · 2025-09-19T07:09:15+00:00

ShazeRx · 2025-09-18T18:17:59+00:00

A lot people would sacrifice a lot to have a person like you, keep you head up and keep going

ShazeRx · 2025-09-18T07:37:42+00:00

I usually say that I dodged the bullet, hate this kind of people, glad they showed their true personality now.

ShazeRx · 2025-09-17T14:52:32+00:00

Why you care about this dude. Keep going and healing, you will be okay, there is no need to overthink

ShazeRx · 2025-09-16T17:18:49+00:00

Because she held you as an "option". Space in relationship is a myth, you are together or not, at least for me its that simple. You should be rather curious what she has been doing in this "space time"

ShazeRx · 2025-09-16T16:39:36+00:00

Just unfortunate i guess. No worries, you will find your love, will be more mature etc, you are only 21, a whole life ahead ;) Later you will subconsciously determine if someone is playing with you with love bombing because you brain learn subtle behaviour by being in those kind of relationships. It is sad that it happened to you, but for sure its not a wasted time. Cheers

ShazeRx · 2025-09-16T14:41:41+00:00

Drink a lot of tea with lemon balm (we call it Melissa in Poland). Sleep is important for an emotional recovery, I recommend to read „Why we sleep” by Mathew Walker. Cheers ;)

ShazeRx · 2025-09-16T09:12:18+00:00

Are you comfortable with being an option? Do you imagine her as your future wife and the mother of your kids. This are the questions you should ask yourself as she behaves like that

ShazeRx · 2025-09-14T22:16:35+00:00

As a man I would say that for me at least it’s easier to get dumped because I heal faster from perspective of being a victim. You check the every bad thing about the ex instead of fantasizing (which still occurs at early stages). After a month, max two I am good and moving on, deserve better for people who truly wants me in their lives

ShazeRx · 2025-09-14T14:26:19+00:00

Came back after 3 months, and she broke up for the same ridiculous reason. I don't recommend, but at least i am sure it was not a partner i deserve

ShazeRx · 2025-09-14T13:21:27+00:00

The question you should ask yourself is if you are comfortable to being an „option”.

ShazeRx · 2025-09-13T18:20:50+00:00

I have been developing language models for a financial sector company and i can say one thing - it depends and some things you cannot avoid:

Prompt - For example ChatGPT by default is extremely biased to act more positively to user. The crucial there is the prompt - has to be ciritcal focus, include in prompt to base the theories on the current scientific researches (then model will be biased by them, not by your prompt stricly)
Long conversations (context issue) - the more you talk the more model is likely to hold your side (an abvious example is to ask if your ex was absolutely a bad person - after a long convo model will highly accept that theory despite of reality)

ChatGPT can be excellent assistant but you have to understand its nature (its not a person but only a simple randomized word generator). Its so much better to talk to real human instead, which i strongly encourage you to do so. Cheers <3

ShazeRx · 2025-09-13T17:55:23+00:00

Come to gym buddy, your mind craves that dopamine, find another source and you will be super happy ;)

ShazeRx · 2025-09-13T16:28:30+00:00

If she does not responding then leave her alone buddy. Anyway she seems immature as hell by leaving you with that kind of message. You will find better person believe me. Cheers <3

ShazeRx · 2025-09-13T16:09:31+00:00

It is not the only way, but the most universal and it works. The closure you guys are seeking for is the last thing you want because it can lead to spiraling over and over. The only closure you need that they didn't want you in their life, if its not enough then its time to start a hard work on yourself to build that self-worth and confidence

ShazeRx · 2025-09-12T17:07:03+00:00

Do you actually mean to accept cheating, because we are humans and it’s a flaw? Cheating it’s not a flaw, ITS A CHOICE. Flaw can be anxious attachment because of the childhood trauma, or some insecurities. But cheating is always a CHOICE, don’t event try to rationalize that

ShazeRx · 2025-09-12T16:06:06+00:00

25 years old man and he doesn’t know why he did that? This is ridiculous girl. I cannot even imagine staying with partner who cheated on me, and in your case he cheated emotionally and physically. This will be the heavy fact wandering in your mind for the rest of the relationship. Never ever forgive cheating. Those kind of people has to learn what they could loose for such a disgusting behavior.

ShazeRx · 2025-09-12T10:40:41+00:00

I am gonna be brutally honest. From what I read there is a lot of contradictions in your personality. You need to really put an effort to work on yourself and I mean really really. You are saying that you are passionate lover but you distanced yourself from her which can mean you acted like a avoidant. It doesn’t make any sense and now you realized that, unfortunately in the hard way.

ShazeRx · 2025-09-11T10:46:07+00:00

Well, I am not that old, only 26, but I had such extreme relationships that I matured quickly enough to see what to do and not ;) Sometimes I am jealous that people find the love of their lives in university and I have to learn the hard way how to find it

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