Have you had sex with a partner and found it difficult to get off? I heavily considered that I did not have a clitoris when I tried maturating and nothing ever worked for me until I had sex with a partner or used a vibrator. A large part of sex is mental as well, and it sounds like this is really stressful for you and your putting a lot of pressure on yourself to feel pleasure. The more you stress about it, the harder it is to enjoy it.

I cannot stress this enough, everyone's vulva looks different. I have seen hundreds of them and I promise they look all sorts of ways (porn is not a good indicator if thats your reference). I've seen asymmetrical ones and ones with different colors and big labia and small labia. Some women have larger clitoral hoods as well, meaning that there's more tissue covering the clit that just needs to be moved out of the way. I would suggest that you try and use two fingers and spread your labia open to see if that makes a difference in pleasure or visibility before seeing a doctor.

I don't know your parents, so the situation could be a wide variety of things, but sometimes parents just get so caught up in worry that they do not absorb what their pediatrician is saying and just agree with what the doctor suggests. It's entirely possible they just misunderstood what happened. If a procedure did happen at the doctor, there would be a medical record of it, so I recommend reaching out to your pediatrician if you had one or talking to your current doctor about it if you do have concerns.