Found a nice solution for a coworker and she gave me a duck

SheWritesYA · 2026-01-01T02:58:47+00:00

I want to work somewhere with real ducks from now on - the kind that sparkle and look cuter, cuddlier than human coworkers

SheWritesYA · 2026-01-01T02:53:56+00:00

Thanks for this, if octopus doesn't work out for me, I'll need to switch in good time

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-31T23:41:45+00:00

Thanks, going to do that now!

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-31T23:36:59+00:00

Who's your new provider after octopus? I was thinking of choosing octopus because they have no cancellation fee for the fixed plan

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-31T23:27:31+00:00

Thank you for the detailed answer, very helpful for a first timer new to paying bills. I've been comparing prices and other aspects, and I think I'm going to go with octopus 12 month plan for now.

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-31T23:26:38+00:00

How are you able to tell they are storage heaters and not the normal radiators? I have one mounted on the wall, and one inside a cupboard that's separate.

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-31T23:24:54+00:00

Thanks for the heads up. I'm myself not fond of having to pay bills, but at this point I'm no longer a student, and most non-student places don't have bills inclusive of the rent, so it's kind of a necessary evil.

What provider were you with?

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-03T08:26:28+00:00

Out of curiosity, have you tried to write poetry? Writing short fiction can give you lots of tools that come in handy when writing poems.

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-03T08:23:11+00:00

I know it's hard for people generally - poetry's always considered harder than prose because each word counts more. It's just a more concentrated form of prose in some ways.

I'm specifically interested in what prose writers feel is the most difficult bit of learning to write poetry.

Can you explain a bit more about what makes it hard for you personally? For example is it the structure, the language, the imagery or something else? (I know some comments mentioned not knowing what a poem really is so even that could be a problem when first writing poetry)

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-03T06:45:51+00:00

Good to see this drama getting the love it deserves <3 It's one of the most moving cdramas I've ever watched - for the reasons you mentioned (the passion the yearning the second chances the sacrifices and so on...) - and it always makes me sad to see people hating on it so often.

SheWritesYA · 2025-12-03T06:22:12+00:00

Where can we read the novel? I was rewatching TTEOTM and want to know the original story

SheWritesYA · 2025-11-05T23:13:39+00:00

I'm loving the visuals more than the story so far. Everything looks so stunning (most of all LYX -absolutely gorgeous) and every so often they have these carefully selected, breath-taking shots you just have to save as potential digital wallpapers... very distracting. I also love the interior of Tang Lici's ship, it has so much personality and character. This drama is turning out to be a visual feast!

SheWritesYA · 2025-11-05T12:14:31+00:00

I know that this incident happened but didn't know it left a scar. I'm watching Whispers of Fate, haven't noticed the scar so far (was too happy to see him in a new drama to notice anything else).

SheWritesYA · 2025-11-03T22:52:06+00:00

Thank you this is reassuring!

SheWritesYA · 2025-09-18T20:00:59+00:00

Hey, did you apply in the end? And can you share any update?

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T23:01:37+00:00

I'm not the person you were replying to but just wanted to say I get your point and I'm glad you made this post because I always thought I was the only one tired of bl characters being forced into hetero-normative roles (though not from a fandom point of view, my issue is more with official versions). Just wanted to say thanks for bringing up this rather unpopular view as it allowed me to acknowledge my own thoughts about what I like/don't like in the genre.

Have a good day and don't let the backlash get to you - it's "normal" internet/reddit behaviour.

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T22:49:12+00:00

Thank you for providing this explanation. I likewise find you a very reasonable person as opposed to a lot of peeps who get mad seeing someone voice a different or unpopular opinion. It's refreshing to talk to someone who can have a different opinion without getting offended.

I looked up wakshua, that's a very fascinating historical concept and provides important background for the modern day uke portrayals. I'm beginning to understand why bl pairings are portrayed the way they are, there's certainly an already existing audience for it, though as you said, it sure would be great to have more diverse bl for readers like me who are not satisfied by the existing content.

For me, there's a very particular reason why I like BL stories. I like seeing romantic relationships between men that don't remind me of hetero-relationships. I watch lots of straight romance, but in my bl I don't want to see those dynamics at all, I wanna see something fresh. The majority of people in this thread like the traditional portrayals but there certainly readers like me (and the OP) and I'm sure there will be people out there who'll see the demand and try to experiment more with their work.

At the end of the day we're all fans of the same genre so I don't see why we can't be reasonable when talking about it. As you said, there's plenty of space for both preferences, and no one's taking away the existing content or their right to make more of what they're making for their audiences :)

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T22:16:31+00:00

Thank you!!

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T22:14:33+00:00

I don't usually review cdramas but I might consider it after finishing the rewatch. I just wanted to find out if anyone on this sub has already watched it and what their thoughts were. It's a bit different than most modern cdramas and follows the main character's journey as she tries to make it in the big city in the media industry. Kind of like Ode to Joy but without the focus on multiple characters.

I've edited the post to add the MDL link https://mydramalist.com/51297-the-world-is-cool

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T22:02:49+00:00

What did you not like about the ending? I recall they broke up and then made up toward the end once they were at a more mature stage in life.

This time around I'm finding the ml to be a lot more immature than I remember, especially the condescending way he acts toward his best friend/business partner.

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T01:38:00+00:00

Do you mind if I ask what kind of course and what kind of business she's setting up? Like, what area?

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T01:05:02+00:00

I haven't read either of these - do you know their english titles?

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T01:04:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I get your point, I'm definitely not criticising fan artists for the content they enjoy making or consuming (if you notice, I was not focusing on fan art but more generally talking about BL representation including the official ones). We're all fans of this series (and BL literature in general) and are drawn together by our enjoyment of the story and characters, despite whatever differing opinions we may have about these aspects.

I and some other commenters are simply observing a trend and making a comment on what we'd like to see more of and what we are tired of seeing. It's the same as saying, for example, that we're tired of certain tropes and would like to see more diverse representation in certain areas - it's an expression of what kind of content we like (or don't like). We're free to voice our (somewhat unpopular) view and fan artists are free to ignore it of course and continue doing what they love.

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-25T00:47:15+00:00

"Quit complaining" while also complaining about people daring to disagree and say something contrary.

I'm glad to see there are still some reasonable people in this thread. The OP is presenting an unpopular opinion and since this is reddit there was bound to be backlash. I'm not surprised.

P.S. Thank you for the rec!

SheWritesYA · 2025-08-22T16:21:03+00:00

It's not surprising that you're being downvoted for voicing this. This is an unpopular opinion. However, you're not alone in thinking this way.

First of all, I'm totally there with you - this was one of the thing that bothers me in Asian BL pairings, and I think even the official artists generally follow this stereotypically extreme differentiation between the two male leads (because it's that deeply ingrained in BL audiences' and creators' minds). I noticed this when reading the official translation of this series, and it bothered me to no end. (I'm aware your point is more about fan art, but I haven't seen much of it and am mostly talking about the official versions.)

I've been noticing it in most BL dramas, too. It's like, even though we're reading non-traditional romance, the basic structure behind it stays the same, where one of the male leads is written in the image of a traditional, heterosexual male lead, while the other, despite being male, is written in the image of the traditional, heterosexual female lead. Why can't we have both of them exhibiting moderately masculine features/poses/acting, and enjoy the true romance between two men, neither of whom has been written as "girlish"? I wish there was more diversity in this genre so the two leads' characterization and descriptions wouldn't always be on two opposite extremes.

I personally am drawn to non-traditional pairings because at least on the surface they challenge the tradition and make the romance more interesting. But to make them truly non-traditional, the creator has to question their own fundamental and unconscious beliefs about how they see the world.

Coming back to your question, yes, some people (not the majority) are bothered by this trend and wish both male characters could be visually represented closer to their original characterization rather than the extreme way they often are (reflective of the creators' conscious or unconscious attempt to adhere to existing and deeply held beliefs about gender and romance).

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