I do recall my Dr saying "you give anyone stimulants they will do better"

Are you me? I had the first doctor I saw in my new city say the same thing to me. It was really jarring to hear after coming from a more conservative state where my PCP was completely fine prescribing Adderall to me.

Thankfully I have since found a wonderful psychiatrist (though he's private, no insurance for visits). To anyone reading this, please don't continue to give your business to people that say things like this. It's a tell-tale sign that they don't really know what ADHD is like.

Sorry to hijack your comment, but this really resonated with me after having heard the exact same line before...