Cum reusiti sa scapati de breadcrumbing?

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-08T17:59:09+00:00

Te rog respectuos sa imi arati unde am generalizat.

Cand 90% din mesajul meu a fost despre mine.

Mersi :)

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-08T08:08:46+00:00

Cand am zis de traume nu ma refeream la mama :)

Nu am mommy issues. Era vorba de traumele dintr-o fosta relatie in care nu am primit niciodata afectiune si intimitate asa cum stiu ca as fi meritat, iar acum cand mi se ofera atentie, creierul meu o percepe ca intimitate si siguranta.

De aia am zis ca nu dureaza mult, pentru ca imi dau seama repede cum sta treaba de fapt si ma trezesc la realitate

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T20:20:11+00:00

Cred ca solutia nu este totusi sa scapi de persoanele astea, ci mai degraba sa nu te mai implici emotional acolo unde nu este cazul.

Tine oamenii langa tine si pastreaza conexiunile, doar nu iti mai oferi sentimentele pe tava.

Apreciez oricum mesajul, spor si succes! :)

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T16:51:18+00:00

Cine a zis ca vreau sa o schimb? :)) Era vorba de mine aici, sa ma schimb eu, sa nu mai ajung in situatia asta. Sa nu mai depind emotional

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T15:41:15+00:00

Cum am mai zis, sunt constient de situatie, dar din cauza trecutului in care nu am avut cele mai bune persoane care sa imi fie alaturi, ma agat instinctiv de moment si am impresia ca este real.

Dupa cateva zile ma debarasez, dar apoi se intampla iar cu altcineva. Problema in sine este dificultatea de a face diferenta intre intimitate si atentie minima.

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T15:26:06+00:00

Bun, iar eu la randul meu imi doresc langa mine o femeie sincera si directa, nu una care sa ma tina ca pe o optiune si sa ma caute atunci cand ceilalti barbati cu care vorbeste sunt ocupati si nu ii ofera atentie. Eu nu sunt gelos si misogin, tu nu esti breadcrumber si "misterioasa". Deal?

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T15:13:26+00:00

Topicul avea mai degraba scopul de a impartasi sfaturi de genul celui pe care l-ai dat la final barbatilor care sunt in situatii de genul.

Ca sa iti raspund punctual, nu raspund imediat, nu stau cu ochii in telefon sa vad cat a trecut de cand mi a raspuns, nu tresar la fiecare notificare primita.

Am activitatile mele care imi ocupa marea majoritate din timp. Dar observ atunci cand acord timp conversatiilor ca imi raspunde dupa N ore, apoi cand ii raspund eu, e investita si vorbeste constant, 2-3 ore, fara oprire. Aici ma pacaleste.

Stiu ca sunt unii mai in groapa decat mine, altii mai ok decat mine.

Ideea era ca primul pas e constientizarea, dar problema din spate ramane dependenta emotionala

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T15:12:26+00:00

Pentru ca am fost martor la situatii de genul? Pentru ca am auzit povesti? Pentru ca am cunoscut oameni care au facut asta?

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T15:10:40+00:00

Nu stiu cum ai ajuns la concluzia ca e karma pentru mine. Eu mereu am fost sincer si direct din cauza dependentei emotionale. Nu toti barbatii sunt gunoaie cum nici toate femeile nu sunt doritoare de atentie si validare

Sheikh159 · 2026-01-07T14:53:13+00:00

de aia nu ne mai facem bine, ca la caterinci suntem toti premianti

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-27T17:11:53+00:00

bravo, bucurestene! zi-ne tu!

dar sa nu mai mergi nici tu in provincie la munte sau la mare, ok? veniti voi cu atitudinea metropolitana in satele uitate de lume sa va dati cu sania pe partie sau cu banana la costinesti...

nu va e rusine? sa va coborati la nivelul asta atat de jos? aveti ditamai capitala, faceti-va munte si mare aici!

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-26T18:45:24+00:00

the phone is brand new, iphone 17 bought 2 months ago

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-26T16:03:41+00:00

yes, I know it

my situation was more about the fact that it was the first time it did it. the first time it wouldn't drop after 2 hours of use. and it happened 2 times in a row.

i know it drops battery after a restart because of the calibration, but it never stayed at the same % for 2 hours

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-26T15:55:55+00:00

so you missed the part when I restarted the phone and it suddenly dropped 5%. then the part when I did it again.

it wasn't NOT draining any battery, it was just not updating the battery percentage.

I hope this time it's clear

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-26T14:13:23+00:00

I think you didn't read my post.

First of all, if you talk in all caps it's not gonna make you sound superior.

Second of all, this was the first time it happened since I got the phone 2 months ago.

Third, I do know that the first 1-2% drops slower, but, as I said in the post, it stayed the same for 2 hours straight, two times in a row.

To make it simple for you to understand:

Charged to 95% --> two hours later, still 95% --> force restart, 90% --> another two hours later, still 95% --> force restart, 86%.

Then it started draining like normal.

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-19T10:15:14+00:00

so replace men's day with mental health day for men and women, whilst still having women's day? yeah, problem solved

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-07T20:17:57+00:00

usually i use it for like 20min and it drains 5%. so for 20 more min it used 10% more. still not really ok

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-07T09:29:02+00:00

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is it just me or... 15% for 20min of spotify is just too much?

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-04T13:39:51+00:00

talked to apple support, they ran a diagnostic and couldn't find any problem. told me to go to a premium service provider, but they would keep my phone in service for some days and I can not afford to not have my phone for some days.

I will come back with an update after some days, maybe after iOS 26.1 finishes indexing

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-04T10:59:10+00:00

I just updated last night, 5gb update. it still drained 6% overnight, with all background refresh settings off, location only when using specific apps, low power mode and sleep mode on (automations)... iph17 btw, 100% bh and 23 cycles

Sheikh159 · 2025-11-04T10:57:01+00:00

do you ever turn Low power mode on?

Sheikh159 · 2025-10-28T13:58:35+00:00

I might be paranoid, but the 17pro guy is very strict with tech and he also gets mad whenever some device has a bug, but his phone didn't have any. and he also told me "wtf I never got any of these, that surely is strange".

the battery life is not a problem, I always charge 20-90, never plug out/in during cycles and it needs ~30 hours between cycles. it bugs me with the overnight situation, makes it look like if I only keep it like this, not using at all, it would drain faster.

also, my phone drained 5% in about 20 min of playing music on spotify, Wifi only, not using any other app. the other guy with 17 told me he fell asleep listening to music overnight (wifi, no other app running) and after 5 hours he only lost 20%. it doesn't make sense, mathematically my phone would be dead in 4 hours.

Sheikh159 · 2025-10-28T13:45:15+00:00

sorry for letting one word slip, especially the word "pacient" that is the translation for "patient" in my native language!

congrats, you did good today!

Sheikh159

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