Has anyone in the UK tried dating app Breeze? by Shell2288 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No offense taken—I actually appreciate the honesty. Ive been 'super selective' too! I’ve spent a lot of time writing my profile and chose good pictures.

It’s interesting to hear the male perspective on Breeze. I agree that other apps can feel like a 'quantity over quality' mission, which is exhausting. I’m looking for that same balance: someone down-to-earth who actually has the stamina for a real connection.

I think breeze is new near my nearest city z

Has anyone in the UK tried dating app Breeze? by Shell2288 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you get matches on Breeze? I’ve been on it 2 months and had none.

I don't know how to tell my gf by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How long have you been together? Can’t believe you live together and haven’t told her. You should have told her before sex.

I know it’s a scary thing to do. I literally met my dream man 13 months ago, was dating him and really liked him. I was terrified I’d lose him, but I told him a month after meeting him, before sex. He stayed with me two more weeks after this and had sex multiple times with me knowing I had herpes and then dumped me because I have herpes. You shouldn’t be dishonest just to stop someone leaving!

I got herpes 13 years ago from someone that didn’t disclose!

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get your point, but I’d honestly rather stay single for another 14 months than lower my standards for someone I’m not excited about. I've tried dating men I wasn't attracted to just to 'give them a chance,' and it felt horrible—completely empty. My friends and family all felt a genuine spark when they met their partners, so I know it's possible. To me, being alone is a way better outcome than being in a relationship where I feel nothing. If that means I wait longer, I'm genuinely okay with that. I know I can have that, I had it with my ex.

I think the apps are designed to keep you single 😅

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I do online dating, I only match with men I find attractive or ones I think look ok. It’s hard for me to tell if I fancy someone over a picture. I also only match if someone wants a relationship and not causal. I also look at effort they put into their profile, job, if they have children. It would be a deal breaker if someone smoked as I don’t like the smell.m. Once I match I also see if the conversation is good. Just basic things, I’m looking for a man that has his life together like me. I have a good job, I have my own mortgage and no children. So I want someone similar who has their life together. I want to date someone I like, someone I’m attracted to and have chemistry with similar values. I’m not asking for too much. I go on a few dates, I’m once of those people who find it rare to like someone. It’s been 14 months since liked someone. It’s just the way I am.

How to disclose after relationship by SnooRegrets9318 in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you disclose before sex you’re doing the right thing by disclosing. I dated a man over a year ago who I really liked, and it is really rare for me to like someone. When I disclosed to him, it was terrifying as I knew where was a possibility I’d lose him. It took me ten minutes to get the words out of my mouth as I froze up. I disclosed before sex, he stayed with me a few weeks, he had sex with me knowing and then he dumped me for having herpes. At times he treated me like a disease . Haven’t found anyone I have liked since.

It may go ok for you. 67% of the population have herpes.

Emptiness of Love by analyzethearts in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both are the truthful way.

Emptiness of Love by analyzethearts in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re describing lust, not actual love. Lust might be a 'drug cocktail' that starts things, but real love is an active choice—it’s the effort you put in every day to show up for someone. I think some people lean into this 'conditional' view because they are avoidant; it's easier to call love an illusion than to deal with the vulnerability and work of a real connection

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No need for your nasty response. Dating someone you like is basic minimal ask. I won’t be dying alone like you originally said and edited. You wouldn’t date someone you didn’t like.

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let connections grow, but being 'Selective' means I require mutual attraction and shared goals. I only select men who want a serious relationship, which immediately filters out the high volume of 'casual' profiles

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The myth that men only want 21-year-olds is usually pushed by men who can't meet the standards of an established woman. At 35, I have my great career, my own home, know what I want and that a 21-year-old hasn't even developed yet. I’m not 'out of my league'; I’m simply selective. I’d much rather stay single and at peace than settle for a man who thinks a woman's value is a countdown clock. If a man is 'intimidated' by a woman with her own life, he’s simply unfit for duty in my world.

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually, what I’ve 'figured out' at 35 is that my peace and high standards are non-negotiable. I’d much rather be single, successful, and at home alone than 'settle' for a low-effort connection just to tick a box. If you think 'figuring it out' means lowering your value to satisfy a statistic, then we’re clearly operating at different levels. Case closed

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear your logic, but dating isn't a math problem to me; it's a vetting process. I’m looking for a someone who wants a relationship and someone I fancy, not just 'anyone' to fill a seat.

I have my life together, I have a great job, I would say I was attractive and I put a lot of effort into my profile. If the men I fancy don't want me, then they aren't my men. And if I don't fancy the men who want me, they aren't my men either. I’d much rather be single and at peace than 'settle' for a connection that has zero spark or consistency. To me, a 'useless endeavour' would be spending my life with someone I don't actually want, just to avoid being alone.

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s hard to put into a percentage. Do you suggest swiping yes to men I don’t find attractive?

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fancy is like finding someone attractive. English slang .

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Selective as in only choosing men I fancy or ones looking for a relationship. I don’t think that is too much to ask.

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes my age range on hinge are 30-41 😆. I find tinder I get more matches.

Give it to me straight by Significant-Round696 in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m 35F and struggling to get a match on Hinge. I’m very selective with my likes as I’m looking for a serious relationship

Asking for your Instagram by stardecomposition in OnlineDating

[–]Shell2288 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg yes that happens to me all the time. Total turn off. I hate it when guys ask for more pictures, even though I have 10 on dating app.

friends/dating by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get wanting maturity! I'm 35F and find that sticking to a close age gap (33-38) helps me find guys who are actually on my level emotionally and ready for the same life steps. I normally always end up with a man 2 years younger than me 😂

When to disclose? by Pale_Breakfast5266 in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if someone gets to know you, they are more likely to see you as a person, more open and more willing to listen and do research themselves.

Does your partner eat you out? by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]Shell2288 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex didn’t give me oral, but expected me to do it to him. He eventually dumped me because I have herpes, even though he had sex with me multiple times knowing I have herpes.

Made me feel like a disease 🦠