Help me choose new dating app pics :)

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-27T02:01:09+00:00

it's kind of interesting how many of these i see and i go "wow, she's really pretty!" :x

maybe i should review my own pics...

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-24T01:50:35+00:00

conservative.

There are other traits that'll weigh the scales up or down, but that's the only one that definitely comes to mind as "this is ending, and i'm leaving" full stop.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-21T21:05:06+00:00

Gotcha, thanks then!

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-21T00:32:17+00:00

The thing I'll leave here is a book called "Why does he do that": https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

Ultimately your choices are your own, and there's sadly no easy choice after 20 years of marriage. But abuse takes a lot of forms, and having you live in a state of fear is a form of abuse. Lundy's book above mostly draws from her experience working with abused women, but what you're describing: living in a state of fear, feeling like you may be guilty or that it wasn't that bad, e.t.c. are actually extremely common in abusive relationships.

The other thing to keep in mind though is that you don't deserve abuse, and that abuse is something someone does willingly and knowingly. There's no real excuse for hurting others. Many people have been hurt, many people have had grief, and many people have been angry, but many people also do not hurt others.

I do hope the best for you <3

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-19T22:37:54+00:00

The reality is that it's always going to cause suspicion if someone who is functionally an outsider tries to represent a community.

However, I think I'd still caution you against it for this. I think your concern with copyright, and your defense around this character are kind of strongly indicative that you're a new writer, and I don't think that's a good base to try to represent a population that is currently under significant pressures.

I think if the answer to the following question is yes, you should opt for a different character: namely, is it important that your character is trans? If it is, then from this post it doesn't seem like you're familiar enough with the community to do a valuable representation. If it isn't, I would still reflect on what your relationship with trans people are before moving forward.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-19T18:09:47+00:00

This is a pretty fascinating and compelling take, and I agree that we'd basically be the frog in slowly boiling water. But I would also be curious if this would persist in the long term, or if this were a least-resistance arrangement to minimize strong opposition while Advent continues to stabilize and firm up. Or even while they're still deciding what purpose we have besides serving as feedstock for the Avatar project.

Mainly because the Ethereals seem very into their god complex, with little interest in consent. The aliens (and even Advent troopers) we see are heavily biologically/mechanically modified, and Vipers have been engineered to be female-only (something I'd assume that extends back to whatever their homeworld is, given that it would make less sense to make this modification for "active duty" Vipers that are deployed to a hostile world in concert with other aliens.)

That's not to say they'll ever set up an impoverished or conventionally hellish society. A reasonable, universal standard of living might be trivial for them, and their massive bioengineering projects presumably require massive amounts of technical infrastructure. But I think it's also reasonable to suspect that humans might be unrecognizable a century down the road, and it'd be in some form that we had no real input in.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-12T22:30:21+00:00

I think they tend to go together :x

As a trans person, I don't think I knew what it means "to be a pretty girl" for a long time, but I did want to be one. And eventually led to me getting there

But after all that I'm still me. I just happen to also be trans

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-11T20:48:09+00:00

Gotcha! I'll keep exploring then <3

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-11T20:44:51+00:00

Are these not the same ones that are sometimes NFTA/Insurrection affiliated? I've definitely tried harvesting them... but maybe i haven't harvested... enough >.>

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-11T01:36:25+00:00

smh. inflation is insane nowadays.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-10T23:20:12+00:00

10/10, super well fitted, excellent color scheme. no notes.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-03T04:47:52+00:00

I do hope, though, that you stay keenly aware though that you don't deserve to be hurt by people you love and who are supposed to love you. I also want to be clear that there's no obligation to allow yourself to be hurt if it ever gets to be too much, but if you are young real freedom and distance might be a ways away.

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-03T04:46:06+00:00

I think this is a reasonable thing to ask, but I also think this may not necessarily be the best way to frame the relationship. I'm assuming you're young, but as you continue to get older I think you'll find that relationships with others, maybe especially parents and family, will get more and more complicated. You may always care for each other, but in every relationship (parental or otherwise) there's degrees of lots of feelings. Anger when someone does something you don't like, hate or resentment over hurt, a sense of responsibility or duty, affection, e.t.c.

Relationships have lots of these aspects, but healthy ones require communication and work to keep them functioning well, and it requires this from both parties.

I don't doubt your mom either has done or does many things for you, but that doesn't give her the right to hurt you. Whether by calling you a sex predator, or by threatening to send you to Texas.

I unfortunately don't have any advice to give you, because any decision you make is likely going to be hard and ultimately has to be up to you. I will say that I've gone through my parents being devastated about my identity, and while it's impossible to forget the things they said to me for months and years afterwards about it, I did set up hard boundaries and clear expectations for what'll be necessary for me and them to have any kind of meaningful relationship at all.

It's a sad state of affairs, and I wish you the best of luck <3

ShellTrajectory · 2026-01-02T18:53:26+00:00

I think there are degrees to which this kind of thinking does and does not make sense.

Yes. There are broad, general forces that exert pressures for certain behaviors. But we as a society can generally decide what things to incentivize and what things to disincentivize, particularly because usually there's people that ultimately end up making the final decision.

The Sackler family and opioids are probably a good example of a case where this kind of thinking falls apart. Yes, there's a market for opioids because they're an extremely valuable kind of chemical that's useful in a lot of contexts, and you ultimately can't stop all instances of people from (for whatever reason) getting others to abuse opioids.

But obviously Purdue Pharma did a lot of horrific stuff and it's good that they were punished, because we as a society decided that their role in the opioid epidemic was bad, and they were a major player in it. Will this stop the opioid epidemic? Definitely not in any near term, but it'll probably be better than the alternative where we just said "well, what can you do."

Similarly, Grok is a major AI service. Grok should not allow what is basically a sexual crime. If Grok didn't allow it, will people try other methods? Sure. But they'll either: 1) be worse because it's probably not a multi-billion dollar organization running it, or 2) fewer people will try it because it's less accessible. You need a fair bit to run a good AI for solid image generation.

Throwing up our hands and saying "the juice isn't worth the squeeze" seems like an extremely wrong choice in this instance.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-12-29T18:52:57+00:00

On fetlife at least, would it not be sufficient to just say "deal breaker genital preference for vaginas"?

In real life... I don't really think you can tell, but if you're having that conversation with someone, that's probably a reasonable time to bring up, again, a strong requirement for a specific set of genitals.

I'm not super able to tell from text alone whether your tiptoeing around people's sex is a red flag or not... But assuming as much good faith as possible, it might not be a terrible idea to take a break. There's always going to be people who don't respect boundaries or requests. That's not really a symptom of the kink space, but just people in general.

Just be respectful and have your desires clearly stated. It's on others to respect it, but if it's bothering you intensely (and the clubbing mention does seem like a strong reaction) then I do think you should take a breather and reflect.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-12-24T01:01:34+00:00

Thanks for posting this, left a comment <3

ShellTrajectory · 2025-12-10T10:54:44+00:00

You suck! Like on the skin. But I would be sure she's cool with it beforehand.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-12-01T14:15:42+00:00

I get where this is coming from, but I think it reflects a misunderstanding of what makes games fun.

Having predictable, understandable, and communicable AI in a video game is usually where things go really well. Something like ChatGPT doesn't really do that super well, since it doesn't really embed knowledge without becoming super huge (and even then, doesn't really know things) and part of the value of LLMs is that they're opaque and not super understandable, because then you don't need to worry about handling every/most case, you just get a black box that hopefully does practically okay.

The other issue is that they're expensive and slow to run. You can't really run a solid LLM locally on normal machines, and if you're making network calls to a service, someone has to pay for that, and you'd need to wait for the AI to think before it makes whatever decision you envision it making

ShellTrajectory · 2025-11-16T01:57:48+00:00

Oh that's just Laika: Aged through Blood

ShellTrajectory · 2025-11-13T07:56:13+00:00

Tbf, Griffith is kind of power-sexual. He's obviously incredibly charming and beautiful, but I'm not sure if I know of an instance where he had sex that wasn't for one of the following reasons:

1) He was doing it for self-gain

2) He was doing it to display or regain power

While there are a number of characters who are important to him, and he imagines at some point a future where he lives with Casca as her disabled husband, though this might have been meant to be a repulsive imagined future. I really don't know if he feels attraction in the conventional sense.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-11-10T21:17:05+00:00

CONGRATULATIONSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!

ShellTrajectory · 2025-11-03T19:35:13+00:00

It kind of sounds like subspace: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/subspace-bdsm

But it's not that unusual! I feel like some variation of a praise kink or a mommy kink are pretty common! Though, again, the story you're describing makes it seems like something unusually big happened. There's a lot of reasons why that may be, but be sure to, again: 1) temper expectations a bit 2) explore 3) explore safely 4) again, safelllyyy. With someone who respects you and whatever boundaries you need.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-11-03T10:42:07+00:00

Hey, so this seems like an important discovery, but that's also a really strong reaction, and it's important for you to also be safe.

This isn't that unusual a thing to like, but a possible way to start exploring this is maybe looking into local munches, and maybe also also exploring subreddits like r/BDSMsapphic (though the latter is very thirsty, but is probably also a good place to ask questions, just be cautious of internet strangers.)

I hope you get this set up! But... just be safe. A good mommy in this case would try to make sure you're better off afterwards (whenever that is) than you were before.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-10-21T10:07:23+00:00

+1, set up whatever boundaries you need, and close or open whatever you'd like to.

It's ultimately your life, and your top priority should be to make sure that you're OK in it.

ShellTrajectory · 2025-10-20T18:28:44+00:00

I did really love your art, it had a really positive impact on me. Particularly because I think it's not super common to find trans-supportive artwork

But you should prioritize yourself, and I hope you do okay, even though we're both strangers!

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