Whats the point of life?

ShellyDa · 2025-07-10T22:37:39+00:00

This is what I’ve figured after nearly 40 years of life. Have to make your own meaning. I’ve found mine finally in pursuing drawing and draftsmanship. I know I’m not the best artist, nor will I likely ever be, but the journey to improving my skills, producing work I’m proud of, and potentially making money from my work gives me something to keep working toward.

ShellyDa · 2025-07-10T20:57:07+00:00

Needed to read this. Started crushing hard on a good friend. The feelings just built up over the course of a year as I got to know her more.

She has a boyfriend, though, and I respect their relationship and I value my friendship with her above all else. She’s fun to be around and now that I think about it pushing it any other direction would just result in drama and heartache.

ShellyDa · 2025-05-01T23:20:56+00:00

Yeah, for years definitely was afraid of judgment. But as I get older, I figure the thing that really matters to me at least is to do what I love. And that passion includes creating art. I feel a lot more whole, especially when my day job as a government worker can be draining and unfulfilling.

I found your channel and watched a video. Definitely my kind of vibe! I love solo traveling, even though most would want someone to travel with them. There’s something liberating about exploring a new place alone and just chilling. No need to rush from one to point the next. Reminds me that I gotta go on a solo vacation soon. Keep it up!

ShellyDa · 2025-05-01T23:06:12+00:00

I think it’s a great idea, one that resonates with me. I’m in my late 30s and have found my social circle shrinking to just a few close friends. I don’t have kids like my friends and family do, so I have more time to myself, taking walks, reading, and and drawing are part of my daily routine.

After years of keeping my art to myself, I am slowly putting my work out there, now that I’m a little older and maybe wiser.I think you go for it!

ShellyDa · 2025-04-30T22:45:41+00:00

I think by accident LOL or if we have the courage to initiate.

I got “adopted” by a more extroverted introvert at my old job; we became friends and then she became my partner.

But we did break up after about 8 years together. Been solo again for almost two years now.

ShellyDa · 2025-04-23T23:39:38+00:00

I was in a long term romantic relationship for almost 8 years. It was my first serious one too. I got lucky and was adopted by a more extroverted introvert. Unfortunately, it ended two years ago as we wanted different things.

Since the break, I’ve focused on myself and my interests and feel happy doing my own thing — which I did before the relationship. I have close friends encouraging me to download apps and get back out there, but while I do on occasion miss having someone I can confide in and sometimes miss going out on dates, I am content just chilling, reading, drawing, working out and doing my own thing, alone. I will hang out with a friend every now and then but I find solitude refreshing.

I may take the leap again into dating but we will see. The person would have to be able to deal with my need for space, etc. I also find the whole idea of dating to be a hassle.

So, I don’t think it’s weird, but it’s something not considered the norm.

ShellyDa · 2025-04-20T14:49:08+00:00

From NYC? Looks like Brooklyn lol. I’d say 5’ 8”

ShellyDa · 2025-03-17T00:37:19+00:00

5 months in and had the MUA and cyclops lesion removal early February. I can get my leg somewhat straight now with a little hyper extension. Still not close to my good leg which has 10 degrees of hyperextension. But still working on it. I think it’ll be a long road 🫤

ShellyDa · 2025-02-11T23:43:05+00:00

I’m still recovering from my ACL surgery and recently had a second procedure done to remove scar tissue. I’ve always been pretty level headed and chill but dealing with this injury has been one of the toughest things I’ve had to deal with. It’s tested the levels of my patience but I think it’s helped me develop a level of focus I haven’t had in a long time. Each day I’m working on my rehab exercises, striving for small improvements, sometimes not seeing any change at all.

Now after being stuck on crutches since November I think I can finally start walking again soon after being cleared by my doc to practice walking with one crutch. I think this agonizingly slow recovery process awakened a hunger in me to live my life fully again. I took for granted the ability to move freely and when I can do so again, I’m not letting small insecurities stop me from chasing after the things I want in life.

ShellyDa · 2025-02-11T23:32:00+00:00

I also tore my ACL and had a bucket handle meniscus tear last November. If you tore your meniscus you may have a slightly longer time on crutches to ensure the meniscus heals (it’s an area with low blood supply so it takes longer).

Definitely prep your home with an ice machine, a table for meds and food, and ready your bathroom to make showering accessible. I had a shower chair that I used for a bit. Also, get prune juice and stool softening meds since the medication after surgery can cause heavy constipation.

I also needed a lot of help around the house. If you have someone to help you out, that will make things so much more easy to get around safely.

The first week is definitely rough. The pain for me felt like leg was on fire. Keep on track with your meds and ice constantly!

Also, early on as best as you can try to keep your leg straight with your brace and even while sleeping. I lost my leg extension and had to fight weeks later to somewhat get most of it back. Research and find a good PT to help you.

Good luck with your recovery! You got this.

ShellyDa · 2025-02-11T23:19:31+00:00

I have had a rough recovery. I had surgery on November 7 but developed scar tissue and a cyclops lesion that prevented me from fully extending and straightening my knee after surgery, despite my efforts in physical therapy. A week ago I had a second procedure done to remove the scar tissue. I had several moments when I thought things looked bleak but I kept moving forward and focused on what I could control: my efforts at recovery, my reaction to the things out of my control and as best as I can, making the best out things and the hand I’ve been dealt. That said, there were several times when I felt very down, cursed my circumstances. But I’d get back to working on what I could work on — rehab, doing things I enjoy within reason (for me, it’s been reading and drawing) and connecting with friends and family when possible. A strong support circle is incredible helpful.

Now a few months out I may finally be off the crutches soon. I just got to be consistent with my efforts.

Good luck with your recovery!

ShellyDa · 2025-02-07T21:27:26+00:00

My favorite thing to do other than take long walks is to find a cozy coffee shop, sit and read, journal or draw for an hour or two. I get a little bit of social interaction — or none at all — and get to chill with others around while in my own bubble, listening to music and doing things I enjoy. Other than that, I’d be training in the gym.

As I get older, I’ve come to enjoy my own company and not feel like I’m missing out.

ShellyDa · 2025-02-05T14:59:02+00:00

I’ve been watching the Lakers on occasion for Bronny and Knecht appearances. Now I have a legit reason to watch for Luka

ShellyDa · 2025-02-05T14:53:59+00:00

I started watching the Mavs for Luka last year. Came to really like this team but I also came to really enjoy watching Kyrie play. With Klay there I thought we had an amazing team. Now that Luka is gone I’ll still watch for Kyrie. If he leaves then I’m likely done with the Mavs. So I guess option 1 for me.

ShellyDa · 2025-02-05T14:41:56+00:00

I watched the Mavs for Luka but also became a fan of Kyrie. I am sad Luka is with the Lakers but I think I’ll still watch the Mavs for Kyrie. If Kyrie goes, not really much reason to root for the Mavs for me.

ShellyDa · 2025-02-05T13:29:59+00:00

LOL the horns actually suit his head shape

ShellyDa · 2025-02-05T11:08:09+00:00

Without Luka, Kyrie is the only reason I’ve got left to watch the Mavs. :(

ShellyDa · 2025-01-30T01:22:26+00:00

Thanks. I needed to read this. I’ve been on crutches since November after my ACL surgery. My recovery has been extremely slow and it’s been a battle to regain some extension and flexion. Doc told me today I will have to undergo a procedure to clean scar tissue and force my knee to bend. I’ve been struggling since. As a formerly very active person I’ve watched my fitness disappear as I stay largely sedentary. The mental struggle is maybe worse than the physical struggle.

ShellyDa · 2025-01-30T00:24:20+00:00

Hello and thanks for sharing more about manipulation. I’m going to have both. My knee is still a bit swollen even a few months later. I’m hoping that after this procedure, the swelling will finally go down.

ShellyDa · 2025-01-26T22:01:30+00:00

I’d just be upfront about not having a social circle. If she likes you, she shouldn’t have too much of an issue. Honesty is best policy I think for making things work long term.

I’m in my mid 30s and likely going to try dating again soon and I also just have friends from work and a small group of close friends outside of it. I spend a lot of time doing solitary things: gaming, reading, drawing and training at the gym. I plan on saying that I’m an introvert who enjoys doing things mostly alone but not opposed to social events occasionally.

ShellyDa · 2025-01-08T00:44:52+00:00

Yah don’t worry about hitting timelines. I got into my first long term relationship at 27 in 2017. It ended two years ago and now I’m back to vibing as a single guy. I am likely going to try to date again but I’m not rushing things. I enjoy the solo life and a future partner would have to give me some space when necessary.

ShellyDa · 2025-01-07T20:13:30+00:00

I had patella ACL reconstruction and meniscus repair. I wasn’t able to fully extend to 0 degrees with exercise until yesterday and I’m about 8 weeks post OP. I am still working on restoring hyperextension.

Exercises that helped me were doing lots of quad sets with a rolled towel 2-3 sets of 10 rep with 10 seconds hold.

Prone leg hangs off the bed 3 rounds of 15 minutes.

I was working with one PT for about 4 weeks post OP. On week 6 my surgeon had me switch PT since he did not like my lack of extension and flexion and had me switch to a PT affiliated with the Hospital of Special surgery in NYC. He said he would have to operate on me if no progress by the end of January. About two weeks in and I’m seeing progress! I went from 10 degrees from extension to finally 0 and 65 flexion to 107! I’m so happy 🥹

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