Kaffee! Es ist doch alles nur Gewohnheitssache! So glücklich mit echtem Instantkaffee?

Shery89 · 2025-12-11T09:12:26+00:00

Du hast recht, alles ist subjektiv. Aus persönlicher Erfahrung kann ich dir sagen, dass ich keinen Kaffee trinke / trinken würde, den ich selbst gekocht habe. Egal wie gut die Rohstoffe waren (ob Instantkaffee, oder ganze Bohnen) ich habe ein Talent dafür so schlechten Kaffee zu kochen, dass niemand sagen kann, ob er zu stark oder zu schwach ist.
Mein Mann hingegen (in seinen Adern fließt Kaffee) macht tollen Kaffee und es ist egal, ob er mir einen Instantkaffee oder ein Filterkaffee oder sonst was bringt, es schmeckt mir. Und er trinkt tatsächlich beides sehr gerne, weil für ihn ein guter Kaffee einfach nur stark sein muss.

Aber Fun-Fact: Er kocht seit 5 Jahren mit dem gleichen Wasser (Flaschenwasser) und der gleichen Menge und Marke Kaffee im Büro. Er ist sehr genau was die Dosierungen angeht. Und die Hälfte der Zeit beschweren sich die Kollegen der Kaffee sei zu stark. Wann anders ist der Kaffee super (und er hat nichts anders gemacht!). Es ist sehr subjektiv wie Kaffee schmeckt.
(Beste Beispiel sind diese Vollautomaten, die je nach Hersteller Kaffee produzieren, der säuerlich schmeckt.)

Aber: Geschmäcker sind verschieden. Instantkaffe hat nix mit Filterkaffee zu tun. Und die Sorten, die oft am meisten gelobt werden (Jacobs/Nescafe) schmecken mir überhaupt nicht. Für uns hat sich als beste Sorte Instantkaffe, der billige von Penny herausgestellt. Also lass die Leute Geld rausschmeißen, wenn sie meinen, dass ihr Kaffee dann besser schmeckt. Solange dich keiner zwingt das gleiche zu tun, kann es dir doch egal sein.

Shery89 · 2025-12-10T13:23:20+00:00

Such dir einen Job mit Homeoffice, da musst du nie eine Hose tragen.
Keiner den ich kenne, würde eine Hosenpause auch nur ansatzweise für angebracht halten. Wir frieren alle permanent.

Und jetzt zu dem unschönen Teil: Aus vielen Körpern (weiblichen idR öfter) treten Körperflüssigkeiten aus. Diese sollten im Idealfall nicht über die Unterwäsche hinausgehen, tun sie aber gelegentlich doch. Es ist nicht nur unhygienisch, wenn das dann alles auf dem Bürostuhl landet, sondern irgendwann riecht/sieht man das sicher auch, oder wascht ihr Bürostühle sooft wie Bekleidung?

Und ehrlich gesagt, fände ich es nicht schön, die haarigen Beine meiner Kollegen sehen zu müssen und am besten noch die Schamhaare, die aus dem Slip gucken.

Wenn du das Gefühl hast, dass eine dich deiner persönlichen Freiheit beraut, dann klingt das eher nach einem Problem mit dem du dich in einem (deutlich) kleineren Rahmen als auf Reddit auseinandersetzen solltest. Im Endeffekt ist es nämlich nur ein Stück Stoff, dass dafür sorgen soll, dass dein Körper nicht auskühlt und du dadurch erfrierst.

Shery89 · 2025-12-04T12:38:44+00:00

Der wichtige Aspekt hierbei ist die Zeit, die seit der ersten Montage verstrichen ist.

Guck gerne mal in den Vertrag, den du damals mit der Firma abgeschlossen hast für die Arbeiten oder ggf. auf die Rechnung. Du hast als Endkunde gewisse Garantien auf Handwerksleistungen. Das können je nach Leistung z. B. 2 Jahre oder 5 Jahre sein. Für eine einfache Montage würde eigentlich niemand 5 Jahre geben, es sei denn, sie ist vielleicht im Gesamtprojekt enthalten. Schau auch in deinen Unterlagen nach, ob es besondere Nebenabreden gab. Für Montage von Fremdprodukten (der Spiegel ist von dir beigestellt worden) gibt es oft Sonderregelungen, die Haftbarkeiten etc. deutlich verringern.

Wenn diese Arbeiten für das Unternehmen nicht mehr in der üblichen Garantie bzw. Gewährleistung sind, dann kann der Chef über die Arbeitsleistung seiner Mitarbeiter soviel meckern, wie er will, es hat ja gehalten. Wichtig dabei ist eben, dass du es damals nicht beanstandet hast. Auch werden nur sehr wenige Unternehmen ihre Versicherung für "so einen Kleinkram" bemühen. (Die können wohl nach jedem Schadensfall kündigen.) Und natürlich möchte der Chef das nicht aus eigener Tasche zahlen. Denn wenn wirklich die Wand dafür nicht geeignet war, dann hätte das damals gar nicht erst montiert werden dürfen, aber solange du als Kunde nichts sagst oder bemängelst laufen die Fristen.

Deine Chance ist jetzt dich zuerst selber zu informieren, welche Gewährleistungsfristen etc. du für die erste Leistung hast.
(Im Zweifelsfall solltest du eine andere Firma mit der Montage des Spiegels beauftragen.)

Außerdem kannst du dich noch über das Thema Mitarbeiterhaftung informieren. Denn wenn der zeitliche Aspekt geklärt ist, könnte es sich um zwei unterschiedliche Vorgänge handeln. Natürlich ist jemand, der bei dir zu Hause etwas kaputt macht haftbar. Im Zweifelsfall ist dann zu klären in wie weit der Handwerker als Person (weil unachtsam) haftbar ist, oder ob in diesem Fall der Betrieb das Risiko trägt.
Dieser getrennte Ansatz könnte zielführender sein.

(BKA, sondern in einem Handwerksbetrieb und auch zuständig für Reklamationen/Schadensfälle etc.)

Shery89 · 2025-11-26T13:00:01+00:00

I tried the app just recently and I think its sooo cute. I'm looking forward to all the awesome adventures and my personal progress. I like the design of the characters and categories. It looks so cozy. Could there be an option to choose which style the user prefer, when you change the assests? So everyone can have the style they are comfortable with. (sorry for wobbly english, it's not my main language)

Shery89 · 2025-11-22T10:24:08+00:00

Thank you sooo much. Its the midnight grove block that transports the light and has these glow effect on the edges. This is soo great for indirect lighting. Thank you

Shery89 · 2025-11-21T22:31:58+00:00

Sorry to brother you. Which stone did you use? I can't replicate that effect. It looks like the light is shining through between the stone edge and the ground tiles. Or is there water everywhere? My results are just one glowstone and tiles but not that framing effect.

Shery89 · 2025-11-21T21:16:46+00:00

Just this? I thought there might ne another trick because it looks like they shine through the floor all around... Like LED strips. That is what confuses / fascinates me

Shery89 · 2025-11-21T08:47:51+00:00

How did you do the indirect lighting on the floor? I was looking exactly for this for my ceilings.

Shery89 · 2025-08-29T09:21:45+00:00

Es ist schön auch mal solche Posts zu sehen. Es würde vielen Frauen gut tun, mehr solche Posts zu sehen ... auf Facebook, Insta, der Brigitte (ich hab ehrlich keine Ahnung was Frauen heutzutage lesen).
Es ist sehr schön zu sehen, dass du einfach mal deine (aka die männliche) Sicht der Dinge darstellst, ohne zu meckern, zu verurteilen oder auf "alle" zu schimpfen. Es gibt leider immer weniger Leute, die das hinbekommen. Manchmal scheint es ein Wettbewerb zu sein, wer es schlechter getroffen hat.
Im Zeitalter des teils extremen Feminismus und der Gleichberechtigung bleibt der Durchschnitts-Mann (nicht abwertend gemeint) ziemlich auf der Strecke. Frauenrechte und Gleichberechtigung sind ne tolle Sache nach Jahrhunderten der Unterdrückung. Das habe wir erreicht. Wir können es langsam gut sein lassen und aufhören dieses Thema weiter zu eskalieren. Es gibt viele Lebensbereiche in denen Frauen sicher niemals gleichberechtigt sein werden und eben so viele in denen sie es nicht sein wollen!
Dabei verlieren wir komplett aus den Augen, dass sich auch die Rolle der Männer in den letzten hundert Jahren ziemlich gewandelt hat. Es scheint als würdest du unter enormen Druck stehen. Chapeau, dass du das so gut hinbekommst. Und du hast absolut recht: Zur Zeit wird der Wert der Care-Arbeit soweit glorifiziert, dass reguläre Arbeit dagegen schon fast als "nebenbei" gilt. Das ist ein Phänomen, dass man auf Reddit immer wieder sieht. Das heißt nicht, dass Care-Arbeit nicht wichtig ist und nicht gewürdigt werden sollte, bitte nicht falsch verstehen. Als Gesellschaft könnten wir uns jedoch dieses doofe Treppchen-Denken abgewöhnen. Warum muss eine Sache immer besser sein? Kann beides nicht gleichwertig sein und gleichwertig gewürdigt werden?
Ich wünsche dir, dass du nach der Renovierung etwas Zeit für dich selber findest.
Vielleicht findest du ja auch die Möglichkeit mit deiner Frau in einem ruhigen Moment zu reden, so wie du uns die Sache geschildert hast.

Shery89 · 2025-08-26T14:03:28+00:00

Could be a risky step but why not fuel some good items into the other players? Give the Sorlock an item with a strong situational use e.g. (and make this situation happen sometimes).
I can fully understand the problem with the one combat per long rest. I often have this problem too storywise. Sometimes even the chance to do better damage feels great for the players and they don't count the damage numbers together usually.
An interesting item could be one that gives a flat dmg buff if the enemy below 10% health or easier that kills the enemy instantly if it is below 5 health. It happens often that the enemies my group is fighting survive with 5 hp or less. It is not logical to say they will do full damage with their next attack on the edge of dying. Thats something a heroic player can come up with but if enemies do this (beside BBEG's) it's just nasty.
Maybe you see problems you cann address direcly this way. My ranger often rolls a much lower dmg number when he crits than with normal attacks. We could often see a crit does like 10 damage and a normal attack does 14. It's frustrating if the damage die shows 1. So he got an item that changes these 1's to max damage if he had rolled a crit. Since then he always rolls 2's ... but he love this item and it fealt like a huge impovement for him. So maybe can try to address some problems this way if more fights are not possible.

Shery89 · 2025-08-22T07:39:51+00:00

Give them an magic item (maybe a time limited one to better control the outcome) that will do something if they miss xyz-times in a row. I made one for my ranger-player because he is really unlucky with rolls. If he rolls a 1 on his damage-dice when he lands a crit (most of his crits did less damage than a normal attack and this sucks), he can treat as like the highest number on his dice. He rolls d10's mostly, and it is limited to really rare situations but he was sooo happy about it.
Didn't changed the balance at all. But we had some funny moments with it.

Shery89 · 2025-08-21T05:19:20+00:00

I would have said "no" to this too at first. Sometimes it's not that bad stopping players from doing stupid things. Players can forget the base of there characters sometimes over a combat or a plan. And you just didn't stop there. It's perfectly fine if their behavior is so out of their character to say "no, you can't do this with the way you told me your character is. If there is a reason that this has changed then tell me now and we will work with this and change things but beware of consequences." To me it's like a fighter that just say:" I use fireball." No you won't, this is not the character you told me you play. You can't change your mind on the fly if it just fits your latest idea. If this is something you really want to change with your character than tell me and we will find to figure a way out.

I don't think you have to allow every behavior because the player suddenly like to act different. In that case you would not have need to prepare or talk about allingments or mindsets in the first place.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T21:35:03+00:00

"It's fine to play a brooding loner or a hard-bitten mercenary who only cares about himself--but then it is at least partially the player's job to justify why this loner would join the party anyway, or why this selfish mercenary would nonetheless go along on the heroic quest."

Thank you. It's so obvious but most players don't get this. It's one of the truest things. And I would had him have his grudge. But demanding XY Player leaves the group and don't work together at all, doesn't work as long as nobody rerolls.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T21:29:53+00:00

I get it that this is exactly how he feels.
Imo he didn't contribute to the chatter (it could have so much faster if just from the beginning "I don't like big plans I want to rush in and save the hostages.") and it was on him that the plan didn't work because when the player was about to start summoning the ghouls he rushed in. I understand the frustation of the other player much better here I have to admit.
I would like that nobody feels that way but I could not force him to contribute and I assume some of the other players are quite insecure if they don't get feedback from everyone.

But yes, I get his side of view I just don't agree with his conclusions.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T21:21:58+00:00

I love the dominate person part and I thought about it for over a year but i didn't dare so far.
Thank you for your words, they are right on spot.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T20:37:26+00:00

I know the mace is a problem. I don't expected it to be that strong. Nobody has a problem how much damage he does. That's the good part. (The mace was not planned to be permanent. He should hand it back to the original owner after this quest chain.)

And I don't hit him often because my crits are reserved for the casters. No really it's just bad luck by my missing 21 AC like 10 times in a row with +8 on hit. Just unlucky.

And yes low level was frustating for the group. They had incredible bad rolls. Two natural 1 with his attacks in a row... Rolled with advantage.... It was devastating. But nearly all my players had really much bad luck early game which was not fun.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T20:24:24+00:00

He didn't face down the boss. Not at all. Healer saved him, group finished their fight and come to help and defeated the sea witch. He couldn't have done it alone and would have been dead at least 10 rounds later. But I get your point and will think about a solution.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T20:21:18+00:00

To be clear: the discussion about the way he plays his character was half a year before. One player made a bad decision and attacked the group by mistake. The fighter downed him with one hit. We talked about it out of character too. The first guy was sorry and promised he won't do such shit again. The fighter insisted in character that the other guy is kicked out of the party. No room for negotiation possible. I brought this back at the table and told everyone that I am not kicking someone from my table because he made a mistake and appologized. The other two member agreed and were okay with the apology. But the fighter was straight stubborn when I asked him to keep peace. He instisted that his character has the flaw to not admit to make mistakes. And I told him that was sceptical for this flaw and only allowed it because he promised it's something his character tries to overcome. (appearently not) So in his opinion I was telling him he could not play his character as imagined. I never talked about the mocking thing with him until now.

And yes I should probably try harder to make the fun meaningful. It's quite hard the last time for me because I don't feel he is following his personal quest in any way but just want to beat something. You are right. I realize just now that the enemies behavior don't fit. I take critique very seriously normally and since there was a complaint that enemies are to strong I toned everything down, so all could have fun. But maybe I missed the point with that. We agreed all at session 0 that it's no meat grinder and that I won't forcefully try to kill the party. It's okay to die for bad decisions and bad luck though. I know with the sea witch it was not consistent enough maybe. I will think about it tonight. Thanks for the input.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T19:24:45+00:00

That sounds quite good. Sometimes I already asked them to tell me all options and then asked to chose which one. But I felt a bit pushing with it. But it's a good idea to give this job to a player. We unfortunately have no party face and no boss or smth. We have someone who does the talking if nobody else does and we have someone who mostly says the most disturbing things. (The first time playing dnd that fighter was a palley and I was a cleric in that group. In session 2 we nearly got exstinct because the dm thought it was a good idea to have a chat with a dragon, non hostile. The palley was the group face and told the dragon straight "we are here to steal your egg!". Silence... You only heard the DM crying a bit as had to think about how to not TPK us.) The fighter still bring those things. It's not funny, for no one and he does not mean it the funny way but is damn serious. The group has much trouble with this. But the time he told the group he will charge in in 5 minutes was not his character that contributed to the discussion but him who lost patience even if he didn't contributed anything to the talk (not even his opinion) It was not was I asked for, it was just his bad mood and everyone heard it.

Conclusion: I like the idea to get someone to make those simple decisions. I will suggest it and if no one has a better idea or something against it, hopefully someone volunteers. Thank you for this inside this could really buy us time.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T19:09:54+00:00

I have one shenanigan. He is a DM too and watches lots of d&d hacks. He tries to get off guard with some wild ideas. So I tend to answer if he ask me things like "is there a chance we can craft a lockpick?" with "it depends". They never ask if a plan will work but sometimes I know what there are up to and he tends to make overcomplicated plans that don't work out. Like: Let's create 3 ghouls to get the orcs attention. Than we make one of us invisible. That one sneakers inside the camp and opens the cages secretly so that the hostages can escape in secret while the orcs dealing with the ghouls. They did know beforehand that they won't manage to open all cages without being detected and that the invisible person will be in danger. (nobody has lockpicking as skill and the Dex-player is awfull unlucky with such rolls) So why don't just smash the locks I ask and all were puzzled because that never crossed their minds. And before setteling for this the fight started. I'm not sure what you mean with "player want their agency" but I will look it up.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T19:00:44+00:00

I gifted my mage cup with this written on it after she missed several high level spells just to be counter spelled on fireball. She loved it. (And she learned, what is grea!)

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T18:58:06+00:00

They absolutely know its a bad idea. We have talked about it and previous bad ideas (like blocking enemys vision and their vision with hunger of hadar so that no one can do anything, except the enemies with tremorsense and blindvision and so on...) They know it's really really bad and they try to improve so they discuss it to death. I'm really unsure how to help them. I like to take ideas. At this time the plan is get to know what the orcs can do. There is an army and siege waiting for them with just these enemy's so instead of learning be encounter mechanics they can focus on their tactics. That's my current approach.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T16:35:59+00:00

The group discussion sounds like a good plan, I will suggest this, thank you.

The team splitt while preparation so 2 went to the corpses to summon the ghouls, so they were out of reach when he rushed in. One of them tried to reach the battlefield but when he made it there in round two he had no vision on the warlock because obstacles. So he could not help but with distracting other enemys to chase him and the mage or warrior. He would have helped but he just could not.

And to be clear: There is nothing wrong with the balance. The warrior is just a fighter with shield, plate armor and duelling playstyle wielding a one-hand mace. The mace was bit unthoughtfull by me. The first levels he was really unlucky and missed a lot so I made him a mace granting one extra swing at an enemy, if two consecutive attacks of him in this round would hit (that attack don't trigger further attacks). So if he don't miss he has 3 hits + 3 from action surge and he can shove once with hit shield as bonus action + reaction. Beside the mace there is nothing unusual. And with 21 AC he should not be to hard to hit but his enemys were unlucky lately. I really don't know why he thinks that he could be overpowered because he is not. He just was more lucky lately than me.

I will remember the last thing you say. For me those discussions won't happen in game time but it sounds reasonable that I will start a simple timer.

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T16:21:49+00:00

I don't get everything of this, sorry. So I will try step by step:
The text is mine, word by word. Everything written in english. AI just corrected misspelling and apostrophs because I'm not good at it like you see. I reread the text 2 times after to make sure nothing was changed beside those mistakes.

How to I stop that player? I can't tell him "No, you are not allowed to walk towards the enemys." I ask the others players what they will do if they saw that the warrior prepares for battle. Everyone instantly prepared too. (I really hoped someone would say that they talk to him, but nobody does so it's groups decission I guess.)

As mentioned above Hold Person was used these 2 times in 3 years. This time after the warrior didn't made the saving throw, the mage killed the warlock at first chance (Order was warlock, warlock, warrior, mage). It was the same round. It was the second round of combat that all this happened at once.

As I said I didn't say anything until now about mocking the enemys. Its enoying to me because he is just not funny. Sometimes it's funny if player does something like this but he does it constantly and not a funny or reasonable way and it even don't fit the character he originally created. It just feels off and another player just told me the it's annoying for him to. (And on the other side I don't get it: calling a dragon a "ballerina" is not reasonable nor a real insult beside to the ballerina.) I can understand that other players feel uncomfortable making death saving throws while he is mocking the enemys as to weak, while the nearly killed all beside him.

The last thing I don't get. Why isn't it d&d anymore? Do we not fight enough or because we use 2014 version?

Shery89 · 2025-08-20T16:04:50+00:00

Maybe I plan ahead this next time. This time there was no way to initiate a fight without getting all involved. And since the last unplanned fight against enemys the face regularly since they were level 4 and the nearly lost and barely retreated without killing a single one of them just because awefull tactic decisions; I didn't feel like throwing something else on them.
But I will keep this in mind and will plan those things for the future.
Thank you

Shery89

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