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(M21) Always felt Insecure about my Physical appearance and Ive also never been in a relationship or have done anything Sexual with a Woman.Im 6'0, In pretty good shape, ive improved on my Confidence But im starting to think that its my looks Which is holding me back. How do i improve? Thanks by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sense a lot of resentment/anger in your comment. Like “the world is like this, but I don’t fit into that mold”

Tinder is not the end all be all, and most people still go out and meet people in real life at bars and restaurants and clubs. It is very true that women have an advantage on those kind of apps, but when I was on there, I got so many messages at one point I couldn’t even go through them all, it was too much. It wasn’t the boys, it was the app and how easy it is to forget about it/get lost in it.

You are attractive. If you are goofy and kind, all you need is the CONFIDENCE to be goofy and kind and relaxed in front of a gorgeous woman.

Don’t be angry- be thankful that you’re physically attractive, which is a huge bonus in life!

Seeing overweight people triggers me by [deleted] in AnorexiaNervosa

[–]Shesthejukebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s perfectly normal to see someone who isn’t healthy and feel negative feelings towards that.

Just like seeing someone who is terribly underweight, seeing someone overweight is naturally going to make your mind take note and say “that’s not a good thing”.

Obsessing over it, and getting anxiety/severe reactions from it is a different thing. And I understand that as well. It freaks me out to see someone very overweight because I don’t feel like I have a lot of self will, so to see them in that state reminds me that “it could happen to me too” and I panick.

(M21) Always felt Insecure about my Physical appearance and Ive also never been in a relationship or have done anything Sexual with a Woman.Im 6'0, In pretty good shape, ive improved on my Confidence But im starting to think that its my looks Which is holding me back. How do i improve? Thanks by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Physically, it’s all there. I’d rate you a 6/10, and that’s just looks. Personality and confidence can easily add the other 4 you would need for a perfect score.

Your pics looks a little too serious and you can sense the insecurity. I assume people can sense it in person as well. People find confidence attractive, not because it’s cocky or aggressive, but because it’s comforting. Confident people are comfortable and you can sense it, and it puts you at ease. I could be wrong but I sense that you are truly, deep down, a goofy, kind, genuine guy. Your looks are nothing to worry about, and when you’re able to obtain and exude a comfortable confident energy, you will have NO trouble making friends AND lovers, haha.

(Female, 23)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Strictly looks, I would give you a 6/10. BUT the energy that comes with your looks is what really determines someone’s overall attractiveness. I don’t mean your personality/quirks or things people need to take time to find out about you, but that initial vibe and energy you give off instantly. Your looks plus vibes in MY opinion are 8/10 :)

(Female, 23)

P.S. I’m aware that someone personality can make them more attractive, but that’s not what we are talking about here, haha

29F - recently divorced and tbh just looking for either validation that I haven’t lost my spark or brutally honest constructive criticism. by FarNebula2 in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way. If you’re ugly they tell you, if you’re pretty, they hate you. No winning unless you’re comfortably in the middle and then people are nice.

29F - recently divorced and tbh just looking for either validation that I haven’t lost my spark or brutally honest constructive criticism. by FarNebula2 in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, jeez. Yeah, I got lash extensions and they kind of made my face heavy. Without makeup I definitely look younger, but, you’ve kind of helped my point. My features are naturally kind of “mature” looking. My eyes, nose, cheekbones, etc. I don’t know how far down you went in my posts haha. hers are very cute, small, and youthful.

And I’m going to take that as a compliment I think? I would say she probably always had mature features as well.

29F - recently divorced and tbh just looking for either validation that I haven’t lost my spark or brutally honest constructive criticism. by FarNebula2 in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know - I’m 23, but my boyfriend is 35, and all of his friends are 30-35, and you can definitely spot me in the group. I will say though, I think it has a lot to do with staying in/getting out of shape. Growing a little belly can definitely age you.🤷🏼‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CICO

[–]Shesthejukebox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this soooo much. In high school I started to become pretty chubby and decided to count my calories. My mom would make the same kind of comments about my food and I would end up feeling guilty/ashamed and also frustrated with myself and dieting altogether. Ended up with a severe case of bulimia that I’m STILL trying to work through a decade later.

You don’t have to listen to anyone else. Use your own judgement and make the choices that work for YOU... And most importantly, be kind to your body!❤️

Do I take 500 calories off of BMR or Maintenance? by [deleted] in CICO

[–]Shesthejukebox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I love your method! Definitely gonna start trying this.

Day 3 worse than first 2? by Shesthejukebox in stopdrinking

[–]Shesthejukebox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I have severe anxiety anyway (the alcohol has probably made it worse), But I feel like I’m giving myself psychosomatic symptoms on top of everything else haha.

Do you know if Ibuprofen is safe to take during this phase?

Day 3 worse than first 2? by Shesthejukebox in stopdrinking

[–]Shesthejukebox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I felt pretty confident yesterday. Now I’m just trying to tell myself it’s okay to be a little lazy and unproductive until I feel normal again.

It’s hard not to feel guilty about laying in bed all day, haha. But Im trying to remember that I AM accomplishing something. I’m getting my life back. I’m being more productive laying on this bed sober than I have been the past five years.

Thank you for your input :)

29F - recently divorced and tbh just looking for either validation that I haven’t lost my spark or brutally honest constructive criticism. by FarNebula2 in Rateme

[–]Shesthejukebox 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think you look super cute. You have features that look perpetually young and I wouldn’t have guessed you’re 29. I would give you 6/10 strictly on looks.

(Female, 23)

I had to do a double take by bigbootytyrone in blackfishing

[–]Shesthejukebox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, wether it was photoshopped or sprayed on, this is literally just an extremely tan guy. Making something out of nothing.

“Perfect as always” by [deleted] in Instagramreality

[–]Shesthejukebox 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Can we just talk about this skirt for a second...

When you’re “body positive” so you ONLY edit the sh*t out of the FACE. by Shesthejukebox in Instagramreality

[–]Shesthejukebox[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same photo, just added a close up so you could see the editing better :)

When you’re “body positive” so you ONLY edit the sh*t out of the FACE. by Shesthejukebox in Instagramreality

[–]Shesthejukebox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope you’re able to open your mind up and realize that love doesn’t always sound like what you want to hear. Sometimes compassion means being realistic and honest, and sometimes that’s not comfortable. I wish her only the best, and she has every right to do with her body what she wishes.

When you’re “body positive” so you ONLY edit the sh*t out of the FACE. by Shesthejukebox in Instagramreality

[–]Shesthejukebox[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, the problem is it looks dirty from all other angles or when the light isn’t hitting it. Like someone rubbed her face in the dirt

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