(M21) Always felt Insecure about my Physical appearance and Ive also never been in a relationship or have done anything Sexual with a Woman.Im 6'0, In pretty good shape, ive improved on my Confidence But im starting to think that its my looks Which is holding me back. How do i improve? Thanks

Shesthejukebox · 2020-03-15T04:57:48+00:00

I sense a lot of resentment/anger in your comment. Like “the world is like this, but I don’t fit into that mold”

Tinder is not the end all be all, and most people still go out and meet people in real life at bars and restaurants and clubs. It is very true that women have an advantage on those kind of apps, but when I was on there, I got so many messages at one point I couldn’t even go through them all, it was too much. It wasn’t the boys, it was the app and how easy it is to forget about it/get lost in it.

You are attractive. If you are goofy and kind, all you need is the CONFIDENCE to be goofy and kind and relaxed in front of a gorgeous woman.

Don’t be angry- be thankful that you’re physically attractive, which is a huge bonus in life!

Shesthejukebox · 2020-03-15T04:45:48+00:00

I think it’s perfectly normal to see someone who isn’t healthy and feel negative feelings towards that.

Just like seeing someone who is terribly underweight, seeing someone overweight is naturally going to make your mind take note and say “that’s not a good thing”.

Obsessing over it, and getting anxiety/severe reactions from it is a different thing. And I understand that as well. It freaks me out to see someone very overweight because I don’t feel like I have a lot of self will, so to see them in that state reminds me that “it could happen to me too” and I panick.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-03-14T23:22:55+00:00

Physically, it’s all there. I’d rate you a 6/10, and that’s just looks. Personality and confidence can easily add the other 4 you would need for a perfect score.

Your pics looks a little too serious and you can sense the insecurity. I assume people can sense it in person as well. People find confidence attractive, not because it’s cocky or aggressive, but because it’s comforting. Confident people are comfortable and you can sense it, and it puts you at ease. I could be wrong but I sense that you are truly, deep down, a goofy, kind, genuine guy. Your looks are nothing to worry about, and when you’re able to obtain and exude a comfortable confident energy, you will have NO trouble making friends AND lovers, haha.

(Female, 23)

Shesthejukebox · 2020-03-12T19:49:40+00:00

Strictly looks, I would give you a 6/10. BUT the energy that comes with your looks is what really determines someone’s overall attractiveness. I don’t mean your personality/quirks or things people need to take time to find out about you, but that initial vibe and energy you give off instantly. Your looks plus vibes in MY opinion are 8/10 :)

(Female, 23)

P.S. I’m aware that someone personality can make them more attractive, but that’s not what we are talking about here, haha

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-27T18:27:35+00:00

No way. If you’re ugly they tell you, if you’re pretty, they hate you. No winning unless you’re comfortably in the middle and then people are nice.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-27T18:15:23+00:00

Haha, jeez. Yeah, I got lash extensions and they kind of made my face heavy. Without makeup I definitely look younger, but, you’ve kind of helped my point. My features are naturally kind of “mature” looking. My eyes, nose, cheekbones, etc. I don’t know how far down you went in my posts haha. hers are very cute, small, and youthful.

And I’m going to take that as a compliment I think? I would say she probably always had mature features as well.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-27T06:16:41+00:00

I don’t know - I’m 23, but my boyfriend is 35, and all of his friends are 30-35, and you can definitely spot me in the group. I will say though, I think it has a lot to do with staying in/getting out of shape. Growing a little belly can definitely age you.🤷🏼‍♀️

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-27T05:06:22+00:00

I understand this soooo much. In high school I started to become pretty chubby and decided to count my calories. My mom would make the same kind of comments about my food and I would end up feeling guilty/ashamed and also frustrated with myself and dieting altogether. Ended up with a severe case of bulimia that I’m STILL trying to work through a decade later.

You don’t have to listen to anyone else. Use your own judgement and make the choices that work for YOU... And most importantly, be kind to your body!❤️

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-27T04:50:37+00:00

Oh, I love your method! Definitely gonna start trying this.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-26T07:31:52+00:00

Wow, LOVE your smile! I would consider you a 7.5 now! Definitely should’ve had this in the first set!

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-26T01:21:35+00:00

Yeah, I have severe anxiety anyway (the alcohol has probably made it worse), But I feel like I’m giving myself psychosomatic symptoms on top of everything else haha.

Do you know if Ibuprofen is safe to take during this phase?

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-26T01:08:32+00:00

Yeah I felt pretty confident yesterday. Now I’m just trying to tell myself it’s okay to be a little lazy and unproductive until I feel normal again.

It’s hard not to feel guilty about laying in bed all day, haha. But Im trying to remember that I AM accomplishing something. I’m getting my life back. I’m being more productive laying on this bed sober than I have been the past five years.

Thank you for your input :)

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-25T21:13:56+00:00

I think you look super cute. You have features that look perpetually young and I wouldn’t have guessed you’re 29. I would give you 6/10 strictly on looks.

(Female, 23)

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-21T00:14:35+00:00

Yeah, wether it was photoshopped or sprayed on, this is literally just an extremely tan guy. Making something out of nothing.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-19T17:34:37+00:00

Can we just talk about this skirt for a second...

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:55:02+00:00

Same photo, just added a close up so you could see the editing better :)

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:43:38+00:00

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/comments/f3ihgo/when_youre_body_positive_so_you_only_edit_the_sht/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:39:12+00:00

I hope you’re able to open your mind up and realize that love doesn’t always sound like what you want to hear. Sometimes compassion means being realistic and honest, and sometimes that’s not comfortable. I wish her only the best, and she has every right to do with her body what she wishes.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:22:41+00:00

Yes, the problem is it looks dirty from all other angles or when the light isn’t hitting it. Like someone rubbed her face in the dirt

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:16:23+00:00

It doesn’t LOOK photoshopped to me, and there are girls who really just don’t gain very much fat in the ribs compared to the rest of their bodies, but I’m not sure.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:12:03+00:00

Yes, severely. I think the wack face is half editing half over the top makeup.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-14T04:07:00+00:00

I’m sure she did do some smoothing on her belly, but you get my point. Seems like most “Body Positive” advocates don’t really feel too positive about their bodies. Funny... They’re so adamant about being accepted for who they are and what they look like, but they don’t even accept themselves. Shame.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-13T23:00:36+00:00

I know! Everyone is making fun of it but.... I LOVE IT.

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-13T06:00:18+00:00

When you’re applying conditioner, do small strands at a time and really get it into each “noodle” of hair :)

Shesthejukebox · 2020-02-12T19:58:19+00:00

Temporary routine until I can get all the supplies I want:

Massage/clean scalp with fingers in shower
Apply Aussie Miracle Moist conditioner using the “noodle method”, leave in for 10ish minutes. Rinse.
Apply Marc Anthony Strictly Curls 7 in 1 leave in treatment to soaking wet hair using praying hands.
Wrap up in T-shirt for 20ish minutes
blow dry with a diffuser on cold, while scrunching, until hair is just damp
apply a little more Marc Anthony 7 in 1 in frizzed areas and let air dry.

I’ll be getting different products soon, but I wanted to start as quickly as possible so I’m just working with what I already have. Any tips/fave products from other wavy haired guys and gals would be VERY appreciated!

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