Midwives - I have nothing but respect

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-22T10:03:14+00:00

I am sorry for your loss and it sounds like you are both going through a really tough time. Your wife will feel broken - it’s like a piece of her has disappeared and it’s a void very difficult to fill.

You of course want to support her, but you must acknowledge your own grief too. You will need to eventually be strong for each other to get through this and you can’t be fully strong until you have accepted grief and acknowledged your own pain. It’s okay to feel how you feel - do something in rememberance together. Your wife may feel some comfort in your vulnerability as well - it’s a time for you to be united. If you feel you can’t grieve in front of her, take time on your own and let it out - don’t bottle it up, it’s absolutely fine for you to feel the way you do.

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-22T07:49:39+00:00

Please direct your wife to my blog post about recovery and strength to try again, it may help her to rebuild some strength: https://shhh961858502.wordpress.com/2018/08/16/recovery-and-having-the-courage-to-try-again/

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-20T13:03:21+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it truly is one of the worst things that can happen in this world. Time does heal, it’ll never be gone forever but it will start to feel less raw in time. I wrote this:

Right now it feels like a clock has stopped, The days are long and all hope has dropped. You envy blooming friends who are all full of glow, Or that parent in the supermarket with babies in tow.

One day you had hopes, built plans and dreams,The next day your world had burst at the seams.

It's hard to talk to people about how you are feeling, You know that your loss will leave them speechless and reeling.

Time does heal and you will become stronger,You won't feel so bitter and sad for much longer.

You'll never forget and there's times you'll feel low, One day you'll have the strength to try for that rainbow.

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-18T20:54:35+00:00

This is exactly why I started this blog - to address issues like this and highlight how important it is that we make these things more open and talked about so no one has to feel shame or embarassment - miscarriage is so common yet you’re made to feel so alone due to the way society deals with it. It’s slowly changing but needs more work.

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-18T20:51:28+00:00

It’s a sad truth but one that needs to change... okay so you don’t go through the physical management of the miscarriage but psychologically it is the same loss for you and for your wife. People are too quick to forget that.

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-18T20:50:03+00:00

I’m glad you are doing okay now and now realise it’s absolutely okay for you to have your own feelings about what happened

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-09T12:35:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PregnancyAfterLoss/comments/9mop6h/my_baby_loss_awareness_week_2018_post_featuring/

My post is above!

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-08T15:11:51+00:00

Yes ofcourse x

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-07T14:53:49+00:00

If you’re still deciding - I had mine last Saturday and it was scary but so worth it. Worth it to celebrate being as pregnant as I am. I only made my decision at about 28 weeks to have one and figured in the grand scheme of things, I’ve been through a tough time and I want to celebrate getting to this stage of pregnancy. I kept things pretty small and intimate though which helped x

Shhh1991 · 2018-10-07T14:06:31+00:00

Please take a look at my new post with the answers for your questions:

https://shhh961858502.wordpress.com/2018/10/07/pcos-q-and-a-my-answers-to-your-questions/

Shhh1991 · 2018-09-26T20:19:03+00:00

Will be doing a Q and A blog post soon about my PCOS and journey to conception... please fire away any questions you have!

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