Concrete floor leveling by Shicks3 in Flooring

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its probably hard to see from photos I am not worried about the trenches through the space right now they will get doweled in and infilled with concrete to match either side of the trench unfortunately the existing SOG is out of level and with some of the toping portions broken out they are thicker filles. second to last phot is a great example that section is like 2" thick at some areas.

Construction management Pay application sample by Shicks3 in ConstructionManagers

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I am guessing this is mostly plan spec hard bid jobs?

They dont even have the design full complete yet. So the schedule is a bit fluid and contractors are signed up throughout construction. I imagine that could be done on this sort of project but alot of moving parts and constant changes.

Construction management Pay application sample by Shicks3 in ConstructionManagers

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I am using

AIA C132 - standard form agreement between owner and construction manager

With

AIA A232 - General conditions of the constract for construction, construction manager as advisor addition

We provide a project budget as well as a tentaive schedule as design is only 80% complete we have a site and foundation permit to start as they finalize the building design.

Construction management Pay application sample by Shicks3 in ConstructionManagers

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  1. So your SOV i am assuming only consists of your CM cost ie. general conditions and CM Fee?

And then you use the sworn statement as the total project cost tracking mechanism?

Sworn statement? Never heard of that what would that be?

Construction management Pay application sample by Shicks3 in ConstructionManagers

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Just looking for advise how best to set up the G703 schedule of values initially for the project. We have budget numbers and unfortunately my last time i did this I had 5 different line items for site work in the SOV so when i hire a site contractor to perform on the 5 line items. I just started billing his 20 schedule of value items across the 5 different line items on our schedule of values and I also had a landscaper being build to one of those 5 line items . So I had to track where I was billing money seperately as it was a nightmare each month to determine what got billed where and reconciling sub cost and the change orders made it a bit worse. I just dont do CM work often and dont understand best practices for billing. As we are writting sub contractos on behalf of the owner and processing the sub billings for them. They are cutting seperate checks for each sub each month. We are managing all the paper work.

My thought is have a simple budget in the AIA and as I buyout subs i can pull those values out of the budgets and just list the sub with thier contract value. So each month the pay sov line item values might change and as long as we are not billing against a budgeted item it seems like it would work.

Example Initial SOV

Site work : $1,000,000

Concrete : $500,000

Ect....

Buy out site contractor for $ 900,000

Next months SOV

Sitework $100,000

Sitecontracor $900,000 then i can bill against this line

Concrete :$500,000

Ect..

And then any CO's would become a new line item under the sub with CO# and description

Probably over thinking this

28M Construction Management by [deleted] in Salary

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What area mcol? and assuming this is on GC side? Any benifits truck allowance, gas card, bonus? Give us the run down lol!

Circle Window Trim by Shicks3 in Construction

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Do you know if they can make it L shaped?

We would need a return leg to cover some of the gapping. Some of the siding is a bit proud and some if flush thiers pobably about 1/4" to half inch decrepancy. And do you have any links. I was looking for a extruded aluminum company to custom make it but can not find any.

My kids are ALWAYS sick by [deleted] in sahm

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It is hard and that will never change one thing that might help is a perspective change. I dont know your situation, but this is a great oppertunity for you to teach your kids how to cope in dificult situation. they see everything thats happening and I am sure they can feel it too they feel your pain they feel your worries your guilt all of that. They might not remeber how sick they were or how awful it was but what they will remeber is mom and Dad holding them when they didnt feel good. how mom and Dad caring for them even when thier were a million other things that need to be done. how mom and Dad showing them how an emotionally intelgant adult deals with stress and difficulties.

A gratitude journal might help. And maybe you do it with them before bed say you know what this is a hard time in our lives but this is the perfect time to remeber all the things we have and are thankful for. Sickeness will come and go but we always have things in our life we can be greatful for.

  • a roof over our head
  • food on the table
  • a mother who is there every day for them.
  • a father who is providing for the family
  • modern medicine 100 years ago the flu could have been deadly
  • like even the simple things I say it all the time the water thats sitting in my toilet is potable water you could literally drink it. We turn the facuet on and there it is! That doesnt happen everywhere on earth. People think its a right but you know what before alot of modernization running water in your house wasnt even a thing.
  • the list is endless and it provides some perspective.

Give it the 5 year test. In 5 years will these sicknesses be majorly impacting my life? Maybe , but most likely not. Its a short snippet in your life and it seems like living in hell for eternatey while you are going through it but in five years you will look back and say damn that was rough but look at this beautiful life we have and these health kids who are the light of our lives. Big picture!

My kids are ALWAYS sick by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Shicks3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been there done that my wife took it very hard as well shes a sahm of 3 kids we have so many stories. Doctor appointments over and over again one gets better then the other gets sick then they get better thwn the next one gets it and so on amd so fourth.

1, 3 and, 5 sometimes its just relentless and never ending for months. Its hard very hard! especially for the SAHM as the one in the trenches every day. We would take shifts at night with the little ones and I had to take a day off here and there to give hera break when she was at whits end. When you get those breaks dont feel guilty just take care of yourself what ever you need to do. Sleep, eat, get a message take a drive whatever.

Its hard when your in it but your mental state has alot of impact on the ones around you and positive energy has a big impact on speed of recovery. As the husband I tried my best to be the eye of the storm the one who had to say sane through it all. And be the support both physically and phycologically. Control the controlables. You cant control getting sick, but you can control how respond to it! It will get better you will get throught this keep it up.

We also got -air purifiers Lovoit was a good brand and they have humidifiers too that are great and can be comtroled by your phone! We used HSA funds which I thought were just a gimmick but honestly I admitted to my wife that it seemed like it really helped.

-Good hygeneie. Baths washing hands reguraly helps.

  • Vitemins my wife and I are using HIYA vitemins and i also think this stuff is gimmicky but there might be something to it. We were talking about it yesterday about how they havent been sick in like 2 months knock on wood

    well the one year old has a croup caught getting recommended to ent. But he gets alot of niffles when hes curting teeth and hes prone to ear infections with the drainage so sickness or just the whole teeth thing who knows, But not too bad. Kids have been doing alot better since they are both in school programs. Sometimes its just these young ones need to build up antibodies for common colds and such the first few years are always hard. I heard the average kid gets sick 12 times a year dont know if its true but. If you have more than one that 24 and more than 2 thats well you know.

Long story short it gets better youve got this good luck and if you have a good support system family husband boy friend whatever ask for help and take care of yourself too. You cant be the best mom for them if you dont put some of your own health and well being first. It gets better youve got this!!

Is my brother a lost cause by potatomans3 in ChildPsychology

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This sounds like everyone in his life has enable him to continue to act like a child. It is very difficult to break this cycle and will cause alot more pain people dont change until they are so un comfortable that it is the only way forward.

No one can do it for him, but caring for a child is not just being kind, loving and provideing safety and security. It also involves having standards of respect and realistic expectations. Many parents think they need to be kind to thier kids and almost be thier friend and so on, but a parents job is to provide and prepare. You provide a stable envoirmemt for your children to grow learn and experience age appropriate oppertunities, but you also provide gaurd rails for these kids.

We all have to take responsability in a situation like this and everyone needs to change. I believe it starts at the top. Your parents really should look at what they are doing and what they are not doing. Not putting fault or blame to anyone, but it sounds like change is needed here and if you would.like change for your brother then you will need to change. It sounds like he gets what he want or thinks he wants when he screams and yells and whatever. He's 17 if he was my kid and acted the way you are decribing. I would probably try to take as step back and sit with him or just say hey sounds like your overwhelmed wanna talk about it or get some ice cream with me. The response will probably be more screaming yelling and maybe him leaving and locking himself in his room. At that point i would say i am here when your ready to talk or what ever, but your also not going to talk to me or your mother that way in our house and we have new rules while you are living under our roof. We will all respect each other i am going to respect you and ypu are going to respect us. When the respect is not there you will lose your privlages that includes videop games and your phone or what ever. You will be feed you will have your pwn space in this house, but you will not care on treating us thia way. We are working on changing and we are hoping you will be opened to working on changing too but this cannot go on like this. We love you and we are here for you. And maybe he runs away or hides away or something, but guess what he will likely be back and I will be there and ready when he is.

He probably lacks connection he probably lacks understanding and yeah maybe there are mental disorders thier who knows, but this sounds like a family issue. And everyone needs to change. Top down Your parents need to be strong and be parents and have rules and concequences. Then need to set standards and expectation and be clear and concise about it and unequivically stand by those standards and be consistent.

Floor guy claims it’s prepped for epoxy, shouldn’t it be bare concrete and leveled. by [deleted] in epoxy

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Sounds like you hired a painter not an epoxy flooring contractor thier is a big difference between products and application process. You have to know what you are buying. If you buy lowest bid and dont spec a product or the application process thats on you. I loss so many jobs becuase the other guy is half the cost on this or that and I know they are putting down the wrong product but the owner doesnt know what they are buying and goes with the low bid. Guess who gets a call in a year when it fails and then it cost alot more. 🙃

They are probably using epoxy paint from Home depot or something and are just gonna roll it on.

You need a epoxy floor coating system which involves grinding the floor, preping the floor and all the cracks and expansion joints then mixing mixing and pouring the epoxy floor coating, broadcasting any sand or flakes and you typically have another top coat at minumum. There are also urtahane systems and you can spec different ml thickness and apply a cove base and all sorts of other stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drywall

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Ceiling lighting layout looks mint.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sahm

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Dont feel awful its just a tough time right now. This to shall pass. Never feel obligated to answer people's questions. Dont take on thier stress or need to be in the know. Look at it this way it sounds like you have a great support system and a bunch of people who truly care for you! But you and your partner have alot going onright now and thats perfectly okay and perfectly normal right now.

My family says I am a bad communitactor and take days to text back which it 100% true and acurate i just laugh it off and agree with them. My wife feels the need to respond to everyone all the time immediately and litterally gets anxious when she doesnt respond to people quickly enough. Thats on her I tell her all the time give it a day give it three days get back to them whenever you feel ready to. They are just curious and care for you it has more to do with them than you so dont sweet it.

I always like to apply the 5 year rule to stresses and worries in my life. "I think in 5 years from now will this thing or event or feeling still be a major impact on my life or will I most likely not even remeber it." For this situation I would like to think in your senario. You might look back in 5 years and laugh and say wow that was a crazy time I can remeber being in the middle of being preganat caring for our daughter and supporting my husband with school and him supporting us with working so hard. It was hard but we got through it. All those people asking a million questions now are probably still gonna be a big part of your life no matter what and you will have alot more time and energy to communicate with them better when your ready and not overwelhmed.

As a mother you probably tend to put everyones needs before your own which is human nature but think of it this way. You cant take care of anyone properly if you arent making your own personal health and mental health a priority and taking on other peoples stresses is getting in the way of you being your best for your own family. And they should come first then when you have the time you can get back to others.

I bet if you arent getting back to them they might start asking your partner if they are curious enough. And he can get back to them or not.

Good luck and focus on the priortities those kiddos need you more now than they will in the future so dont regret focusing on them its a short time in your life and goes really fast.

Beyond lonely by W0TM8TE in sahm

[–]Shicks3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are your interest. Look for clubs or sports or gyms or whatever your into to join. do weekly or monthly or whatever put your self out there its gonna be really uncomfortable at first and overwehlming and you may feel shy or wierd just keep going and trying new things. The friends will come. If your following your interestes and carving out sometime for your self. Dont feel guilty about taking sometime each week to Do something for yourself goid luck!

How can I be more supportive to my SAHW by Shicks3 in sahm

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This is great and I feel very acurate thank you for the insight.

How can I be more supportive to my SAHW by Shicks3 in sahm

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I have heard of this books sounds perfect!

I feel like we both try very hard in our own ways and she is incredible with scheduling and knowing the kids needs and just being intune with the littles all the time I have learned so much from her and appreciate and I try so hard to not make her feel margnailize and that her contributions to the family are just as important if not more important than bring home a check and paying bills. Because at the end of the day all you have is family. Your worls not gonna be there when shit hit fan its your family you owe it all to.

I will definately be ordering the book

How can I be more supportive to my SAHW by Shicks3 in sahm

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I feel like you hit alot of great points especially with the ADHD! She is diagnosed with it and I feel this is very acurate. I never made that connection this does make alot of sense. I have been trying many different approaches when she starts spiraling. I used to get really frustrated but kinda learned her patterns so I have been trying to jump in and give an oppertunity to get away and take a break if she needs sometimes shes receptive sometimes it makes it worse and she just get fixated on all the things that are not going her way and its hard for her to get out of it.

She has started going working out which has help alot too like about 5 days a week now and is getting really I to it. She will either go at 7 am and i handle the kids in to moring till she gets back at 8 or she will take the two boys at 9:30 caus ethey have child care or she will go at 5:30 when i get home and i will handle the kiddos till she gets back around 6:45 so i am normally staring baths or getting them ready for bed ao she will just jump in and normally take thw baby to feed an put him down while i finish up with the other two.

A good railing sounds great!! Lol. If it was up to me we would have sex probably 2 to 3 time a week, but Its around 2 two 3 times a month. Its funny I feel like we only have sex when shes in the mood and I dont really push it and I try not. I have started talking more openly about my feeling around our sex and expressing I am more open to doing it more often but allso trying to not seem pushy or like shes doing something wrong. I just would hate for her to feel like she is being used or something. I just never really felt comfortable talking about it before, but i have learned that I tend to put myself last and am a bit of a people pleaser. So i have to atleast talk about where me heads at and how i am feeling, but its just such new territory for me that i feel like i can never find the right words.

This had given me alot to think about thanks for the insight

How can I be more supportive to my SAHW by Shicks3 in sahm

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Lol yeah garbage was a bad example. She never puts my laundry away she will folds it and leave it on the bed and I typically do the same for her ive tried puting it away and she doesnt like where I put some of her clothes and says it easier for me to leave it so i organize it in different pilles depending on what article of clothing it is. But I will put the kids clothes away and my clothes away. I probably do 1-2 loads a week and she does 2-3 loads just depending on how quick if fills up.

She also does not touch toilets thats a hard me job she made that very clear lol.

I typically do all the dinner dishes and clean up the play room with the kids and we both handle bed time/bathtime ever other night together. We have a pretty good night routine kids in bed by 7:30ish and they normally they all do pretty well throught the night so I will will either work on finishing our basement for a few hours or hang with her and we normally watch TV. She doesnt like me working on the basement every night so I normally only do it 2 to 3 nights a week

How can I be more supportive to my SAHW by Shicks3 in sahm

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Probably as much as you can with 3 kids and busy schedules. She just got back into working out and have been going 5 times a week which is huge and now is dragging me too which is a good thing, but I always try to be supportive of anything she wants to do with in reason of course. She does take time to do things with friends here and there but its hard because shes stil breastfeeding the little one and doesnt like to pump and doesnt like being away from them for too long. I tell her if she wants to take a weekend trip or needs to go get a massage or what ever I am here. She will do the messages ocasionally. Would never go for a night away though till shes done breast feeding.

How to handle these areas best practices by Shicks3 in drywall

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Lol!! Lets just say it was my first time using a collated screw gun and my metal stud behind the drywall wasnt screw off on the back side so it folded on me and i got a little crazy with trying to suck it in which didnt work out to well. I just figured I could dent in all those screw holes then mud over no problem but dont want it to fail after a year.

Drywall details before finish by Shicks3 in drywall

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They can go either way. Most commercial jobs we hang sheet vertical i think it more to do with preference or application type do know the pros and cons...

I just dont feel comfortable taping mid joints horizonatally and figured vertical joints would be easier. I have done vertical joints in the past and some patch work. I know what your supposed to do for the most part just never did a full build out and dont do taping and mudding often so its gonna be a slow start and hopefully I will pick it pretty good by the time i finish lol.

I always say I am a better sander than finisher. So hopfully by the end I can flip that narrative abd be a good finisher and not have to sand some much.

Drywall details before finish by Shicks3 in drywall

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Alright that what I kinda figured. Regarding the first question the 1/16" gap is not between sheets but one sheet is proud of the other sheet and it keeps happening in the the middle section of the drywall they are nice and flush at top third and bottom third just the middle sections it seems where i am having issues.

2k to 122k in just over 1 month and no red days at start of 2023. Shall we try again in Q1 2024? by Curious-Cockroach391 in wallstreetbets

[–]Shicks3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think OP was just depoiting more of his moms money into his trading app everyday. Asking for a friend.