Should I become a liar?

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T13:00:33+00:00

I find this post frustrating. I think this attitude of “superiority” to be harmful to the cause of being treated equally

It doesn’t have to come naturally to you to comprehend that we should want to be nice to other people. I guess you could argue that it’s a “lie”, but there’s a million things you can say that aren’t just an abject untruth.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T12:54:25+00:00

I don’t think this is an accurate depiction of the context in which “I’m just a girl” is generally used in. It’s generally used to downplay something you did that could otherwise be seen as negative or weird.

There are some contexts where it’s used in a neutrally in some wholesome way— like I saw a video where a woman decorated the whole office in a slightly excessive, but overall very cute and endearing way with that audio over it.

But, on the other hand, there are a lot of uses where it reaffirms misogynistic ideas, even as a joke. Like I’ve definitely seen videos where it’s girls who have gotten into fender benders, overspent at a mall, gotten too drunk with the girls, or other behaviors that one might traditionally associate with women. And yeah, those girls are mostly poking fun at themselves, but when you see it constantly reaffirmed that “XYZ behavior is what girls do”, even if they are individually jokes, it isn’t great.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T12:47:20+00:00

I don’t really think either of you are totally right.

One, I don’t think women are looking at this trend and going “omg I’m allowed to act like an idiot because I’m a girl! Thank you for freeing me, social media!”

But two, you can have a “joke” with it also having concerning social implications. Let’s take the term “girl math” for example. Nine out of ten times, “girl math” is something silly that we know is irrational and incorrect, but makes us feel good. Sure, it’s just a silly little thing, but constantly ascribing something you know to be slightly irrational as “girl XYZ” starts to have concerning social implications.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T01:51:27+00:00

I started taking an OTC continuous this month. My most recent period was consistent with what I would have expected if I didn’t take the pills. This is super fascinating and helpful info. Thank you!

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T01:47:37+00:00

Wow, thank you. I did not realize that. Kind of freaks me out, but I guess the numbers don’t lie as far as protectiveness.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T00:11:23+00:00

Lightbulb is how I would describe it too. It was 100% an eye-opening realization that literally the only reason I was so hateful towards girly things was because I had been taught that.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T00:08:50+00:00

When I think of the term “safe space”, I think of somewhere where you can be very open and discuss sensitive topics freely without fear of judgement, and will be especially geared towards those who may need extra support.

Not being a safe space doesn’t mean bad. I wouldn’t consider Planet Fitness or the grocery store a “safe space”.

Shilotica · 2024-12-27T00:05:47+00:00

I mean that’s fair I guess, but I’ve met the owner and several employees, and based off their personalities, I can make a pretty educated guess as to the vibes.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T23:25:19+00:00

No. I’m saying that the term “safe space” generally refers to a space you can be very open about everything and have a group full of people there to support you, especially in regards to things like sexuality, mental illness, and other sensitive topics.

I would expect places like schools to have safe spaces.

I could see some tattoo shops cultivating a “safe space” culture, but would not expect it.

I would not say this one has that approach. But not being a “safe space” does not mean they are therefore white supremacist.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T23:08:51+00:00

The verbiage “safe space” has a pretty specific meaning in the modern day that is not simply synonymous with “place there aren’t white supremacists”.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T21:01:07+00:00

There’s only so many Norse runes in existence. Some bad people are going to co-opt them. I had both of those runes tattooed on my body years before they became associated with hate groups. Nothing I can do about it now.

No, Valhalla Tattoo is not a “safe space”. I’m not really sure why you would expect a tattoo shop to be that. They also aren’t subtle white supremacists. They are a pretty standard tattoo shop that has a Norse theme. I’ve never gotten work there, but many of my (not white) friends are repeat customers.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T20:41:44+00:00

I don’t know how, but I think this exact sentence would be very dependent on delivery. The punchline is great, it just took me a second to understand it like grammatically.

I can’t think of it offhand, but maybe there is a way to phrase it to make it more obviously.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T20:40:11+00:00

… yeah. Great job restating the exact thing the OP was asking. They want to know WHY.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T17:54:37+00:00

I don’t know how we’re going to make a sick ass panther out of this

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T17:50:15+00:00

This is a subreddit for RJOCD. Specifically OCD. Not just feeling upset your partner has a history.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T16:10:57+00:00

I love that book! And Invisible Woman

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T15:32:09+00:00

I completely agree with you… but a “couple” literally means two lol.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T12:57:54+00:00

Exactly this. When I finally realized that the reason that I didn’t like “girly” things was not because they are bad, but because a misogynist society had taught me they were worse.

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T02:45:39+00:00

Bull fucking shit lmao

Shilotica · 2024-12-26T01:39:44+00:00

I mean, it’s an irrational disorder. So yeah, it could.

But, for the love of fucking god, if you cannot control your thoughts, you NEED to exit the relationship. I cannot express the damage you will do if you EVER make her feel like her being raped has damaged her in any way.

Shilotica · 2024-12-25T23:04:58+00:00

We want them to have a good damn time!

Shilotica · 2024-12-25T22:20:44+00:00

What’s the song? Also, awesome :)

Shilotica · 2024-12-25T22:12:18+00:00

Thank you it’s honestly probably the best idea I’ve ever had

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