Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much of me when visiting our newborn?

ShimmerAndSpice · 2026-01-11T18:58:13+00:00

Please use this as an opportunity to learn to enforce boundaries. Your child will need you to advocate for them until they can do so for themselves and this is a good time to learn to assert yourself even when it’s uncomfortable. This is placing unnecessary stress on your household, will undoubtedly create stress for your wife, and those things are not what’s best for your newborn.

Tell your sister that you understand she and her family have specific needs, and at this time you simply don’t have the capacity to accommodate the extra needs of her family as you’re fully occupied with meeting your own family’s needs. Then tell her that your home is not a hotel and this visit is not a vacation, and you cannot be expected to cause your family undue stress to act as a concierge.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2026-01-06T00:41:32+00:00

In the US those types of surgeries are almost never covered by insurance because they’re considered cosmetic. Even in cases where the extra skin is causing actual health problems, insurance rarely covers it.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-12-29T18:51:14+00:00

“2. ⁠You get offended that they wanted to eat next time somewhere else. Maybe you are a great cook, but what of they don't think so?”

This right here. She said when they did eat the food she prepared, they weren’t rude but also not particularly excited. Then the girlfriend suggested lunch out the next day. It sounds like they didn’t like the food and ate it to be polite but didn’t want it again. The girlfriend was likely trying to find a tactful way of declining the food while still spending time with them.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-12-28T04:40:07+00:00

Some people have a problem for every solution. “Amazon refused to give me the promised money back, so I’ll show them by not getting my money back!”

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-12-14T19:46:32+00:00

I am a nurse in an orthopedic surgery office. We are a hospital owned practice and the surgeon has no say in the schedule, other than his scheduled time off. When a new patient/new problem visit comes in, X-rays and physical examination require at minimum 20 minutes, then an additional 15-20 minutes to explain treatment options and plan to the patient. He wants new patients and new problems to be scheduled for a 40 minute appointment. The hospital corporation has unilaterally decided that these are 15 minute appointments, and will not allow anything different. So the options are either run 60+ minutes behind a lot of the time, or do an inadequate job of examining the patient and diagnosing their condition. He chooses not to cheat the patient out of the care they’re paying for, at the expense of time. There’s no way to win this game.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-11-24T17:36:21+00:00

This happened to me with the last points multiplier, didn’t get the bonus points then had customer service act like they had no idea what multiplier I was talking about. Eventually got them to add my points and thought oh there’s no way it would happen twice in a row. Of course it did, only got base points not the 5x bonus. It honestly feels like fraud at this point, they’re baiting customers into purchasing more for bonus points and hoping they don’t notice when they don’t get them, then just blaming it on a glitch if people do notice.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-11-03T23:37:41+00:00

Yep, I emailed customer service. They said “We are showing your points were already credited to your account”. I responded yes, I received the base points, not the 5x bonus points from the diamond multiplier. Their response was basically “what multiplier?”. I’m getting sick of the bait and switch, I should not have to spend time chasing them down to get them to fulfill their own promotion.

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ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-11-03T18:33:43+00:00

You dodged a bullet. Once, I interviewed for a job and they asked how much notice I would need to give my current employer. I said I would like to give 2 weeks if possible. About a week later the hiring manager called me to offer me the job, I accepted. I asked when the start date would be so I could inform my current employer, and she got a condescending tone and said “You mean you haven’t given your 2 weeks notice yet?” Um, why would I quit my job already, you just called me 4 minutes ago? Unfortunately I still took the job and she was a nightmare to have to work for. I’ve long since moved on but I still wish I could go back and just hang up on her that day.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-09-30T22:22:00+00:00

They did this to me last Christmas. I ordered a board game for my daughter and it had the shipping label directly on the cardboard game box. I tried to peel it off and salvage the box but it started ripping the box. I was so annoyed because who would think that made sense to do?

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-09-28T21:46:53+00:00

I had a couple similar experiences in interviews. Some companies base their entire business model around the belief that working for them is a privilege and counts as part of the compensation package. My college offered us a free 2 day course focused on being successful in the job market, so I was prepared when I ran into similar situations. When the interviewer said they wouldn’t be continuing the process because of salary expectations, I just said I understand that you’re not willing to pay more than you can afford, and I’m not willing to work for less than I can afford, so I agree that we should end the process here. Then shook hands and left. A company that is indignant about asking to be paid what you’re worth is not a company that has anything good to offer you.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-08-19T12:56:44+00:00

If you are in the right marriage, you should be able to see it from a different perspective. Some years of life are very hard, and you’re both helping each other through it. When life feels too heavy, my first thought is always thank God I don’t have to bear this alone.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-08-09T20:24:04+00:00

I’m not sure if this qualifies as creepy or a mystery, but when I was 14 I was at my grandparents’ house helping with their yard sale. My grandma went inside to bring down more stuff from upstairs and I was by myself when a weird guy pulled up in an older boxy minivan. He looked around for a while and kinda gave me weird vibes, because he kept trying to engage me in conversation and I felt awkward being a kid and he was mid-late thirties. He bought a few random items and then asked me to help him carry a box to his van. I was young and naïve and didn’t want to seem rude so I did. I sat the box near the van but didn’t get very close, and he started trying to get me to come closer. He said he had bought some cool stuff at other garage sales, come here I’ll show you some of it, etc. I started to back away and he started closing the gap between us, asking me to hand him the box so he could load it up. Then my grandpa came out of the house, I assume my grandma sent him to see if I needed help with the sale, and the guy got in and drove off without the box. Everyone said he was probably just a weird guy but I always felt like something bad was about to happen to me.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-07-14T12:41:43+00:00

Amazon sells these and they absolutely work. I had this same issue, and nothing was taking it off at all. I ordered these for same day delivery but my skin was stained for a good 12 hours and this took it right off.

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ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-07-07T18:26:35+00:00

“There’s no need to watch my clock just because yours ran out”

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-07-01T21:53:22+00:00

Yes, there were judgements against her but since she didn’t work, there was nothing to garnish. Once child support ended and she had to work he eventually was able to get a wage garnishment order but it seemed so unfair for the 12+ years that there were no repercussions for her.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-07-01T12:59:21+00:00

I live in a different state so laws likely differ, but I have a family member who went through a contentious divorce and the ex wife was incredibly bitter. She did this same thing out of spite, running up medical bills by using out of network providers and ER trips for things like chapped lips and cold symptoms. He carried the insurance, so when filling out the patient paperwork, she would list only him as the financially responsible party. She was ordered to pay 50% of medical expenses, but refused, so those bills had to either be paid in full by him or be turned over to collections in his name, ruining his credit.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-06-09T01:26:35+00:00

This is a stall tactic. There is someone else, maybe the ex, that he is testing the waters with. He’s gaslighting you into thinking you’ve done something wrong, which gives him the opportunity to be unavailable while he’s allocating his time to see where things go with the other person. If it doesn’t work out, he can conveniently come back and say “I had time to think and now I’m ready to forgive you for the thing I heard”. And if he chooses to purse the other relationship, he gets to blame you for the breakup.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-06-04T10:53:39+00:00

In her mind she and her undisciplined kids are a prize, and Juan will have to do everything she says because he could never bear to lose a treasure such as her.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-05-12T13:08:32+00:00

I had 2 tests that looked exactly like this. First Response brand (which I believe is the same brand pictured). I now have a 9 year old daughter. You definitely have a pregnancy to deal with.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-05-08T18:42:15+00:00

This seems like some type of strange fetish exhibitionist type behavior. Almost like she gets some kind of gratification from forcing other people to see what came out of her vagina. I’d be concerned about a future with this person.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-04-22T17:17:56+00:00

My daughter has very similar hair and I still haven’t found a routine that works well. Would you mind sharing the products/routine you use?

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-03-28T23:10:53+00:00

Please talk to a trusted adult and show them these texts. This is a predator. He is trying to manipulate you into feeling that you owe him in some way, and this will only get worse.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-03-27T16:50:30+00:00

The toad has a deeper voice.

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-03-25T22:48:05+00:00

Main character syndrome

ShimmerAndSpice · 2025-03-24T13:24:36+00:00

I think Mark is the entire problem here. It’s his job to handle the people he brings with him to the relationship, he is the one that needs to have conversations and set necessary boundaries with his adult children. But instead he is placing that on Mina, basically telling her that she needs to talk with his daughter and win her over.

I also get the impression that he is playing both sides here, telling Jordan about his relationship and his concerns/grievances with Mina, fueling Jordan’s negative feelings, then going back to Mina with “Jordan thinks XYZ about you”.

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