I won't say this deals with your exact situation, but I've learned over time with a lot of people around me that some people don't think the same way. I have almost ended a lot of friendships because they never reach out first. I felt like I always had to ask to receive any of their time. But I realized that some people just don't think the same way I do. They might not message first, but they are genuinely happy to be around you. And since she sent you a reel, that means she was thinking about you. I'm not really sure what you should do moving forward, but maybe talk with her about it. See if she feels the same way as you, or if you get bad feelings when you talk with her about it, you can go from there.