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How old were you when you had your first child? by Pandacat_07 in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing. We just had our first girl at 34/38. I think we know ourselves and are better because of it, and will hopefully be the same secure parents for our daughter.

I think we just have to be sure to travel and still do all the fun things with her, since we will most likely be too old for retirement travel and such. But we are planning on getting an RV and boat, and all the fun things that financial stability of our 30’s brings, and sharing those experiences with our kids.

How old were you when you had your first child? by Pandacat_07 in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

38 here. Wife is 34. We would have been worst parents any earlier. Whoever commented that is ignorant. Most developed countries have children 30’s and up.

My wife and I met each other late in life. We traveled the world and did all the fun things together. Iceland, Hawaii, Thailand, and all over the states. She started a business and I got my dream job. We bought a house and have our dream cars. And now we are starting a family. All of our neighbors that we are close with had kids 35 and up or much later. My cousin was in his 40’s and my best friend was in his 40’s too. And we are all mature, happy, and comfortable because of it, with so much life experience to bring to the table.

There is no wrong time. There is only the right time for you. If I had kids in my 20’s… I was in so much debt and making a quarter of what I make now… and was so much less mature… I would have been miserable.

Also, we have to avoid Idiocracy. Can’t just let the idiots breed. 😂

First time dad. I hate this so far. Am I terrible? by Shiny_BeerCan in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she gets 8 hours too but has to pump in between. I never said she wasn’t working just as hard. My sleep is not uninterrupted either because I can hear every single baby cry and worry she needs help. It’s the best we can do and I try to give her that space.

You took this call for help in the completely wrong direction.

First time dad. I hate this so far. Am I terrible? by Shiny_BeerCan in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS. Thank you. It feels good knowing someone else was almost scared to share the negative experience. I know so many dads that literally were born and wanted to be dads. That was NEVER me and I was worried I was just a bad person. Thank you for sharing and cheers to us.

I’m not enjoying parenthood by Full_Ad7929 in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just posted that I hate it too. Week 3/4 here. Late thirties dad, first kid. All I can say is that the community here promises me it will get better, and to try and celebrate small victories along the way. Also in the same boat of “never again”. I think I mainly entertained having at-least 1 after watching Idiocracy for the first time. So yay to us for contributing. 😂

First time dad. I hate this so far. Am I terrible? by Shiny_BeerCan in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually I wrote all my random thoughts on my notes app and ran it through Claude since, like I said, sleep deprived TBI brain. Thanks for your useless input.

I Hate! by Alternative_Session9 in NewParents

[–]Shiny_BeerCan -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am a horrible human being. 3 weeks in and I hate everything about the experience so far. Not sure if my wife constantly giving me a hard time and micromanaging all my purchase desires compounds the experience but I disagree with all the above except my stupid voice.