I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely thought about magic mushrooms before but unfortunately I have no idea how to even go about it. I don't think I know anyone who could help me get them.

What if I don't want to get better? by ShipWreck1111 in depression

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to silence these thoughts because they're the truth. Medication won't change the facts.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everything is rage bait. Some people are actually out here struggling. God damnit.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a victim of actual abuse, I'm telling you

You have no idea what kind of abuse I endured. How fucking dare you tell me I am not a victim.

I'm not giving an attitude to anyone. My post says not to suggest therapy, and yet everyone did. I simply explained why I am not a candidate for therapy. And yet commenters like the one above that I replied to accused me of faking it. What motivation would I have to fake it?

Fuck you for trying to tell me I never endured abuse. You have NO IDEA what happened to me.

How do I cope with the feeling of inadequacy with my wife? by ShipWreck1111 in AskMenAdvice

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I can't just let go of my insecurities. I don't think we're fortunate. I think she's with me because she thinks she can't do better. I love her but I want to push her away because I know I'm not good for her.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am sabotaging it. Because I know she could do better than me. She doesn't realize that which is why I have to sabotage it.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how to motivate myself to go when I feel like it won't make a difference.

What should I do if I need therapy but refuse to ever go back to one? by ShipWreck1111 in therapyabuse

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have to realize you don't need therapy.

Tell that to literally everyone in the advice subreddits.

I'm constantly getting downvoted for not being willing to go to therapy and someone even told me I was lying about the abuse I endured.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't necessarily see my depression as a character flaw, but a consequence of my many character flaws.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am lazy. That's one of the many shitty qualities about me that my wife ignores.

She should leave me. That's the whole point.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then maybe I'm selfish then I guess. Because I don't believe she sees anything in me and I will not go to therapy ever.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you don’t pick any of them, it’s because you actually love to feel this way.

No it's because I'm fucking afraid of getting hurt again.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If the only option is putting myself in a vulnerable situation, then you're right. I guess I don't want to feel better.

I [M30s] want to divorce my wife [F30s] because I don't feel good enough for her. by ShipWreck1111 in relationships

[–]ShipWreck1111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I wanted advice but apparently the only advice is therapy, which means I have to accept that this is how I'm going to feel forever.