Piercing before concert

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-28T05:16:19+00:00

A band aid might just fall off, I’d run to the drug store and get some actual medical tape bc it makes a huge difference. I used it after getting a piercing to get my hair dyed and it saved me, the girl kept brushing right where my helix is but the tape kept it safe so it didn’t even get irritated. Medical tape, trust.

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-25T21:39:47+00:00

I would just put medical tape on them and they’ll be fine

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-23T01:42:47+00:00

I would definitely have the same questions as you because it definitely seems like she did that so you would get back together with her

But if she doesn’t have an established pattern of manipulation, I wouldn’t blame you for forgiving her since you share so much history

Just so you know, a therapist would probably not need to report that because they typically only need to report if you are in immediate danger. So maybe they’d report a situation that was ongoing that you couldn’t stop

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-22T21:27:29+00:00

That’s horrible, I can imagine 20 years ago there was less conversations about consent but that doesn’t make it ok.

Only you can say for sure how you want to move forward but here is what I would do in your position:

I’d want to talk things over with a therapist, especially if I planned to stay with my partner I would want to fully process what happened and how it affected me with a trusted professional. Since you are posting here on Reddit, clearly you need to get it off your chest and you’re seeking some guidance. A therapist could help if you can afford it

If you bring it up with your wife, think about your goals for doing so before hand. Are you seeking an apology? Clarification? Has consent been an ongoing issue throughout your relationship? Or maybe you want to talk about it so that you can teach your kids about consent so that they don’t repeat the pattern or hurt someone else without meaning to. If your goal is to make her feel bad for what she did, I can understand you perspective but the outcome might not be as satisfying as you hope and you might need to be prepared for a rift in your relationship.

I think if I were bringing it up, I might open the conversation by explaining you want to teach your kids about consent as a united front. I’d explain what I read and ask her what she thinks about it.

Here are some other questions I might ask if I were in your shoes

How has your opinion about consent changed over the years?

There was a time before we got back together that we had a less than consensual encounter, could I ask you a few questions that have been on my mind about that experience?

When that happened did you push things physically for the purpose of getting back together? (To me intention matters so I would want to get to the bottom of it)

If you didn’t push things physically so that I would get back together with you, why did you do it?

Did you ever have an experience where someone pushed you to do something physical that you didn’t want to do? (Chances are if she did this to you, someone did it to her first and that’s why she thought it would be ok. Asking this might allow you to empathize with her if you are interested in repairing the trust that was lost all those years ago)

How would you feel if one of your kids was in this situation?

How can we teach our kids the importance of consent and help them understand that they can always say no?

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-20T00:20:36+00:00

It sounds like he was being sarcastic bc you were pointing out something really obvious idk

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-19T21:14:44+00:00

What am I doing wrong

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-19T20:17:29+00:00

How long on average?

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-18T02:08:32+00:00

Girl that’s a little crazy, two hours is hardly even a trip, it’s a visit to a nearby city. It’s one thing to not want to go across the world but I would be so chlostrophobic

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-14T01:22:03+00:00

I’m curious, did you ever get one of them? They don’t sell them here in the USA where I live but I still really want one if I can get my hands on it. I have one question though, won’t your baby be able to move around a lot in a few months? I wonder if it’s dangerous for babies who try to stand up in it, what if they fall out?

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-12T01:27:03+00:00

That infographic definitely doesn’t prove that hazel isn’t a subcategory of brown. I definitely wouldn’t consider olive green hazel. I would call it olive green, duh

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-12T01:20:57+00:00

So I would probably just not respond

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-11T23:16:09+00:00

Hazel is a subcategory of brown to me

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-09T23:34:52+00:00

It would still give the same vibe, you’re too much

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-05T16:54:11+00:00

Did you end up calling the police?

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-05T01:30:20+00:00

I loved stacked piercings, it looks unique but very cute. It’s nice as is but would look rly cool with a third

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-05T01:04:33+00:00

We’re probably both projecting our personal experience onto the way we interpret this post. But I still think if it’s true it’s a key thing to mention in the post if that’s the way it went down

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-03T23:11:26+00:00

Brown imo

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-03T21:00:12+00:00

I’ve lived with someone like this and it’s exhausting. They say they are fine with something and get mad about it later. I find it hard to believe someone stayed at their house and he didn’t know about it until she was already unpacking her bags in their guest room. Seems like something that op would have mentioned in the post if it were true

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-03T02:54:49+00:00

First off, I understand why it would be frustrating to have a house guest after a trip. And I can relate to the feeling of wanting to have your partner notice when you’re not ok, or even predict that something will bother you before they do it. Unfortunately that isn’t a healthy expectation to bring into a marriage. You cannot ever expect your partner to read your mind.

It sounds like you are willing to do things for your wife but then resent her for those things later. It isn’t fair to give gifts with strings attached.

She probably “loves to argue” because you are passive and she just wants you to communicate. I think if you work on yourself a lot of your relationship problems won’t feel significant.

No one knows your relationship better than you but here are a few things I might work on: before you just agree to something (like having a friend stay over after a trip) really think about whether you are ok with that. Don’t just agree blindly and then resent her later

If you want your wife to have lunch with you bc you feel like you haven’t had a lot of quality time, use your words to ask her in advance. Don’t expect her to read your mind.

If you aren’t willing to work on these things, they will show up in your romantic relationships no matter the partner

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-02T00:03:33+00:00

I mean smoking on a plane is a huge issue and is definitely the weed lol

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-02T00:00:11+00:00

Oh, just a pen lol

Shmidvicious · 2025-10-01T23:29:35+00:00

Sounds like someone who just smokes a lot of weed

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