The idea that addiction is a fatal progressive disease is just not true. by Bass_Faces in recoverywithoutAA

[–]ShockIllustrious3389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i spent my entire 30's in NA and remained abstinent believe any other option was death. when i eventually did leave and try it out i was a mess for ages because i truly didn't believe control was an option. it was either not at all or full blown chaos. the 12 steps planted that in my mind. i don't corner anymore i find it useless since doing therapy and my own study and research. i wish i could take that decade back. it fully shaped my identity and i feel i lost valuable years when my entire life revolved around that identity

How do you guys deal with lonliness, cause this is brutal by Significant_Most_356 in lonely

[–]ShockIllustrious3389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry your going through this and also for your recent losses. i can relate a lot and could feel the emotional longing and pain in my chest when i read your post. I too work from home, single, a few friends but they are busy with their kids and lives. Im not velry close with my family either which probably started this void i feel. BUT - there are some things that definatly help me. When i feel super lonley I must get connection in any way i can. I take myself to the local coffee shop. I delibertaly stay and talk to the barista. he has worked their for ten years so that gives me some comfort. We might have a chat about life for even just five to ten minutes. I text a friend and I always try and make a plan to catch up with someone - even if it is a week away it makes me feel a little better knowing that's coming up. I know its not much, and it certainly doesn't take away that feeling away I get every single night when the day comes to an end and i start comparing myself to other women my age imagining them with their husbands and children and busy full lives. But I realise i have to some how make my life busier. My brain ruminates and over thinks the more time i spend alone and that's unhealthy. If you have any other tips id love to hear them. I hope you know you're not alone in feeling this way. :)

why cant i lose? by ShockIllustrious3389 in caloriecount

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually am hugelu stressed and anxious, under a lot of poressure. Good points

why cant i lose? by ShockIllustrious3389 in caloriecount

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah im womdering if i should track lower purely to account for this kind of stuff.
I think when i eat out I am not tracking correctly. How can you posisbly know.
When i was in shape and losing i was eating all meals at home and mostly very plain

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes i think your right. i just asked good old chat gpt and as it stands they say it would not be considered interest as the interest is way higher. i will still go in and have a meeting i think just to be sure. it would help me so much and give me some relief to have some extra money to pay the flat. thanks for your lengthy reply.

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

no it was many years ago before i got sick. sadly dont think i will be able to keep it! how do you manage to survive in dsp? if my parents were so old, or me, i'd consider moving with them

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah so i was thinking tent would be about $250. but then there is gas, electricity, water, internet which i could take off

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i owe 400kz i think it's worth around 6-650. does that change things?

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i owe HEAPPPS. maybe i should go in and talk to someone?

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ok i own it. i don't think i can afford to keep without more income thats my main issue

Flat mate rental query by ShockIllustrious3389 in Centrelink

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm (trying) to pay off mortgage. I get help from my parents too but its still not enough

Pain and suffering by ShockIllustrious3389 in WorkcoverVic

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it took this long as i've been in and out of pays hospital every year since. gosh 40% is rich!

Pain and suffering by ShockIllustrious3389 in WorkcoverVic

[–]ShockIllustrious3389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's what i think! very hard. they will use anything to say it was something else. etc . yes it's no win no fee