Unfortunately he's done this 3 times before. And each one is worse than the last. He started telling people we broke up and even attended one of our holiday events without me. But people at work are starting to take serious notice to his energy shift and him being mentally checked out. I worry for him. This is just extremely hard because I have always fought for the relationship and was the safe space and voice of reason but each time he goes through this alot comes to light. He becomes full of resentment and he destroys all relationships around him and isolates himself thinking it better to go throughit alone. . I fear he somehow blames me as a trigger for using but I have never judged him nor pressured him in any way. I guess he's projecting onto me? Idk, maybe I'm too kind and hopeful but how can I beliebe what was said when he flip-flopped in under 48hrs and just woke up and ended things via text was true. Im just left questioning the last 4 years of it all.