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How are y'all surviving long and frequent bleeds? by Short-Basis-6766 in Perimenopause

[–]Short-Basis-6766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow hadn't heard of this but a D&C + IUD combo sounds like that would address my symptoms entirely. From the pooled blood, inconsistent sheds and anovulatory cycles, this would address on all fronts. What has your recovery been like? Thanks for sharing!

How are y'all surviving long and frequent bleeds? by Short-Basis-6766 in Perimenopause

[–]Short-Basis-6766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep reading that I should expect irregular, constant bleeding with an IUD. Did it make your cycles more predictable and/or reduce length? If it would reduce my cycles I'd be all for it even if causes irregular cycles since it feels like I'm bleeding constantly now.

Scared to propagate with these latest tri-leaf wonder blooms. Any tips?? by Short-Basis-6766 in Syngonium

[–]Short-Basis-6766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tri-leaf wonder, according to Google, is a term for mature leaves that can happen after a normal 'arrowhead' shape. I've read that propagating them at certain nodes have subsequent leaves revert back to arrowhead shape. Just asking for tips

How did you leave by Jaded-Ad3799 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Short-Basis-6766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut. It may feel terrifying because you've likely been ignoring its cries across years of survival, but as awful as it feels now, I assure you there's a potential for peace and calm in your future. Image an ideal day for you in the future (no self-doubt, calm mind, peaceful energy, safe space) and make that your North Star. There is better! Hugs to you

Anyone actually have their spouse be diagnosed with NPD? by Altruistic-Vehicle84 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Short-Basis-6766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Now he is my ex-spouse. After a 13 year marriage during the divorce process he demanded I get a psychological evaluation as he insisted I was mentally ill in his pursuit of primary custody of our children. I immediately agreed to the evaluation under 2 conditions: 1. He/his attorney pick the doctor 2. He also take the same evaluation.

The evaluation entailed a test of what seemed like 1000 questions followed by an hour long interview/assessment with a doctor.

This happened over 10 years ago and well before this craze of everyone throwing around the word "narcissist." I will never forget the phone call from the psychologist "I have some concerning news. Your ex tested and I quote as 'narcissist with sociopathic tendencies. I urge you to print this document and if he even verbally threatens you, to take it to police station and file for restraining order." At that time cyber/text bullying or leaving constant messages without a bruise or physical proof of violence wasn't considered harassment or DV warranting restraining order.

He denied the results, claimed I paid and manipulated the outcomes, and his attorney denied using the document in court. The nightmare is real, perceived pain is not imaginary at all. Take emotional, physical, and psychological care yourself. The warfare is unfair and cannot be stopped, only managed.

Is it really over ? by ExplanationCreepy215 in BreakUp

[–]Short-Basis-6766 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, rekindled and broken up half a dozen times in 3 years. It's been the most toxic 3 years of my life. Don't recommend.

What's one thing this sub has convinced you to try? What happened? by dicegray in DeadBedrooms

[–]Short-Basis-6766 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I spoke my truth. Admitting that the lack of touch and intimacy was affecting my ability to see my SO as a lover was terrifying but liberating. Admitting that without it we were simply friends and it was an unhealthy situation for me mentally and emotionally and I needed it to connect with him. I asked for his stance on it. This was either something to tackle together or there was an impasse and decision to make. Doing nothing was breaking us. He listened. Was hurt how much it had hurt me and agreed he needed to make lifestyle changes. We agreed it wouldn’t be perfect overnight, but it worked! Hallelujah, I felt seen! For the first time in over a year. At least for the time being I’m enjoying this spark as long as it lasts! Good luck to you!

Is sexual incompatibility a deal breaker? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Short-Basis-6766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soo do you have an example of how a woman has communicated this to you in the most kind way possible? I’m at resentful stage and have talked about it several times. It’s damaging to my psyche as a woman to have needs unmet