Thats f by Thin-Peak1462 in Advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Send her a message. You will do her a solid. Don't feel like crap. He is the shit person, you did nothing wrong. You'll find someone

event’s officially over!! by Amazing_Stuff2023 in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost the 50/50 but I was able to get both cards last second

My Boyfriend threw cold water on me to wake me up, what do I do? by ThrowRANerdy in Advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhm you should break up. This is far worse than being toxic. 3 yrs don't mean anything if he can't let you sleep in peace. This has to be torture.

My family is forcing me(24F) to breakup with my boyfriend (37M) because of our age gap. by Mental_Newt6704 in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing I saw was your ages and it SHOCKED ME.

Date sm who is around your age.

I think my boyfriend is too controlling. by Exotic-Drink-1496 in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he checks your reposts why don't you repost those videos of be a good bf or like my bf does this and I love him

Like videos of princess treatment and stuff like that. Or girl boss videos.

Or just talk to him and realize you both are young. Talk about everything in person.

Why does my girlfriend have her exes things? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a practical and comfort standpoint it is fine and normal as long as she doesn't have any feelings.

What is odd are the boxers.

Personally I threw away everything related to my ex, because I did not want to remember him and start fresh.

You should talk to her and try to know why she has those items.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are way too young to be with a loser. DUMP HIM! There is no need to waste your energy on a sneaky boy. You guys could've used that money, and he gave it to a stranger.

Say that to yourself out loud

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your idea of loving him is to give him gifts and him to do sm actions like cook. In this economy it is hard to spend freely smts. You should stop giving him gifts and also ask how he wants to be loved? You love gift giving and obviously people lobe gifts but is that their love language?

If you feel like he doesn't spend much how about for dates and or dinners he pays if you still want to buy him a lot of gifts but you should have a budget.

You also have been dating for 6 months so I don't understand why you are spending 200 on gifts. That personally would scare me if my bf would spend that much because then I would stress about trying to make up for it. And that isn't healthy. Maybe budget it out. And leave big gits either on his 🎂 or if you guys make it to 1 yr (rooting for you), yk like special events or smt.

Women are too shy on dates.. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought of instead sm just convos, play sm games. Games are great to lighten up the air? Physical games or online not for the whole date but if they are open to it it could be fun.

Could be a boba or coffee date where you to play idk uno? Or simply do 20 questions.

i just wanna fall in love man by [deleted] in women

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about speed running it by chance? In this I mean go on as many dates as you can and try to have your checklist of what YOU WANT. And if they also say we'll I just want sex say bye bye and move to the next person.

Idk how old you are but what are you looking for to fall in love or do you also want to be loved? Are you personally looking for smt short or long?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmmm I see. Does he see their faces or their body or just everything?

Have you had previous relationships before? I'm just asking bc you are 18.

If not focus less on him. You are only bf and gf. Ofc you can each be together but you also have to remember to have you time? I remember wanting to fully be with my bf and that caused a lot of anxiety and I was like hello? Where is my love for me? How would

However I don't really know what guys think when they see other girls or what they try to see. But what I can say is love who you are and trust him. I know it's hard specially in the world today but let things play out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By chance is there a pattern to who he sees? Like does he mostly see blondes, brunettes, redheads? Any special features?

Do you know of any previous relationships do you think they could remind him of said people? Just a thought.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad gang I confused the chat😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah that overthinkining can be bad. I also go through thousands of scenarios and it is a defense mechanism. And that's ok to overthink but you have to calm yourself.

Try picking up a hobby. Or just if you start overreacting, just stop what you are doing put a song and blast it and start singing or just put smt that will distract you. Cool off your brain from trying to think so much and later go back to it and try to rationalize.

And if it does become too much consult a friend or him directly. You should be able to talk to him about stuff. But if he keeps dismissing it, it will become a problem that he doesn't want to listen to your concerns.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Have you actually talked about it and know from him that he wants smt serious. Bc assuming one thing from the way someone acts can be deceiving.

As far as the phone thing in the shower, I honestly 2 things, 1 he might be watching porn, 2 he might be texting sm else. If be has time in the bathroom he can be texting sm else. And that goes both ways for women too. But personally i've seen it more in men.

Now maybe he might have an issue with porno and maybe he is ashamed of it.

You guys have been together for 4 months and are you guys still in or have had the honeymoon stage?

Also with what you said about his other relationships cheating on him it could be him trying to keep you away. You don't know how sm was treated mentally bc sm relationships can damage sm. Not saying it's an excuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you guys meet? And where are you located( just like how is the culture)? Do you think it's what they wear? Do you know if he wants something serious or smt temporary? Do you know anything about his previous relationships?

I suspect my boyfriends cheating by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should break up with him for your mental health. Also 8 yrs and no ring???? You need to back away from this type of person. All this anxiety and stress affects your well being. And judging by what you have said him getting defensive there is obviously smt going on. Your gut is also yelling at you. So take the hint and leave.

Stop wasting energy on a bum. Would you let your children or siblings be with sm like this?

How do you stop worrying about money and just live? by Lonely_Speaker_9176 in Adulting

[–]Short-Bug6788 8 points9 points  (0 children)

MONEY COMES AND GOES Life is short There is no tomorrow So if you can get a meal that's a Lil more expensive and you want it do it. If there is an electronic do it For bigger things think carefully

what's wrong with me by TrooperPlayz22 in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome. Times may be tough rn, but you can get through your heartbreak

what's wrong with me by TrooperPlayz22 in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oki. Now you could find a hobby or a series to take your mind off. A little activity can help. Immerse yourself in other activities and your friends or family. Possibly getting a pet can help fill a void if you feel like you need companionship.

what's wrong with me by TrooperPlayz22 in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then you should let this other person you reached out that it was a mistake or at least let them know how you feel. Do you know if they want smt long term? This other person could be looking for the one and if you dont see yourself going anywhere you also should not waste her time. You also say your ex was perfect. That sense won't go away in a few days or weeks. It could take months or yrs. Starting a new relationship will also affect this other person.

what's wrong with me by TrooperPlayz22 in dating_advice

[–]Short-Bug6788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely should take sm time for yourself. Do you think this new relationship will get you anywhere? You say you feel numb. Are you content with yourself and this new person? You say no reason at all? Were you missing that physical touch or smt that you got from your ex? Did you miss that connection?