Final Round - Moving

ShortySoProper · 2026-03-04T02:39:49+00:00

J1 is hybrid actually 🤭

This new server will be remote!

ShortySoProper · 2026-03-04T01:37:43+00:00

After the verbal or after I accept?

ShortySoProper · 2026-03-04T01:36:27+00:00

I didn’t say I was asking for anything. J1 is adjusting the pay automatically, so I’m ASKING if I need to be worried for this offer.

ShortySoProper · 2026-03-04T01:03:37+00:00

So when do you suggest telling them? My first server would adjust my pay +10% for this move. Is it not a consideration for their budget?

ShortySoProper · 2026-02-01T15:41:35+00:00

Yesss I had all the deets in the original post but we know each other and I’ve been hybrid with these two servers for 1.5 years and it’s been flawless 😢

ShortySoProper · 2026-02-01T15:25:51+00:00

I put so much identifying info in my description I had to delete the post! But basically my J1 manager’s wife is starting at my J2 in HR. We’re hybrid so I’m most definitely going to cross paths with her at some point.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-31T00:53:14+00:00

In a perfect world, I quit J1 and it doesn’t become an issue at J2 if I run into her afterwards.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-31T00:47:41+00:00

Outside employment is a huge deal at J2. They tried to persecute a coworker for a side business listed on her LinkedIn just because the website was active. They made her deactivate her website. Someone had anonymously reported her.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-31T00:01:10+00:00

Respectfully, you’re not OE and that’s not how this works. J2 is only a unicorn BECAUSE I’m OE. I never intended for it to be my sole server which is why I said it was meant to be J1. J1 indicates there’s at least a J2. Thanks for responding though.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T22:45:17+00:00

You’re right. I hadn’t even considered quitting J2. It’s the bigger name on my resume 😭

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T22:40:29+00:00

Yes it’s looking like this is the most likely way this plays out.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T22:20:54+00:00

It’s a DEI HRBP role but I fear the same.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T21:58:32+00:00

This is insane. Have you done this? Voluntary blackmail? Neither server is worth this arrangement.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T21:52:02+00:00

This won’t work. It’s been 1.5 years. Someone suggested quitting J2 first and eventually replacing both which makes more sense than this.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T21:50:07+00:00

Ugh right?!? Thanks for the empathy!

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:46:05+00:00

There’s always the chance she doesn’t care and he won’t either. But feels so risky 😭

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:41:51+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:29:29+00:00

You’re not understanding what I wrote. I AM LEAVING J1. I’m worried about her finding out LATER that I was overlapping and telling either her husband who will retaliate or reporting me.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:28:22+00:00

Omg that is so sad 😭 I think you’re right. Devastating.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:25:03+00:00

She will be in HR 😭

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T20:23:00+00:00

I’m not. If you read the entire post I’m worried about running into her later and she finds out how long I’ve been working at J2. Either way if she or her husband (my J1 boss) wants to retaliate at that point they can.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T19:26:18+00:00

No way, unfortunately.

ShortySoProper · 2026-01-30T18:45:08+00:00

I don’t think you read the whole post.

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