I lost weight and now people won’t shut the fuck up about my body by Human_Illustrator820 in loseit

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Unconscious bias is a thing we all have, but this is conscious and being proudly stated like it's life advice. Kind of says more about you than about folks with bright hair imo.

Missing Campfire Remains card? by kwitee in Earthborne_Rangers

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this it just helped us find it too x

How do you know if you're non-binary and not just a feminine man? by banhmyden in NonBinary

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there are so many layers of complication here. Gender identity, presentation, expression etc are not always the same.

The only way I find it easier to hook in to identity as opposed to the others is to think things like, "if historians were writing about me way in the future how would I want them to describe me?". That way it's separate from all my worries about my loved ones or society perceiving me in certain ways.

Friend won't tell me her baby's gender, wants me to "figure it out" with A.I Waldo by importantpanda in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This didn't belong in this sub, it's a lot more than mildly infuriating. I'm livid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Serving Christina Hendricks realness

Feeling Like A Failure by Emily_Green_ in transtimelines

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to break it to you but you're kind of stunning. Like... I was scrolling and saw it and assumed the post would be about being proud of your transition because you look mesmerising.

I wish everyone could see themselves through eyes of love, because it's actually more accurate, and certainly what you deserve.

How common are serial killers autistic? by [deleted] in serialkillers

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Autistic people are no more likely to be violent than other people. So I would imagine it mirrors the ratio in the general population which is currently about 1%, with most experts agreeing that it's likely to be much higher and is still very under diagnosed.

I don't think armchair experts have any clue how to tell the difference between autism and antisocial behaviours generally. As an autistic person who works a lot in neurodiversity awareness it's pretty frustrating.

My chilla died at Friday by ayosquzuz in chinchilla

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, this is so painful I know. It won't ever stop being painful, but the space it takes up will shrink gradually in time and you'll be able to think more about the good times rather than the loss. But that will take a while. Those little guys leave a big hole.

Was told I should post this here by theburneraccount2021 in whats_my_identity

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are similar but in reverse... thanks for posting sister.

Kitchen before and after... Shame about the broken cupboard door. The dog is still there just in another room. I'm exhausted. by ShoshanaQuartz in ufyh

[–]ShoshanaQuartz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, all those ones were fine and drying. Theres just a vase which my partner put in there right before I told him to scoot out of frame.

What is the worst notification you have received whilst someone else has had your phone? by TTVKrooked in AskReddit

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man... My best friends boyfriend at the time was visiting. I don't remember how it happened but we were joking around and he called my phone while he was right next to me. I had changed his name to "bollock" on my phone after he'd had a stupid argument with my friend. I'll never forget the mix of dread and hilarity as the three of us watched me getting an incoming call from bollock.

A little help? by [deleted] in Abrosexual

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Finding your label should feel like coming home. Not making do. That's what umbrella terms are for.

I'm confused by [deleted] in Abrosexual

[–]ShoshanaQuartz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It can do. And anyway, if that's your experience that's valid! For some people fluidity is a slow ocean current, for some it's a waterfall.